And yet her sister, who grew up in the exact same environment and would have the same genetic risks of mental illness, shows no signs of disordered behavior. Almost like one sister turned her brain to mush with a decade of hard drug use and one didn't.
Absolutely not, if I recall right Delaney is the youngest. I think she said she only has one sibling as well. They were not born with the same temperament which can make a major difference in whether one sibling is sexually abused by an adult and the other/s are not. Typically adults who prey on children look for the ones they can easily manipulate and exploit. The weakest of the pack so to speak.
Her older sister plausibly could have been the strong willed one who was not an easy mark. Or maybe she was abused too, but has been better able to compartmentalize the trauma, or resolve it with therapy instead of copious amounts of booze and drugs.
Now look at Delaney's pattern of behavior. No matter what someone does to her she still forgives them like it never happened. She'll go on MLC etc and talk about abuse to get the validation, but then she'll say something nonsensical like she was more worried about her abuser than herself.
She commiserates a lot. That's a textbook sign of someone with BPD.
The whole "I'm an empath" I can feel others pain is absolute narcissistic BS. It's actually just them having unresolved childhood trauma that they think they can recognize in others. But it really stems from being more sensitive due to that childhood trauma they experienced not some super power to read minds and feelings.
Matt Mead allegedly crushed her finger, threw her around, Ralph probably slapped her and bullied her on his visit. The push pull, love hate stuff only gets this mentally ill woman more trauma bonded to her abuser. Because instead of a normal brained flight or fight response i.e. "Hey this shit is toxic I need to get away" She goes right back to her abuser. The old saying is true "Toxic attracts Toxic" like flies on shit.
My best guess is that she gets severe abandonment anxiety with all of her toxic boyfriends. Matter of fact I really think it's only long distance keeping her from still messing around with Matt Mead despite what he may have done to her. I can almost guarantee they still communicate. I would also bet she has severe limerence which makes her fall for these toxic dirtbags very quick in the relationship. Very similar to narcissistic shared fantasies.
That writing ER + S in the snow message was pretty cringeworthy if it wasn't "directed" by Ralph himself.