🐱 The biggest dating app bio red flags - You won’t believe #21!

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Thanks to online dating, you and your soulmate could be mere swipes away from finding each other. There's just one thing standing in your way: a bio.

Before you can start scouring dating apps for love, you're tasked with writing a perfectly witty, informative, one-of-a-kind bio that will hopefully grab the attention of other users and encourage a heavy streak of right swipes. A dating app bio might not sound like a big deal, but since apps are filled with a sea of faces, your profile — the bio you craft, photos you feature, and prompts you choose to answer — is your chance to stand out and make a lasting first impression.

This may be a shock to some, but many app users rely on cheesy, tired, and predictable jokes, phrases, and references when composing their bios. And bad dating app bios can be a major turnoff.

We put a call out to online daters, asking for the biggest dating app red flags. From that, we compiled a list of 32 common profile mishaps.

From writing no bio at all to including one too many shirtless photos, here's what to avoid when building your online dating persona.

1. A photo of someone holding a baby coupled with the clarification, "Not my baby"

What are you trying trying to prove here? That you're not a parent but a baby can stand to be seen with you? That you're capable of holding a child and therefore should be considered as a romantic prospect? Please stop using other people's cute babies to make yourselves look good and then clarifying they're not your babies. It's played out! If you want to get creative and pose next to a horse and write, "Not my horse," however, we will allow it. That's funny.

2. The phrase "I'm looking for someone who doesn't take themselves too seriously"

As Mashable's Senior Culture Reporter Rachel Thomson explained, this phrase is a serious red flag that screams, "I'll make offensive jokes and say 'ugh, chill' when you don't laugh" or "I'm emotionally unavailable."

If you're on a dating app looking to form a romantic connection, one would HOPE that, at the very least, you're taking yourself and others seriously.

3. If someone says they're "not looking for any drama"

People who feel the need to type some version of "I'm not looking for any drama" in their dating app bios are likely no stranger to drama. Perhaps they've caused or attracted drama in the past, or perhaps this is code for "I'm going to gaslight you and treat you like crap, but I don't want to be called out on it." Either option seems bad!

"I want to be free to treat you as horribly as I want without you calling me out on it"
— Kimberley🌹 (@kimberleyhomer) January 25, 2021

4. Too many shirtless pics

Several people who responded to my call for red flags said they're definitely swiping left on anyone who has more than one topless or revealing profile photo. One shirtless pic? OK. But if your profile looks like a collection of press images from Magic Mike, it's a left swipe. However, if you were in Magic Mike, right swipe.

5. Men holding fish

Men, if you sincerely love to fish, this red flag sucks for you and I'm sorry, but pay very close attention. A Man Holding A Fish is a near-universally hated dating app photo. Unclear if you think holding a giant fish is cool, or hot, or shows that you're a talented and strong provider who's great at successfully casting a line into a body of water (I have clearly never fished) but it's a weird, uncomfortable trend. It's also such a popular profile photo that it's been called out on TikTok. Fish pics are not original, and because there are plenty of other fish in the sea people will not hesitate to swipe left on you. Women, you may be able to get away with holding a fish. Unclear!

6. The phrase "good vibes only"

"Good vibes only" is a horrible relative of "I'm looking for someone who doesn't take themselves too seriously" and "no drama." It basically means you are not allowed to have any negative emotions ever. A person with this in their bio likely isn't ready for mature commitment. You want someone to have and to hold in good vibes and in bad.

“Good vibes only” 🤢 really just means “I’m only interested in sex, please don’t bring any feelings into my life”
— Emma (@emmalinnankivi) January 25, 2021

7. If they majored in a joke school

Thinking of listing your education as something quirky like "graduated from the school of life" or "the school of hard knocks?" The consensus seems to be that it's not as funny as you think it is, and it's better to be honest about your education.

8. Men who say they never message first so if you don't message you'll be unmatched

Women simply don't have time for this nonsense. Semi-related, if a man's bio is a straightforward list of requirements he'd like to find in a woman, such as, "I'm looking for a girl who likes to take care of herself," "Must be physically fit," or "looking for a girl who can hold a conversation" that's also a major turnoff.

9. Someone's height followed by "because apparently that matters"

Another one of the most common bio red flags that popped up when researching this piece is when people write their height followed by a snarky version of "because apparently that matters."

Just list your freaking height! Or don't! But don't list your height and act visibly annoyed about it. Be better than that.

This tweet needs a trigger warning
— Kimberley🌹 (@kimberleyhomer) January 25, 2021

10. Making a love of non-original food and drink your entire personality

A bio that states a love of tacos, pizza, sushi, or coffee? Who doesn't love those things? This is your chance to be original, not say, "Hi, my name's Nicole and I, like so many others on this planet, love pizza."

11. People who only have one photo

If you only have one photo on your dating app bio, I'm sorry, it's a left swipe. Adjacent complaints include "one far away pic and four nature pics" and "when their first pic isn't their face." Please take note.

12. Saying "I don’t know why I’m here"

Sweetie, we actually DO think you know why you're here.

13. People who are a little *too* hungry for adventure

Most people love a good adventure every now and then, but are you talking about jet-setting to France after work or making spontaneous snack runs at midnight? Be specific, please. Looking for an adventure buddy is cool, but are you also looking for someone to eat chill dinners with and a partner to cuddle beside you on the couch and binge Netflix together?

I’m always like “What kind of adventures?! Like, be specific! Are you talking about hiking? Traveling?”
— Katherine D. Morgan | Forever a Bookseller💁🏾‍♀️ (@blktinabelcher) January 25, 2021

14. When someone writes "Looking for my partner in crime"

You have to recognize that this is similar to looking for an adventure partner, right? Like, what crimesare you planning to commit here? You couldn't think of anything less cliché to write?

15. Poor-quality profile photos

Before we take a break from profile photo red flags, we want to remind you how important it is that you choose high-quality, flattering photos that clearly show off your face and aren't hella filtered. Mirror selfies? Bad. Photos with cutesy Snapchat filters on them? Bad. Photos that are so low-quality that they look like — as my friend so delicately put it — "they were taken on a potato or something" are also bad. As she explained, you "CANNOT TRUST SOMEONE WHO WILLINGLY BROADCASTS BLURRY-ASS PICS."

16. Bragging about or requesting sarcasm

If you consider yourself a sarcastic person, I fully support that. I dabble in sarcasm as well, but not to the extent where I feel the need to mention it in a dating app bio. Sarcasm is not that great of a character trait when you think about it. Being witty is fun, but do you really want the first impression you make on someone to be an emphasis on your sarcastic side?

Consider leaving phrases like "fluent in sarcasm" or "looking for someone who can compete with my sarcasm" out of your bio. To some they come across as another way of saying "I'm a dick to people and think it's funny."

any emphasis on "sarcasm" being a personality trait they think is important enough about them to put in their very short bio. usually just means he's mean to people to be funny.
— Amanda Jacobsmeyer (@JacobsmeyerAJ) January 25, 2021

17. Choosing to answer certain Hinge prompts

Each individual answer to a dating app prompt, like the ones featured on Hinge, has its own red flag potential. But some people view the sheer act of choosing to fill out certain prompts — such as "Change my mind about..." or "I'm overly competitive about..." — as red flags no matter the answer.

18. Saying "work hard, play hard"

Some people think this phrase is synonymous with "I enjoying wearing a Patagonia vest on the weekdays and acting like I'm at a college rager on the weekends."

19. Stating facts like "I have a house" or "I have a car"

As Shania Twain would likely say, "That don't impress me much."

20. People who try to get you follow them on social media

If you have something like "Add me on Snapchat" or "DM me on Insta, I don't check this" in your bio, odds are it's gonna be a left swipe.

21. Overly (or underly) political bios

In 2021, some find the words "moderate" or "apolitical" in bios to be a red flag. And if you proudly listen to Joe Rogan, are holding a gun in every photo, or are posing with Trump flags or MAGA hats — especially post-election — there are more than a few people who would not take a second glance before swiping left. That said, if these are your views and they're important to you, you might as well come out and say it, so everyone knows.

22. Overusing emoji and/or making typos

Sprinkling an emoji or two throughout your bio can be fun, just don't go emoji overboard. Also, if you're old enough to use a dating app you should be able to ensure your bio is typo-free. Come on, people.

23. People who note their Myers–Briggs Type Indicator

If your bio says you're an INFP personality type, congrats, but from the looks of my Twitter notifications, no one cares.

If they have their MBTI results in their bio. Pass.
— Adhika Prasetyo (@adhikapp) January 25, 2021

24. Photos with exes or possible love interests

It's great to include a photo or two with friends on your dating app profile, but if the same friend is in all of your photos, it's going to raise a few questions. Is that your ex? Your adorable best friend who you're secretly in love with but don't think they like you back? We need answers.

25. Any of these cringey words

We've talked about a few phrases you should keep out of dating app bios, but individual words can raise red flags as well.

Any variations of "nothing too serious," for instance, "chill," "casual," "no strings attached," or "here to have fun" are definitely not ideal. The words "average" or "normal" in bios are also concerning, as are the words "masculine" or anyone who solely refers to women as "females." A few other common red flag words are "discreet," "lover," "sensual," "massage," and "I'm not like other ___."

26. Being outright negative

Dating app bios are part of the first impression you make on people, so try to make them positive. One popular bio red flag was including too much negativity, showing bitterness, or listing things you aren't looking for in a relationship.

When someone starts by talking about everything they DON’T want in their next relationship
— Phil Berne (@philipberne) January 25, 2021

27. Throwing out trust issue vibes

We've all been hurt at some point in life, but dating app bios that scream "I HAVE TRUST ISSUES" aren't super popular among users. People aren't into bios that mention recent break-ups or divorces or ones that have too many mentions of a desire for trust, loyalty, or honesty in a partner.

28. When a bio is neglected

If there's one thing worse than cheesy, misguided, or downright bad dating app bios, it's a profile with no bio at all.

If you can't even take a few minutes to craft a bio how can you be expected to put effort into a relationship? And before you try to get away with lazy phrases like "I’m an open book, ask me anything" or "I'll finish writing this later," know that those are just as bad.

I tend to avoid people who write "I'll finish writing this later." Like, you can't even commit to your own page for a few minutes? They're not serious about what they're looking for and they will put you off too.
— Limoncello🧁 (@FlorEnfadada) January 25, 2021

29. Tired pop culture references

Are you just a Jim looking for his Pam? Join the club, there's an overabundance of Jim Halpert wannabes on dating apps these days.

Several people are tired of seeing popular references to The Office or Harry Potter in bios. Same goes for references to fictional couples like Jim and Pam, Ross and Rachel, or Leslie and Ben.

30. When working out seems like a sole personality trait

Making time for exercise and living a healthy lifestyle are both positives, but if someone doesn't appear to have a personality outside of going to the gym, that's a red flag.

31. Too much nostalgia

Dating app bios can have a little nostalgia, as a treat, but not too much. If you still regularly use a VCR that's cool, maybe just ease into it.

I avoid anyone trying to make “90’s kid” connections like the plague it is so boring and annoying e.g. “looking for someone to reminisce on VHS tapes with” 🤢
— badelaide (@addievibez) January 25, 2021

32. Sounding overly pretentious

Are you a sapiosexual? Is your favorite book Atlas Shrugged? Are you a music snob? Do you self-identify as a "bitcoin enthusiast" or use your bio to praise Elon Musk? Maybe reconsider! If it's something that would show up on the @beam_me_up_softboi Instagram account, avoid including it in your bio at all costs.

A caveat to all of this: What may be a red flag for some won't be a red flag for others. If you truly are a Jim looking for your Pam and don't care who knows it, go right ahead and own it. If you love romantic trips to the gym, are majorly obsessed with pizza, or want to flaunt your biggest catch, don't feel pressured to omit those things from your bio. People who consider your interests red flags may swipe left, but your Pam Beesly who adores fish may be out there waiting to swipe right.
 
Then what the hell is the point of this entire article?
Her getting a paycheck to do 15 minutes of work.

Also, most Of these aren’t red flags, they’re turnoffs. Holding a fish in your profile pic or using out of date references aren’t warning signs in the same way stuff like ”I’m tired of drama” or “trust issue vibes” are...
 
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Please find her dating profile. I'm getting a vibe of:

Profile is more then 5 years old and she's still using it
Cat photos
Vacation photos
35+ with Kids someday checked
 
Her getting a paycheck to do 15 minutes of work.
And set it up as "quality" work by making all the claims impossible to falsify: "I said it wouldn't work for everyone" when the next attractive guy she finds has a profile that violates 5 or 6 of them, blatantly.

Or someone comes back to them complaining that the incel now stalking her didn't violate any of them.
 
For me it's:
-"I have X children and they're my world!"
-all photos taken from fat girl angle/no body pics
-pronouns in bio
-BLM in profile name
 
19. Stating facts like "I have a house" or "I have a car"
As Shania Twain would likely say, "That don't impress me much."
This speaks to the privilege of the writer as I would think this is a pretty big deal... If I were poor... And if nothing else, it signals at least some responsibility.
 
What guy is going to read this shit?

The dumbfuck should have asked men what turns them off and write about that for her clearly cat lady based audience.
 
This speaks to the privilege of the writer as I would think this is a pretty big deal... If I were poor... And if nothing else, it signals at least some responsibility.
Also, it's pertinent information if you're looking to date someone. If they have a car, that means you don't have to factor the bus schedule into where you can go to meet up, and places not served by mass transit are not automatically off-limits, and if YOU have a car and were worrying about being used as a taxi service? Well, that puts that fear to rest..

Having a house means you can also expect a little more privacy if you want to just drop by, as opposed to someone renting an apartment or whatnot... You're feeling like a warm couch and some Netflix right now? Well, that may sound even better if you know you won't have to share the couch or TV with some creepy roomies who wanna play Call of Duty and nobody will be banging on the wall to turn down the volume.

Now, you can probably say someone with TONS of pictures of their car might be a warning sign of what's going to get priority in the relationship if he's down to his last $50 (gas or you) and if he's bragging about being able to afford his condo in an upscale neighborhood, hoping that impresses? Okay, maybe we're on to something.

But just saying you have a reliable form of transportation and your own private living space DOES matter to some people and by itself is not a humblebrag.
 
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Steps to good dating bio:

1. Have a clear face and body picture of you doing a thing with clothes on without smiling like you are a canadian from south park
2. Comment on things that interest you in what you are looking for. Do not settle for cliche shit if you are looking for a partner/Significant other.
3. Don't mention you are looking for sex, one night stand, friends with benefits, any of that shit. That's what tinder/grindr/bumpr/whatevr is for

That's it. Anything deviating from those simple rules will be listed as shit and ignored. The more human and relatable you sound the greater your chances are of finding someone.

If you are just looking to fuck ignore the above and do whatever you want because it's all about looks/kinks and you gotta stand out from the rest in whatever depravity/sex/lust form you want.
The actual steps to a good dating bio:
1) Don't be ugly
2) Be attractive.
What guy is going to read this shit?

The dumbfuck should have asked men what turns them off and write about that for her clearly cat lady based audience.
"Please reconsider stabbing me in the liver on our first date" wouldn't make for much of an article.

I mean, it would be more valuable than this article, but that's not saying much.
 
My own list of red flags:

1- ACAB/BLM
2- "rad"
3- dyed hair
4- pride flags
5- pronouns
6- septum ring
7- The Office
8- zodiac sign
9- has a TikTok
10- has a Twitter
11- has their snapchat listed in their public bio
12- shills their Onlyfans/Twitch

Side note, I love how so many women complain about men with pictures of them holding fish in their bios-at least they're displaying an interest in something non-vapid that requires patience and experience. "I love coffee, Sailor Moon and sarcasm" is barely a personality worth mentioning.
 
21. Overly (or underly) political bios
Lemme guess, this bitch is going to exclusively mention Trump stuff, correct?
In 2021, some find the words "moderate" or "apolitical" in bios to be a red flag. And if you proudly listen to Joe Rogan, are holding a gun in every photo, or are posing with Trump flags or MAGA hats — especially post-election — there are more than a few people who would not take a second glance before swiping left. That said, if these are your views and they're important to you, you might as well come out and say it, so everyone knows.
Like fucking clockwork. You will never get a bitch/man following the tips in this article, anyway, so please feel free to swipe left on this cat-obsessed bitch should you come across her on any dating site/app.
 
Lemme guess, this bitch is going to exclusively mention Trump stuff, correct?

Yep, MAGA hats are a no , but, huge BLM banners are a yes, that's not politics after all, just "common sense" or "activism"


Side note, I love how so many women complain about men with pictures of them holding fish in their bios-at least they're displaying an interest in something non-vapid that requires patience and experience. "I love coffee, Sailor Moon and sarcasm" is barely a personality worth mentioning.

Yeah, it seems that men with hobbies are automatically dumped for reasons I can't explain..... he's showing you he has the smarts and stick-to-it nature to commit to things, long-term, and build things with his own hands instead of having to rely on others to do so... and that's a negative trait?

I can only assume it's anger that if they choose him, they won't get 100% of his financial power since an unacceptable fraction will possibly still be going to that "useless" hobby....

Also, if guns and hunting aren't your thing, isn't it better he put up a pic of him posing with his trophy buck so you know not to waste your time? Or if you find juvenile stuff a turn-off, isn't it better to know before you waste money on a dinner that the guy's place is probably full of Lego and model trains before seeing it yourself and ending the night frustrated and angry about how he "lied" ?

They're telling you who they are, and you're saying "don't do that"?

I think the writer has confused "Not a turn on" with "Not a turn on to me"
 
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You can be ugly to someone and attractive to someone else. You are describing hookup apps not dating apps.
If you're in an aesthetic zone where you're subjectively unattractive, you're not going to be successful in either kind of app unless you put in extra legwork and elbow grease in making your "world" entertaining for prospective women. Regardless of whether we're talking about hookup apps or dating apps (and really, what's the difference when they're all structured the same and have the same conceptual flaws when it comes to providing a portrait of a prospect), the sex ratios are heavily lopsided towards males, meaning women have to be highly selective in just figuring out who they want to dump time into, and depending on where you live, the break is likely to be in the looks department rather than in hobbies or profession.

so many women complain about men with pictures of them holding fish in their bios-at least they're displaying an interest in something non-vapid that requires patience and experience. "I love coffee, Sailor Moon and sarcasm" is barely a personality worth mentioning.
The author of this article ends up spontaneously operating at 2 SDs below average IQ when it comes to talking about fish pics, actually. It's as though disdain for men holding up their catches is some rootless meme.
 
If you're in an aesthetic zone where you're subjectively unattractive, you're not going to be successful in either kind of app unless you put in extra legwork and elbow grease in making your "world" entertaining for prospective women. Regardless of whether we're talking about hookup apps or dating apps (and really, what's the difference when they're all structured the same and have the same conceptual flaws when it comes to providing a portrait of a prospect), the sex ratios are heavily lopsided towards males, meaning women have to be highly selective in just figuring out who they want to dump time into, and depending on where you live, the break is likely to be in the looks department rather than in hobbies or profession.
Meanwhile, we have to accept the deathfat chick into our lives, otherwise we're "fatphobic".

 
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