What's your relationship with your mom?

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Lithuophile

Lithuophile

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I never got along with either of my parents. There were a lot of issues stemming from their egos and their unwillingness to be proper parents. I ended up finding actual mother/father figures after I left home, and its going to take some more time before I'm able to forgive them. I really do want to forgive them, I'm just not capable yet.

I'm at a point in life where I don't think I missed out on much though. I am deeply indebted to everyone at my parish who bothered to help me when I needed it most, especially my spiritual father and my godparents, who deserve tremendous recognition for their sacrifices. Ultimately, God is to thank for keeping a roof over my head, money in my pocket, and warm meals on the table.
 
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Ever hear the saying every gay boy's best friend is his mother? Yeah, that's pretty much us. We've always been extremely close. She's in hospice now and I don't know how I am going to cope with losing her.
 
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I don't. My mother decided it was better to stay and back up the man who beat her oldest child(me) molested my sister and was a terrible person overall.

I met my real father when I was 21, picking him up at the airport when he was finally released from prison's(career criminal, and terrible father) in my military garb.

Talked to him on the ride for 2 hours realized what he was and I wasn't about that. Left and moved on living my best life without them anywhere near my family

You don't have to forgive them. The idea that God will forgive you for everything is asinine. He didn't forgive Satan so why would I feel the need to forgive someone who is evil like Satan? Nope.
 
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Mesh Gear Fox said:
Ever hear the saying every gay boy's best friend is his mother? Yeah, that's pretty much us. We've always been extremely close. She's in hospice now and I don't know how I am going to cope with losing her.
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You cope with allowing her to go home. I work in end of life care. That's all they want man, for you to visit, and let them go home.
I understand that's the hardest part. When you accept it, because they already have, they'll thank you for it. They know there's not any getting better.

Your best option fren, is to help them be comfortable at the end of their life and show that you care.

One thing I do with residents is ask them about their life, you can learn a lot and it makes them more comfortable. Chin up friend
 
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Mesh Gear Fox said:
Ever hear the saying every gay boy's best friend is his mother? Yeah, that's pretty much us. We've always been extremely close. She's in hospice now and I don't know how I am going to cope with losing her.
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You don't gotta be gay to love your mom or be close to her.
I was until she decided the abuser/molester was a better option than her kids
 
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Lithuophile said:
Even if God forgave satan, satan would still slap His hand away. I don't know if my parents will ever own up to their failings, but I don't wanna carry this kind of vitriol with me to the grave
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It's okay to hate something. But you can't let in control your life.
Remember, Jesus flipped the tables on money changers.

You can flip them too. Don't let the hate consume you young Skywalker. Keep it, harness it, and don't let it control you or hurt others. Use that vitriol to vow to never be like them and remind yourself as to what came of it. You're in control.
 
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Lithuophile said:
He expelled the usurers out of love. Love of honor and of his Father. I have enough motivation not to end up like my parents; I hope to love my future kids as Christ loved his flock.
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Then you would what? Expel them out of love. Remove them from your life and mind. Expel them, be the best you can be without them
 
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Lithuophile said:
At this point, pray for them and pray for myself. I've already expelled them from my life and I'm happiest when I don't think about them. But I'm going to see them again after I die, and I'd rather not enter eternity with unresolved grudges and hatred on my back.
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If they are as bad as you say, you won't see them in heaven.
 
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