Yes, fucking a local who is crazy is fully understandable and should be shouted from the rooftops and defended until the ends of time. It is her location that changes the scenario, not the relevant facts that led to the situation. You could just stay offline (or at least off this site) and make your peace with the fact that others are laughing at you, but you're actually insistent on coming back and trying to run apologetics for both yourself and Tarl. If you ever wanted to be taken seriously in the future about anything, it would have to be after years (or at least months) of silence on your role in this matter and years of laying groundwork to be taken seriously about *something, anything.* The way you conduct yourself, no one DOES take you seriously about ANYTHING. No one will EVER take you seriously about Tarl and you have quite the battle ahead of you if you ever want to be taken seriously on ANYTHING. At minimum, recognize that your failure in other areas of life is less extensive than your failures related to Tarl and even focusing on that would be an improved state of affairs, even if not ideal. Yikes.
In relation to my desire to stay away from these matters until the trial, the recent events literally hit the happenings, so I am vindicated.