It's not entirely clear to me the timeline of what went on here. He invited you to Vermont to start a life with him, despite you not being interest in online romance and declining him up until then? Then you met up for the first time in November of 2018, and your relationship dissolved in April 2019? How much time did you actually spend with him? How was your life exactly "turned upside down"? By him not picking you up from the airport, because you declined a promotion? I mean, that sucks but I would hardly call that life ruining. From a professional standpoint I would say the latter is your own fault for valuing your employer's interest whatsoever over your own, particularly if that promotion was not extended to you after it fell apart, that's precisely why you look out for your interest first and foremost. A little sprinkling of career advice. The former scenario is a massive red flag for me. We're supposed to believe he didn't pick you up because he was scared of being in public? You don't even have to get out of your car to pick someone up from any international airport that I'm aware of... Doesn't really add up. I suspect something is being left out. You met an unspecified number of times in a 4-5 month period and you were going to get married? I kind of doubt that too, unless you're both retarded, which is a distinct possibility. Unless you can provide some receipts verifying this was a committed relationship while he was also dating other people, you actually planned to get married or you can provide some insight to the current happening speculative familial issues or really any "tea" with receipts whatsoever, the only firm takeaway from you is that you're upset.
Sorry to break it to ya, but a lot of times this online or long distance stuff doesn't work out. You blame your race and say the mother of his children is more PR friendly, and say he's the cruel person. I've seen some of his videos and it seems he made an effort to not show his family. Regardless, that's a pretty fucked up thing to say while trying to maintain a friendly facade toward his wife(?). Like I said, I see nothing convincing here so I'm concluding unless otherwise proven wrong that this is a scorned (and probably mentally ill considering who she was flying across the atlantic to fuck) fling trying to kick someone while they're down.
