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https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/9makab/coming_outfeeling_trapped_help/ (http://archive.is/z0FUr)

Doing the normal reddit search didn't yield much fun (typical boring reddit shit). Outside of reddit though, got some of the typical good stuff.

Depression and anxiety have been a lifelong battle for me, PTSD and misophonia are additional struggles
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Because I am self employed and single, I do not qualify for much needed financial assistance
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This year has been the slowest for me work wise than any other year, my finances are very tight
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The past two years have been particularly difficult for me. There have been many Suicidal Crisis moments
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A serious panic attack (had one this week) can cause 2-3 days of recovery, which is detrimental to my productivity
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You sharp eyed kiwis might notices there's a pretty huge disparity between her off-site posts and her on reddit posts, specifically. On reddit she's been in love with a fantastic and understanding (but not Poly) guy whereas off site she's single and constantly suffering major panic attacks and living in a constantly suicidal hell. Quite the mystery - is she taking this poly experience way harder than she's letting on on reddit? Or is there something else at play?

Perhaps it's Rae tying to justify trying to crowdfund $43,500 for a PTSD Therapy Dog ( https://www.gofundme.com/rae-needs-a-service-dog )?
 
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Read through the whole thread. I'm amused, sad and angry at the same time. Seems like most of the time people are lying to each other and especially to themselves. And almost always some sad individual ends up crying alone in some shitty hotel bathtub, angry at themselves how they're "bad polyamorists" or something while their world crumbles around and inside them.
 
Dafrunk89 said:
Read through the whole thread. I'm amused, sad and angry at the same time. Seems like most of the time people are lying to each other and especially to themselves. And almost always some sad individual ends up crying alone in some shitty hotel bathtub, angry at themselves how they're "bad polyamorists" or something while their world crumbles around and inside them.
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It also hurts me that people are trying to spread the practice (or, *cough*, identity) as some totally hip and progressive thing. Meanwhile, it makes no sense and doesn’t fucking work. It seems inherently and inevitably dysfunctional.
They’re too proud to just proclaim “I’m a slut” so that people who want a genuine relationship can more easily avoid them.
 
scathefire said:
It also hurts me that people are trying to spread the practice (or, *cough*, identity) as some totally hip and progressive thing. Meanwhile, it makes no sense and doesn’t fucking work. It seems inherently and inevitably dysfunctional.
They’re too proud to just proclaim “I’m a slut” so that people who want a genuine relationship can more easily avoid them.
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To them, it's "speshul". It's very much dysfunctional.
 
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https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/9o103x/my_relationship_fell_apart/

And people still think poly relationships are a good idea
 
Just like nudists are always the people who you'd never want to see naked, polyamorists are always the people who you'd never want to fuck ever.
 
The vibe is that he was way more into those friends and the poly than she was. Don't blame her for leaving when he's spending more time fixing some other couple's problems than putting a ring on his girlfriend of 10 years.
 
Rich Capitalist said:
The vibe is that he was way more into those friends and the poly than she was. Don't blame her for leaving when he's spending more time fixing some other couple's problems than putting a ring on his girlfriend of 10 years.
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No one is blaming her, not even him. As usual, poly itself is to blame.
 
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Lemme get this straight. This dude's gf was fucking her husband and he's surprised that she's in love with her husband? Could you not see how this was a bad idea?

Stupid people win stupid prizes.
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Not her husband. As I read it, OP and his GF got involved with another couple who were married and thought it was just a bit of fun. OP's GF fucked the other couples husband.

Then the married couple started to argue (presumably because the wife has some mental anguish due to grief and having her husband fuck someone else is probably not the answer.) OP and his GF attempt to repair the married couple relationship which in turn causes them to start having issues. OP's GF then admits that she loves OP but she's not in love with him and that she loves the other couples husband more, which I assume happens in the course of year trying to help out the other couple and becoming emotionally involved with them.

They were together 9 years. And they're breaking up because OP and his GF thought just fucking around with another married couple was gonna just fun. Instead they're just another casualty of poly and people who think they can have all the cake and eat it too.

But you're right. They played a dumb game of 'let's open our long-term monogamous relationship' and it collapsed after a year of it.
 
Whoops, my reading comp is shit. I swear, this shit is hard to keep track of.
 
Imagine sacrificing your kid's happiness just so you can get laid with someone. Disgusting.
 
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