Yes. I have a 10 year old child being raised in Sweden. I know the unique pain that Tarl feels at not being able to see his daughter grow up. The difference is, I did not have the money to stay in Sweden. I used up all my money traveling back-and-forth and even trying to get my partner to move to the United States. He was here with me for a short time and then decided to take my child back to Sweden. Then, I fought through the courts and failed to have my son returned.
The relationship fell through because my partner has Asperger's and had never been in a relationship before. Amazingly, I healed his agorophobia by giving him a child that he wanted, because now he has an excuse to go outside. They are very happy together and Erik is a great dad although not a sufficient partner.
Like in most relationships, I had tried to force this one and make it last for too long. I bowed down backwards to appease my partner and I understand now that is wrong. All I can do is live learn & grow. Twice now I have fallen into a trap where I fell in love with an online persona only to discover the person underneath is a wretched beast. I don't blame Erik though, I was naive and made many mistakes. I have a type, and that is an intelligent, string bean, agorophobic, autist.