r/ftm
•Posted by
u/oof-whynot
21 hours ago
Porn made me cry
Like I said in the title, looking at porn centered around ftm guys for the first time made me cry, and I don't know exactly what to think about it. I was wondering if maybe anyone here ever had a similar experience..
For more context: I don't usually watch 18+ content, except for when I was a bit curious in the past. I have looked at content that centered women, trans and cis.
I never thought about looking at specifically ftm 18+ content, until like two days ago when it was the first thing that popped up when I typed "ftm" in the Reddit search bar. It was of a guy I follow on tiktok, he makes is own content. I clicked on his Reddit profile and looked through some of his nsfw posts/videos, and just started crying. I didn't feel sad, just very emotional (not turned on, I'm not really attracted to men). He and other people in his posts are on T + post top + no bottom surgery. He still looked like a man even with having some "female" anatomy (not really female, he has a tdick). He was completely attractive/beautiful naked and masculine, and a trans man.. I felt as if seeing that put my own body in a completely new light. I've been feeling uninterested in sex in relation to my body lately (to the point I started to think I was on the aroace spectrum), looking at him makes me feel like there's hope for me.
I've been questioning myself about my identity for quite some time (with help from a therapist). I consider myself broadly as transmasc, and thought hormones weren't really really for me (I gave myself the option to revisit the idea when id be 25yo). I recently asked my friends to use he/him in addition to they/them when referring to me, and I really love it, I even had a friend put me in the category of a man and I liked that a lot. I don't want to identify as a man because the idea of my mom calling me her son feels really weird and not really good.
I didn't think I wanted to go in a "manlier" path because when I look at regular men (like with big bears, cis and trans) I don't relate to them a lot. But I felt so emotional when looking at this guy naked (and others, I looked at other content), it feels maybe like I saw myself, my type of body in a way that could be comfortable? Maybe it was just validation that I truly see trans guys as guys. Maybe it means more. We'll see