Strange things men do/have/endure with - Things guys put up with women just don’t get

[The greater a'tuin]

The masculine urge to insert themselves into female centered spaces hoping they'll be the center of attention because they're a man

Seriously, go into any "Ask a woman" thread in this same website and see how long you can go before you get a "As a man, here's my unsolicited opinion"

This is very feminine behavior ironically

Why would you invert reality so brazenly?

 

[Troon_Patrol]

I cook dinner every now and then just as a subtle reminder to my girl she's not doing something requiring a PHD in neuroscience every-time she turns the stove top on. I'd like to see her try and do half the shit I do at work nobody taught me how to do but myself. I wish I was not so misogynistic it seems to just grow the older you get. Women in committed relationships get lazy and seem to demand more and more praise for just doing normal household things. The spinsters friends she keeps up with are all delusional in their value from the superficial such as looks to the financial. My personal favorite to gossip about is a 5/10 looks with 200K in student debt, possibly has a drinking problem. She's holding out for the man who's a solid 8/10 and has a net worth no less than 500K.


In all fairness the fucked up gender roles have muddied the waters of what is and is not expected of men. The transgender issue and everything in between have made a "Man's job" "Man's role" unclear.

The classic car trouble trope like flat tire for example.




This literal fucking abomination has entitlement to post a 60 second rant on tiktok or some other brain rotting garbage, telling Men (just like him) they are not qualified to date a high value trans woman like him if they cannot change a tire, a task he is not capable of himself. For all unfamiliar with "Gorlock the Destroyer". This was one of the most SFW picture I could find. I couldn't find the video where he defines a man unfit to change a tire unworthy of dating him.




Now that gargoyle above could double as a Halloween character in a theme park. Same subject another thing men have to deal with is the "surprise tranny" in hookup culture. I won't condone going to bar and picking up some random 304, I don't even condone drinking. Lets say you've had a few drinks in a dark dive bar, loud music in the background and cut to 2 hours later after meeting someone who doesn't look like Megan Fox but not bad. You both Uber to your place still fucked up (please don't drink it worse for you than you are aware) and start fooling around. "She" goes strait for your cock keeps suspiciously keeping "her" clothes on and after 5 minutes of awkward fooling around, "her" suspiciously batting your hand away from "her" jeans, you realize it's not because it's that time of the month or a personal boundary thing, it's just a fucking man lying the entire time.

I have nightmares about this and I got out of the dating scene before this became a genuine concern. I'm horrified this has become a debatable thing to disclose to someone. Mostly Thanks to men like Keffals. Is he dead yet btw? Won't condone violence, I'll just say if I was a cop and some tranny came in with black eye and missing teeth knocked out the previous night, to file some kind of assault charges then gave me the same or similar story I'd simply ask "well, WTF did you think was gonna happen, you stupid faggot? It's debatable as rape what you did. Put some ice on your eye and stop this shit before the next guy actually kills you for pulling that shit"

Fucking horrifying.

 

[UnsufficentBoobage]

I have nightmares about this and I got out of the dating scene before this became a genuine concern

This does not happen that much, trannies just jizz to the idea, so they insinuate it is real (and any violence against trannies had this case behind).

 

[ChompChomp]

This does not happen that much

Source on that?

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This thread is hilarious. Apparently women don't squat in the restroom, fart, burp, do manual labor, or think clearly.

Someone mentioned de-icing a ("penis extending") truck to drive three hours to work as something "women will never experience."

1. Communicate your feelings to your partner. Maybe move closer to work.
2. Or, if you succumbed to mandatory RTO, keep biting that bullet. (If you cannot WFH, just remember how easy your drive would be with fewer people in your way.)
3. Apparently single moms working two jobs don't exist. (As an example of slaving away at work just to live.)

Whatever women y'all have, hold onto them. Can't imagine the bar is going to be

 

[Troon_Patrol]

This does not happen that much, trannies just jizz to the idea, so they insinuate it is real (and any violence against trannies had this case behind).

Well you're right. The odds of a tranny passing are low. Hell, I think half of them want to be identified trannys for the narcissistic purposes alone. I'm also afraid of sharks and odds of being attacked is something like 1 in 11.5 million. I can't rationalize that fact either.

The violence against trannys is so fucking rare it becomes news as journoscum play it up as no matter what team your on, it's interesting to see a tranny get his teeth kicked in or killed. Last time I heard this scenario some faggot posted either CL or Tinder or some shit "Hey stranger, I really really want to suck your cock! I'm also really attractive and don't care for well lit rooms or talking! Also, I'm totally 100% not a man in women's clothing. DM me for my address tonight!"

Of course someone eventually turns on the lights or his wig falls off, the jig is up and someone beats him to death. It was made even funnier when it was revealed to be a nigger on playing for Virgina tech as a linebacker. Playing college football and he couldn't get laid? WTF weak ass pickup game did this nigger have?

I just couldn't help myself.

 

[Van Darkholme]

I'm not certain if this is a masculine thing, but booking a window seat on a flight and spending the entire time looking out the window. Something about seeing the world from that perspective always interests me. My wife insists on getting the window seat whenever we fly and then never looks out of it. It makes me irrationally angry and she doesn't get it.

Me, everytime. "Oh, I'm sure going to read this e-book or watch that show on my tablet". No, just hours looking out of the window. Same thing on trains.

 

[teriyakiburns]

Me, everytime. "Oh, I'm sure going to read this e-book or watch that show on my tablet". No, just hours looking out of the window. Same thing on trains.

Always gives me stiff neck though, which sucks.

 

[We Are The Witches]

I think I already said this, but posting it again because I just became aware of another IRL instance of this happening.

And that is discrimination against males for jobs that do not require someone from a specific gender/sex. Like they straight up ask for girls to be the assistants at some events (I already know about outrageous examples, like selling ice-cream), but for this you don't need to be female either.

It can be for telemarketing, retail, assistants, sellers, etc, I always see male discrimination when unjustified, but never the opposite.

So sick of that.

 

[Forsaken Wanderer]

Being invisible is a strange thing.

Nobody gives a fuck about you if you are a man. You don't exist until you can provide a service. You aren't treated like a living entity, your best bet is to be thought about post death.

 

[PandaChai]

Being invisible is a strange thing.

Nobody gives a fuck about you if you are a man. You don't exist until you can provide a service. You aren't treated like a living entity, your best bet is to be thought about post death.

I'm not sure why your post reminded me of it, but men (especially older men) not being thought of as having thoughts/feelings of/for other people, as if they were without kindness or empathy of any sort - man as totally selfish automaton.
When my grandmother passed there was a big wake held in her village. On the way there my mum handed me a set of keys to my grandparents' house, per my grandfather's request, as he knew I don't cope well in crowds and wanted me to be able to go somewhere he also knew I felt safe. And I feel so guilty to admit that I never expected such a loving and understanding gesture from him.

 

[Merry]

People assuming you're fine because you don't vent constantly

Not a complaint, but definitely a thing you gotta contend with if you're solid with your sense of self as a man

 

[Moral Decay]

When a woman pays a man a random compliment or makes any basic gesture that they pay attention to him, it'll probably stick with him forever. It doesn't matter if it's completely meaningless, or if the woman never once spares him a thought after; the man will think about it years later.

Thought about this because a girl at my work who I've barely interacted with called me by my name recently. I didn't think she even knew it. It's completely meaningless yet somehow made my day.

 

[Flaming_Barghast]

I know this thread isn't for woman hate, but you seem sincere so I'm going to get real for a second.

Women say they want us to talk about our feelings, but they really don't. They may think they do, they may have been told by society that they're supposed to, but they don't.

When men talk about their feelings with women, the BEST possible outcome is the woman offers superficial support while subconsciously thinking that the man is weak. At worst, the woman is deliberately lying and looking for something to use against you later. Every man instinctively knows this, but if we say it out loud we're accused of having soggy knees or whatever. That's why we don't talk about it, and why we don't talk about why we don't talk about it. Every woman thinks they'll be the exception, but I'm sorry, you probably aren't. Even if you've been married for 50 years, that's just not how it goes it real life.

I don't believe women are (usually) being malicious when they ask men to talk about their feelings. They just don't understand what they're actually asking for. I'm not even angry about it, it's just the way things are.

I genuinely think it's less that and that women don't know how to help, kinda like men are clueless when women want to complain but don't need a "fix". Sometimes girls just need to complain for the sake of it, and most guys just learn to zone out because they either don't give a shit or don't know what else to do.
Long boring example

Spoiler

It took a very long time, but unironically, my husband goes to me for shit before his friends. He's so closed off emotionally he doesn't want to burden them with his bullshit even though he does feel extremely close to them. Won't tell his brother, or dad. He's not a pussy, just more gentle hearted, so he tries to feel nothing at all. His brother and dad are also shit at expressing anything other than superficial feelings.
Dunno how, dunno why, but I'm very good at picking up when he represses. To the point he doesn't even try to hide what bothers him anymore, I normally struggle to tell what people are thinking, others struggle to tell what he specifically is thinking because he's good at hiding it. Or so they say, it feels glaringly obvious to me but w/e.
I still don't know how to help the best, but he tells me just hanging around and being me helps (I call him gay for that and it works, shrug) I have a very guy-like personality I guess, guys are easier for me to read from how simple minded they are and I only realized that because I have a dad and brother who are both autists. Most women don't get it, we are engineered to be social, so our socialization is complex from a very young age. It's very difficult for us to understand yours is so simple. You don't feel "envious of their social understanding about x topic and makes you feel inferior for y reason" guys are just "grug sad." "Y grug sad" "grug axe broke".
You come across as this pillar of stone that doesn't need to feel anything, and most girls don't get that you actually feel more intensely because of how much you bottle. Women feel more superficial because we get it out before it festers. Girls who let it fester are BPD. Husband often doesn't even know how to bring up what bothers him, or what he wants people to do to help, so I often ask if I should beat someones face in for him. Again. This works and I don't fucking understand why but it does so I keep doing it and mean it every time (which is apparently why it works)
I'm ride or die with my husband, he's the same for me. I'll be gay and say we're soul mates because I genuinely think it's impossible for anyone to be a better man for me than him and I get so irrationally angry at both men and women that insult him that I have actually fought people before. I am not typically a violent person either, but I'm protective of him.
His dad and brother adore me because they know they aren't exceptions and are apparently very happy he has someone like that who loves him, is this a normal thing guys want?
Whatever, anyway. You guys fucking suck at opening up, it's pulling teeth, so how the fuck do you expect us to be good at being there for you when we don't know how deep it goes, especially when you explode seemingly out of nowhere and do an excellent job hiding what's bothering you? Wouldn't you be surprised to bite into an apple and have your jaw blown off cuz it was a grenade? That is LITERALLY WHAT IT FEELS LIKE RETARD.

tl:dr, girls are over socialized but you can't exactly blame us for being bad at being there when we can't read you. You pretend to feel nothing, so yeah, girls get shocked it's so much deeper. Instead of blaming a whole other sex, maybe realize there are people who actually want to be there for you but years of not experiencing mens feelings means we're woefully inadaquate and need some practice? Girls get shit out before it gets too deep, guys don't get it out until it's too late or literally can't.

Guys are of the mindset that you fix something. So you telling us means we should know how to fix it, or at least help a lot, but women aren't wired that way. We vent, which lowers pressure. Men are too simple in some of their thoughts, then get lost in their emotions they try to avoid while claiming it's too complex for women to understand. No nigger, feeling strongly and feeling complex are very different. Your feelings absolutely do matter. Girls are just shit at handling strong emotions because we vent before it gets to that point.

Oh, right. Last thing. I don't look down on my husband for feeling stuff, or telling me about it. Eat shit, it matters a hell of a lot to me and hurts to see him hurting, but it means the world he can open up about it finally.

 

[Yugica]

Speaking of, is it common to have passing fantasies of surviving some kind of disaster and trying to get your life back? Maybe not total nuclear war, but a major tornado or earthquake or something.

I've done a lot of this, even very bizarre apocalyptic scenarios like the sun vanishing entirely and having to quickly try and build a bunker and means of power generation to sustain my own aquaponics farm(s) made for the occasion. Also I've fantasized about not only surviving on but actually eventually thriving and being self-sufficient in places like Bouvet island which itself is a frigid, volcanic island in the middle of no where. I figure the volcanic activity would make digging into the rocks for a shelter rather nice as you'd expect the temperature to be pleasantly warm if you find the right spot. There's also lots of seals and birds to hunt and you can avoid scurvy and protein poisoning from a carnivorous diet by eating the right proportions(and parts) of raw flesh. Raw flesh having glycogen(basically it's like starch and it's what your muscles and other tissues use for stored energy in the cell, with fat being broken down as needed at other times) in it and vitamin C(ascorbic acid) is often lost when cooking.

 

[CornBogFitz]

Women don’t understand the thrill of conceptual violence like a mosh pit. But recently I found out they have an equal but opposite version of this. My girlfriend took me to it. It’s called ecstatic dance. Basically it’s a space no talking aloud. And your dance, move weird. Can spin around on the floor. Vibe out in any way you want. There’s even people who just cry. It’s a strange. Not for me but it’s neat that it exists. Men need their violence, and I guess women need a space to be weird without men hitting on them

 

[Jet Fuel Johnny]

A lot of women don't understand that boys learn to bottle our emotions up in grade school.

And we learn it from them. We learn it from our mothers. We learn it from our sisters.

Most men should know what happens if a woman hears about your emotions. She's thrown right back onto the elementary school playground with a victim she can make cry.

 

[Irregardless]

*Wall of text*

You sound like a good wife, and it's nice to hear how much you care about your husband.

The reason a lot of men bottle up their feelings or don't talk about them though is that we just don't have the time. By time I don't mean the 15 minutes it takes to talk about whatever is bothering us in the moment, I mean the uncertain amount of time where we won't be able to regain focus on the things that matter, family, work, bills, leisure.

Sadly, a big part about being a man is pushing emotional things off until the absolute last moment.

My father currently has cancer. It's not life threatening, and he is going through treatment but that shit has been around for a minute now.
I try very, very hard not to think about it, because when I do, I think about just how much shit we're gunna have to deal with, maybe not now, but at some point inevitably.

If something bad happens do I need to move back near my parents? How would my mother handle it? Do I have to take care of her if he dies? There's also other family issues that it would force me to confront. I have a lot of responsibilities where I live, how would I handle those? What about my career, how would it be effected? What about my wife's career? She's cried over him being sick more than I have. What if I drop the ball, everything goes to shit, and for whatever reason I can't piece life back together again? Would I lose my house? My wife? Was I a fraud this whole time who just happened to get lucky?

This doesn't even include the emotional bs I'll be going through since I do love my father dearly.

All of that is just one issue I have that talking about just isn't going to fix. I've talked to my wife about it a bit, about what we'd have to do if my father passed. She's on board with everything we'd need to figure out, but she's fragile and talking about this stuff with her makes her sad too, so even though she's never been anything but supportive over this, talking to her about it is just another issue in it of itself, since the last thing I want to do is ruin my wife's day every time I think about my dad dying. Still though, there's always something about it that I could complain about, worry about, obsess over.

So instead, I'd rather just ignore it, hope that it works itself out, and that whatever ends up happening doesn't fuck up my entire life.

Idk about women, but I feel like this is the kind of stuff that men bottle up and don't want to talk about, and at least for me, it's unrealistic to think that putting effort into talking about it would somehow make it less stressful.

 

[CornBogFitz]

adding to the other two posts about men not being able to feel. A lot of this is pressure we put on ourselves. Back when I was a kid my favorite character on Star Trek TNG was data. I envied not being able to feel. So I tried to emulate it. Also guys while it’s important to be able to postpone your crying. If ur afraid a girl might leave you or something if you do that’s not a relationship u want to be in.

 

[The Secret Sauce]

Just having to lug this absolute monster around all day every day is enough for a thread of its own, honestly. My penis is large.

 

[Incorrigible Bigotry]

The pressure that comes with being the sex who is expected to "make the first move" and the potential humiliation you have to bear if you wind up spilling your spaghetti and/or the woman decides to be cruel in the process of rejecting you.
Also I found it really funny that this song popped up on my playlist while I was reading through this thread.

Women don’t understand the thrill of conceptual violence like a mosh pit.

Typically, but I've seen some absolutely crazy bitches who will go full-send into a pit with men twice their size and weight.