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- Oct 27, 2021
Or you could read the whole of my first comment rather than sarcastically cherry-picking, which was about getting past your anger and emotionally unhooking from the wrongs done to you.You mean like working hard at my job like I have been, keeping up with my visitation, and not dating? Geez, must be hard to give advice I'm already following.
As I said, I'm reading things cold, and what has leapt out is a lot of emotion and a general anger/ frustration about having to swallow a big sandwich of shit. You've said idk how many times things to the effect of, "oh, so men can just do x" or "I can't do x because my shithead ex won't give it back to me/ my shithead x is being stupid and petty." I'm sure he's being stupid and petty, and I get why you are outraged about certain things.
My point is that as of now, he can be merely a datapoint, rather than an obstruction to you moving on, both materially and mentally. Idk your job (though was that not you standing on "he has my machine pedal and it's not right I should have to replace it"?) or your dating intentions, so if it doesn't apply it doesn't apply. I'm saying that on a couple different topics you've raised, you seem at times to be letting emotion enter in rather than just saying (for example) fuck it, I'll go buy another pedal and then letting it go.
Glad you're doing for yourself and sure, sorry if a couple of my words referenced things you're already doing. But there are some things you aren't doing that you could be and that would greatly improve your peace.