Syikeblade
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This tranny is debating dumping a non-binary man for some of his effeminate behaviors and interests.
It's interesting how these effeminate gays think that anything can be a woman, but the minute a man is anything but masculine he's no longer male but something else. Granted I'm sure that's a big reason these guys troon out.
I do enjoy when they say the quiet parts out loud about their lifestyle.
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Any girls here have experience dating a non-binary guy? (self.StraightTransGirls)
submitted 1 day ago by robotic-rambling
I just started seeing a guy this past couple of weeks, and he's been absolutely incredible. I already knew him through a friend, but then we matched on Hinge.
He put "non-nibinay man" for the gender in his profile, and I think he uses he/they pronouns. He's also bisexual, and in general, I like dating people in the queer community because I'm bi, and it's just been an important thing for me.
I actually really like his queerness. He paints his nails, and has a lot of friends, and a lot of them are women. I've felt safe with him from the moment I met him.
And he's incredibly handsome, really smart, successful, reads a lot, we have similar upbringings, and we share the same values.
He keeps saying he's falling for me and wants to move things really fast. He's talking about taking me to his hometown to meet all his friends and family. And he wants to see me all the time. And I really like him a lot.
I've asked him a couple of times about his non-binary identity. At first, I was a bit confused by it because he's quite handsome and masculine. His nails were painted black, but that just felt more alternative to me than anything else. And when I asked the first time, it seemed like he was just kind of agender, like he said he he just didn't have an intense feeling of identity with masculinity.
And then I asked him a little bit more later, and he said some more. He said he would like to have boobs in some outfits, but more in a transhumanist kind of way, and not permanently, so he didn't think he would ever do anything about it, unless technology got crazy and we could like swap back and forth between genders. So then I got more of a genderfluid vibe maybe. I asked him what kind of outfits he was talking about and he said "like in vests" lol
After the second conversation my heart kind of sank a little bit, because I'm like 90% straight, and I like him as a man. Like I'm really attracted to him through this masculine lens I've always seen him through I guess. And the thought of him trying to be more feminine really scares me.
I'm not really sure what to do. I'm worried about setting him back on his journey a lot by pushing him to be more masculine than he would want to be outside the context of me.
But I'm also kind of hoping that I can just take what he is saying at face value. Like maybe he's just a guy who isn't insecure about his masculinity, and he's a little bit queer. Has anyone dated someone in a similar situation?
submitted 1 day ago by robotic-rambling
I just started seeing a guy this past couple of weeks, and he's been absolutely incredible. I already knew him through a friend, but then we matched on Hinge.
He put "non-nibinay man" for the gender in his profile, and I think he uses he/they pronouns. He's also bisexual, and in general, I like dating people in the queer community because I'm bi, and it's just been an important thing for me.
I actually really like his queerness. He paints his nails, and has a lot of friends, and a lot of them are women. I've felt safe with him from the moment I met him.
And he's incredibly handsome, really smart, successful, reads a lot, we have similar upbringings, and we share the same values.
He keeps saying he's falling for me and wants to move things really fast. He's talking about taking me to his hometown to meet all his friends and family. And he wants to see me all the time. And I really like him a lot.
I've asked him a couple of times about his non-binary identity. At first, I was a bit confused by it because he's quite handsome and masculine. His nails were painted black, but that just felt more alternative to me than anything else. And when I asked the first time, it seemed like he was just kind of agender, like he said he he just didn't have an intense feeling of identity with masculinity.
And then I asked him a little bit more later, and he said some more. He said he would like to have boobs in some outfits, but more in a transhumanist kind of way, and not permanently, so he didn't think he would ever do anything about it, unless technology got crazy and we could like swap back and forth between genders. So then I got more of a genderfluid vibe maybe. I asked him what kind of outfits he was talking about and he said "like in vests" lol
After the second conversation my heart kind of sank a little bit, because I'm like 90% straight, and I like him as a man. Like I'm really attracted to him through this masculine lens I've always seen him through I guess. And the thought of him trying to be more feminine really scares me.
I'm not really sure what to do. I'm worried about setting him back on his journey a lot by pushing him to be more masculine than he would want to be outside the context of me.
But I'm also kind of hoping that I can just take what he is saying at face value. Like maybe he's just a guy who isn't insecure about his masculinity, and he's a little bit queer. Has anyone dated someone in a similar situation?
It's interesting how these effeminate gays think that anything can be a woman, but the minute a man is anything but masculine he's no longer male but something else. Granted I'm sure that's a big reason these guys troon out.
enbostan 1 point 14 hours ago
He's most probably looking for a secure relationship where he could explore her feminine side more fteely and see if that would provide a safespace for his inevitable transition eventually.
[–]MinervaTae 1 point 16 hours ago
He 90% sounds like he is not a match.
[–]sugarburg 2 points 17 hours ago
i’m liking one, so…
[–]laura_lumi 4 points 18 hours ago
Idk, i was actually identifying a lot until the very end when you said he would want to have breasts or something. My husband is not really non-binary, but he's also bi and a little fruity, but he has like zero doubts about his masculinity. I only got serious and moved in with him when i was sure that he wouldn't want to transition or something down the line, I'm into men and only men.
[–]robotic-rambling 1 point 16 hours ago
Yeah, in general he just gives me that kind of bi vibe with a little bit of fruitiness, but when he said that, I wasn’t as sure.
He said it was only in like a trans humanist way though so idk.
EnigmaticDevice 13 points 23 hours ago
I went out on a date with an enby once after chatting on the apps for a while. they were cute when presenting more masculine leaning, and the flirtation was great. but when they showed me pics of how they looked when leaning more femme or androgynous it really killed my interest, and I didn't want to be in a dynamic where I would pressure my partner to not freely express themselves the way they wanted to. I realized that I really much prefer dating men that prefer to present more typically masculine, and there's nothing wrong with that
if you don't mind dating someone with a more genderfuck take on things then go for it, I think there can definitely be non-binary men who are comfortable in their masculinity while also not feeling restricted by patriarchal gender restrictions on expression or style. but if it makes you feel self conscious as a straight woman, or you just don't like the idea of him presenting femininely when he's with you, then best move on and accept that sometimes you just aren't compatible with someone and nobody is at fault
[–]robotic-rambling 3 points 23 hours ago
Oh gosh, I think I do prefer men who prefer to present masculinely. Which scares me because I really like this guy and I don’t want to break his heart.
[–]FantasticCap7619 12 points 23 hours ago
How can someone be nonebinary and then also a man? Tbh I don’t deal with that, I want a man that also wants to be a man, I’m not attracted to anything other than that.
[–]Illustrious_Pen_5711 4 points 23 hours ago
Nonbinary doesn’t mean a third gender or exactly 50/50, it just means anything outside of strict 100% male or female
Lots of people identify as non-binary but still feel much closer to male or female (enough that adding a gender after nonbinary makes sense for them), some feel directly in the middle or a different thing altogether but not all
[–]DeepEtcher 3 points 20 hours ago
I'm surprised how conservative some of the trans girls in here are, I understand them having preferences for who they want to date, but going as far as denying the whole gender spectrum? There's more to just man and woman and you'd think trans women would be the first to understand it, I guess I'm wrong
[–]FantasticCap7619 -4 points 23 hours ago
For me they are gay men or lesbians who wanna make their lives more interesting and have pink hair. Not for me! Sorry.
[–]Vaughn_Solair 0 points 2 hours ago
Wow this is a wild thing to say, and actively works against your own rights. I don’t understand how you can’t see that your discomfort associated with not representing the side of the binary that you were comfortable with until transitioning, cannot apply to other people who are not on the a binary spectrum, and them being comfortable with that.
Really wild shit from trans women who spend way to much time trying to fit in with a society that not only doesn’t want them, but it not knowing what it wants itself.
He's most probably looking for a secure relationship where he could explore her feminine side more fteely and see if that would provide a safespace for his inevitable transition eventually.
[–]MinervaTae 1 point 16 hours ago
He 90% sounds like he is not a match.
[–]sugarburg 2 points 17 hours ago
i’m liking one, so…
[–]laura_lumi 4 points 18 hours ago
Idk, i was actually identifying a lot until the very end when you said he would want to have breasts or something. My husband is not really non-binary, but he's also bi and a little fruity, but he has like zero doubts about his masculinity. I only got serious and moved in with him when i was sure that he wouldn't want to transition or something down the line, I'm into men and only men.
[–]robotic-rambling 1 point 16 hours ago
Yeah, in general he just gives me that kind of bi vibe with a little bit of fruitiness, but when he said that, I wasn’t as sure.
He said it was only in like a trans humanist way though so idk.
EnigmaticDevice 13 points 23 hours ago
I went out on a date with an enby once after chatting on the apps for a while. they were cute when presenting more masculine leaning, and the flirtation was great. but when they showed me pics of how they looked when leaning more femme or androgynous it really killed my interest, and I didn't want to be in a dynamic where I would pressure my partner to not freely express themselves the way they wanted to. I realized that I really much prefer dating men that prefer to present more typically masculine, and there's nothing wrong with that
if you don't mind dating someone with a more genderfuck take on things then go for it, I think there can definitely be non-binary men who are comfortable in their masculinity while also not feeling restricted by patriarchal gender restrictions on expression or style. but if it makes you feel self conscious as a straight woman, or you just don't like the idea of him presenting femininely when he's with you, then best move on and accept that sometimes you just aren't compatible with someone and nobody is at fault
[–]robotic-rambling 3 points 23 hours ago
Oh gosh, I think I do prefer men who prefer to present masculinely. Which scares me because I really like this guy and I don’t want to break his heart.
[–]FantasticCap7619 12 points 23 hours ago
How can someone be nonebinary and then also a man? Tbh I don’t deal with that, I want a man that also wants to be a man, I’m not attracted to anything other than that.
[–]Illustrious_Pen_5711 4 points 23 hours ago
Nonbinary doesn’t mean a third gender or exactly 50/50, it just means anything outside of strict 100% male or female
Lots of people identify as non-binary but still feel much closer to male or female (enough that adding a gender after nonbinary makes sense for them), some feel directly in the middle or a different thing altogether but not all[–]DeepEtcher 3 points 20 hours ago
I'm surprised how conservative some of the trans girls in here are, I understand them having preferences for who they want to date, but going as far as denying the whole gender spectrum? There's more to just man and woman and you'd think trans women would be the first to understand it, I guess I'm wrong
[–]FantasticCap7619 -4 points 23 hours ago
For me they are gay men or lesbians who wanna make their lives more interesting and have pink hair. Not for me! Sorry.
[–]Vaughn_Solair 0 points 2 hours ago
Wow this is a wild thing to say, and actively works against your own rights. I don’t understand how you can’t see that your discomfort associated with not representing the side of the binary that you were comfortable with until transitioning, cannot apply to other people who are not on the a binary spectrum, and them being comfortable with that.
Really wild shit from trans women who spend way to much time trying to fit in with a society that not only doesn’t want them, but it not knowing what it wants itself.
I do enjoy when they say the quiet parts out loud about their lifestyle.
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I was so pissed and taken back, but I didn’t get upset like he wanted me to. I played surprised like who are you talking to. Anyway he wanted to talk to me about upt which is the hours we get off work because I was using too many I suppose. When he left I had a fit at my station I freaking hate this little hobbit