Satisfaction comes from WITHIN. Until you can, at the very least, achieve a state of not-sadness on your own, you won't be able to achieve true happiness with anyone. People can sense your sadness and desperation; the "good" men will flee from it, and the bad people will use it to manipulate you. Tarl did.
The coldest person I ever knew was a guy who had an endless string of women parading through his house. He was never single for more than a year. He took their money, he put them in charge of shopping, cooking, cleaning, maintaining his house, paying all the bills, and contributed almost nothing. He had the savings, they had all the bills. What was his secret?
Clingy, overt displays of affection, public cuddling, constant handholding, rubbing their feet, always touching them, always an arm around their shoulders. He just picked women with very low self-esteem that felt unloved. This clingy-type stuff in front of other people convinced these women that he loved them (he didn't).