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Will I always be a virgin? Sex Advice Requested - 18+ ONLY (self.gaytransguys)
submitted 5 days ago by Automatic-Ad4014
All of my friends have had sex and I am yet to have it. I have gone out with several guys but when I tell them that i’m trans (or in the one case they knew beforehand they told me they only went out with me because I would give them free dinner) they reject me and stop wanting to hang out with me. I am autistic and don’t know a lot of social skills, but the only reason I have been given by 3 of these guys is that “i’m not a real boy”. the other 2 ghosted me and so i’m taking the advice as i’m given it. I don’t like comparing myself but also highschool/college is tough and ppl like to judge me.
I hate hating my body and i’m not very confident in myself but I also just want someone to love me or date me, or to even just lose my v card at all. I just want any sort of hope that I could have any sort of sex because I hear from my older transmasc friends that sex is terrible and it’s not fun or men will fetishize me or that i’ll get killed and tbh that’s not very helpful
I am in school with a whole lot of queer people, although only know two other gay trans men, both being asexual, so they don’t seem to have this problem. so I have no one else to talk to and aforementioned older transmasc friend just moved to college out of state. Sorry to kinda vent, but I just want to know if there is any hope for the sex lives or just romantic lives of trans men. thanks
submitted 5 days ago by Automatic-Ad4014
All of my friends have had sex and I am yet to have it. I have gone out with several guys but when I tell them that i’m trans (or in the one case they knew beforehand they told me they only went out with me because I would give them free dinner) they reject me and stop wanting to hang out with me. I am autistic and don’t know a lot of social skills, but the only reason I have been given by 3 of these guys is that “i’m not a real boy”. the other 2 ghosted me and so i’m taking the advice as i’m given it. I don’t like comparing myself but also highschool/college is tough and ppl like to judge me.
I hate hating my body and i’m not very confident in myself but I also just want someone to love me or date me, or to even just lose my v card at all. I just want any sort of hope that I could have any sort of sex because I hear from my older transmasc friends that sex is terrible and it’s not fun or men will fetishize me or that i’ll get killed and tbh that’s not very helpful
I am in school with a whole lot of queer people, although only know two other gay trans men, both being asexual, so they don’t seem to have this problem. so I have no one else to talk to and aforementioned older transmasc friend just moved to college out of state. Sorry to kinda vent, but I just want to know if there is any hope for the sex lives or just romantic lives of trans men. thanks
Expecting sex because you bought them dinner? She needs to step up her game, like giving out her number on fake ATM receipts that show $20K balances.
It's really distressing going into spaces meant for trans mlm and constantly seeing people saying things like "I would never date another trans guy" Vent - Advice Unwelcome (self.gaytransguys)
submitted 1 day ago by Like_a_Zubat
I don't rly give a shit if someone is only into cis guys, and this isn't particularly in response to any recent posts, it's smth I've felt for a long time. I don't even want to fuck anyone who doesn't wanna fuck me back. All I'm saying is that it rly rly sucks constantly seeing so many ppl putting cis cock on a pedestal, deameaning strap and surgically made cocks, and implying(either subtly or outright) that other trans ppl aren't "good enough" for them. It sucks being constantly told that I inherently fall short of being a "worthy partner" or I'm inherently lacking something as a top, especially in a place that's meant to be a safe space for guys like me. I get enough of that from cis people I don't need it from trans folks too.
submitted 1 day ago by Like_a_Zubat
I don't rly give a shit if someone is only into cis guys, and this isn't particularly in response to any recent posts, it's smth I've felt for a long time. I don't even want to fuck anyone who doesn't wanna fuck me back. All I'm saying is that it rly rly sucks constantly seeing so many ppl putting cis cock on a pedestal, deameaning strap and surgically made cocks, and implying(either subtly or outright) that other trans ppl aren't "good enough" for them. It sucks being constantly told that I inherently fall short of being a "worthy partner" or I'm inherently lacking something as a top, especially in a place that's meant to be a safe space for guys like me. I get enough of that from cis people I don't need it from trans folks too.
Transphobia rampant in the trans crowd, even they don't want to date trannies.
I hate being trans so much Vent - Advice Welcome (self.gaytransguys)
submitted 1 day ago by Idk_just_ignore_me
Honestly, it sucks ass. On top of all the dysphoria, I feel like it’s ruining my chances of having a relationship. One of my very very close friends is a gay guy too and I have a bit of a crush on him and have for a while. I know he sees me as a guy but he’s legit said to me “we’d probably be dating right now if you had a dick.” I know he meant zero harm by it, he’s literally one of the nicest people I know just doesn’t think through stuff all the time, but it really hurt. I feel like I’ll never be enough for a guy. I know there’s gay dudes who will date trans guys but i feel disgusted with my own body, I don’t know how anyone could find that attractive. I feel like until I get surgery I’m trapped and I’ll just never be enough for myself or any other man in my life.
I shouldn’t be complaining either because I’m pretty happy. I’m passing, I’ve got a decent life, amazing friends but I feel like being trans is like the one thing holding me back.
submitted 1 day ago by Idk_just_ignore_me
Honestly, it sucks ass. On top of all the dysphoria, I feel like it’s ruining my chances of having a relationship. One of my very very close friends is a gay guy too and I have a bit of a crush on him and have for a while. I know he sees me as a guy but he’s legit said to me “we’d probably be dating right now if you had a dick.” I know he meant zero harm by it, he’s literally one of the nicest people I know just doesn’t think through stuff all the time, but it really hurt. I feel like I’ll never be enough for a guy. I know there’s gay dudes who will date trans guys but i feel disgusted with my own body, I don’t know how anyone could find that attractive. I feel like until I get surgery I’m trapped and I’ll just never be enough for myself or any other man in my life.
I shouldn’t be complaining either because I’m pretty happy. I’m passing, I’ve got a decent life, amazing friends but I feel like being trans is like the one thing holding me back.
Correct, being mentally ill and thinking you are really a male born in the wrong body is what is holding you back.