Oh to play dnd with like minded individuals instead of my current friends. Lately it's been hell to play with them. It's literally "GUYS ITS THE BIG BAD LETS JUST MAKE SNARKY COMMENTS!" I rp a good bit, or I try to but when being told my character is just going to die because he's making emotional decisions instead of stopping and just hanging out to think and check for traps at every possible step. They're almost all part of the alphabet club but they're all I got. There my friends genuinely but I really hate trying to Min/Max dnd in combat and decision making instead of having fun.
This post is just my sperg but do any other dnd players here deal with this shit? Like trying to rp a serious moment in the campaign while others are just like "how do we win dnd"
That's part of why my previous game died off. Well, not exactly, it's more of a "the game died but I'm less torn up about it than I would be otherwise" thing.
In short, a couple in my group has small children, too young to really be left to their own devices, but we didn't want to force them to exclude one parent or the other from our games to keep an eye on them. So they'd pretty much always have to be in the room with us while we were playing. Naturally, that meant a lot of constant interruption, so it was difficult to actually get into character and do any roleplaying whatsoever, and if we did we'd have to keep things very G-rated as much as possible. So our campaigns ended up being mostly railroading until we got to the next fight, do a little combat, and repeat. Suffice it to say, that eventually got pretty boring, so when we got out of the habit of playing due to various real life things, I found I didn't miss it as much as I did. Honestly, I enjoyed the peace and quiet.
It's been a few months, and the childless members of the group, myself included, are getting the itch to play something again. We basically all agree that we can't play with the kids around anymore, but we'd prefer not to exclude the couple since they're good friends. On the other hand, it'll be literally years before they can do anything without them, especially since they just had another child. My friend suggested we play in secret, but he also knew that they'd be devastated if they found out. I dunno, we'll have to do some kind of discussion.
As to your specific question, it was less min/maxing that was an issue at my table and more general chaos, not helped by the aforementioned children adding their own brand into the mix. I did my best to be a more level-headed character in RP, but it often felt like I was the only one taking things seriously while the rest of my party was doing random retarded shit. Some of it was amusing, to be fair, but I signed on for something with a bit more gravitas. About the only advice I can offer is to bring up your concerns with the group, and if they brush them off, leave. No tabletop is better than bad tabletop.
