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- Feb 11, 2023
** potential rape trigger warning **
So I (23 f) have just gotten out of a long relationship a couple months ago and have started dating again. Most dates have been through meeting people through friends but I’ve started using hinge. and up until recently its been very pleasant.
I matched with a guy (30) and was texting for a while on hinge and then whatsapp. he seemed very kind and very interesting. he was a dj who had been living away from home for a while and was home for christmas. we got along well. we sexted on one occasion one evening and then kept texting for days afterwards in a friendly way. One morning he texted me asking to go for coffee as he was near where i was at the time. I went to meet him for coffee and we got a take away coffee and walked through the city for a while. he kept walking towards and through weird empty alleyways and building cites which i would comment saying ‘where are we?!’. and i would begin walking toward the busy roads again (we were in a capital city) eventually we ended up in a secluded lane way where he started kissing me quite aggressively. he then pulled down my tights and his trousers and tried to have sex with me, which i said i didnt want to. he then asked me to give him a blowjob which i said no to. i pulled up my tights and then went to give him a kiss. he then began kissing me very aggressively again and pulled down my tights again and proceeded to have sex with me. i said i wasnt on birth control and could he please stop but he didnt. he then turned me around and tried to do anal. i was crying in pain and he stopped and continued vaginally. he then pulled out and came on the ground.
afterwards he said he had to go buy a pair of leather trousers and meet his brother and left me. at the time i was clearly and visibly shaken about what happened. i asked him when his last std test was and asked is he a sex addict.lol. i texted him afterwards asking if he got the trousers and tried texting him normally because i felt so shaken. i was trying to make the situation feel more normal. i noticed he had unmatched with me on hinge that day. he then texted me to meet up again that week, which i didnt respond to. about 2/3 days later he had blocked my number.. i dont even think i had his real name.
i did a deep dive into trying to find his insta based on venues he dj’d in, and ended up finding it. all his photos are him naked or wearing a jock strap in all in a balaclava.. not one with his face.it was all dark and extremely sexual and completely different to his hinge photos or impression he had given on whatsapp ..
the whole thing is so weird and i cant stop thinking about it.
what do you guys make of it all?
(im not so sensitive so you can be honest)
edit : i want to add that i texted him only 2 messages after the incident, about an hour afterwards asking him if he bought the trousers, which he replied to normally also. after i didnt reply to his last message, after 2 days he then blocked me. i have no way of contacting him. i do not know his real name and he lives in a country 9000km away.
So I (23 f) have just gotten out of a long relationship a couple months ago and have started dating again. Most dates have been through meeting people through friends but I’ve started using hinge. and up until recently its been very pleasant.
I matched with a guy (30) and was texting for a while on hinge and then whatsapp. he seemed very kind and very interesting. he was a dj who had been living away from home for a while and was home for christmas. we got along well. we sexted on one occasion one evening and then kept texting for days afterwards in a friendly way. One morning he texted me asking to go for coffee as he was near where i was at the time. I went to meet him for coffee and we got a take away coffee and walked through the city for a while. he kept walking towards and through weird empty alleyways and building cites which i would comment saying ‘where are we?!’. and i would begin walking toward the busy roads again (we were in a capital city) eventually we ended up in a secluded lane way where he started kissing me quite aggressively. he then pulled down my tights and his trousers and tried to have sex with me, which i said i didnt want to. he then asked me to give him a blowjob which i said no to. i pulled up my tights and then went to give him a kiss. he then began kissing me very aggressively again and pulled down my tights again and proceeded to have sex with me. i said i wasnt on birth control and could he please stop but he didnt. he then turned me around and tried to do anal. i was crying in pain and he stopped and continued vaginally. he then pulled out and came on the ground.
afterwards he said he had to go buy a pair of leather trousers and meet his brother and left me. at the time i was clearly and visibly shaken about what happened. i asked him when his last std test was and asked is he a sex addict.lol. i texted him afterwards asking if he got the trousers and tried texting him normally because i felt so shaken. i was trying to make the situation feel more normal. i noticed he had unmatched with me on hinge that day. he then texted me to meet up again that week, which i didnt respond to. about 2/3 days later he had blocked my number.. i dont even think i had his real name.
i did a deep dive into trying to find his insta based on venues he dj’d in, and ended up finding it. all his photos are him naked or wearing a jock strap in all in a balaclava.. not one with his face.it was all dark and extremely sexual and completely different to his hinge photos or impression he had given on whatsapp ..
the whole thing is so weird and i cant stop thinking about it.
what do you guys make of it all?
(im not so sensitive so you can be honest)
edit : i want to add that i texted him only 2 messages after the incident, about an hour afterwards asking him if he bought the trousers, which he replied to normally also. after i didnt reply to his last message, after 2 days he then blocked me. i have no way of contacting him. i do not know his real name and he lives in a country 9000km away.
