Compulsory heterosexuality is a real concept, just one that's been completely bastardized by the Tumblr community. You've probably heard of at least one long-term relationship or marriage that broke up because one party was gay but in deep denial. Those types of relationships typically involve serious intimacy issues caused by lack of attraction, but they're kept going artificially because the gay person feels obligated. The problem is considerably more prevalent in countries where open gay relationships are frowned upon, but even today in the US, a gay person born to a less accepting family might still go through a phase of denial and date people they're not attracted to.
Shit just hit the fan when it caught on among people who never seriously experienced discrimination. It's turned into a way to sell gold-star lesbian mentality to closet bisexuals who really want to be a part of the cool kids club. I've had one person describe their experience to me as "I've never felt attraction to men without feeling bad about it", as if that should be validated by a label and not therapy.
I think I know why hatred of bisexuals exists, but it’s one of those things that’s hard to talk about without people getting mad.
It’s most accurately described as resentment... if you’re bisexual, you’re at the very least capable of having a normal dating life, and aren’t forced to scrounge around for whatever/whoever you can get if you’re gay.
The fact that you even have ability to seamlessly blend in with normalcy yet also have same-sex attraction feels like an online game where other people are using aimbots/wall climbing hacks.
You also wouldn’t have to resign yourself to feeling this utter disconnect because so many things considered to be just a part of growing up or a normal part of life don’t apply to you and probably never will, because it specifically has in mind boy-girl relations in mind.
TL; DR your gut reaction is resenting that they can have basically all the perks of being straight yet also get to be gay, too.
I swear to god I don’t hate you if you’re bisexual. It’s just a really nasty and complicated dilemma and I just want to help explain why internet lesbians are such shitty people.
I think I know why hatred of bisexuals exists, but it’s one of those things that’s hard to talk about without people getting mad.
It’s most accurately described as resentment... if you’re bisexual, you’re at the very least capable of having a normal dating life, and aren’t forced to scrounge around for whatever/whoever you can get if you’re gay.
The fact that you even have ability to seamlessly blend in with normalcy yet also have same-sex attraction feels like an online game where other people are using aimbots/wall climbing hacks.
You also wouldn’t have to resign yourself to feeling this utter disconnect because so many things considered to be just a part of growing up or a normal part of life don’t apply to you and probably never will, because it specifically has in mind boy-girl relations in mind.
TL; DR your gut reaction is resenting that they can have basically all the perks of being straight yet also get to be gay, too.
I swear to god I don’t hate you if you’re bisexual. It’s just a really nasty and complicated dilemma and I just want to help explain why internet lesbians are such shitty people.
The old "greedy bisexuals" fallacy, yes. The issue with that is that bisexuality isn't exactly accepted by the entire straight population either, for a number of reasons: perceived promiscuity and infidelity, assumptions of being an attention-seeker or fetishist, visceral disgust at knowing your partner has slept with both men and women, and just good old-fashioned homophobia. Practically speaking, bisexuals don't really have a specific culture to call their own, so they mix in with gay men and lesbians to at the very least avoid overtly homophobic shit. However, if a large enough portion of both straight and gay people kick bisexuals out, then it is legitimately easier for some to just stay closeted forever and openly date only one gender.
I think I know why hatred of bisexuals exists, but it’s one of those things that’s hard to talk about without people getting mad.
It’s most accurately described as resentment... if you’re bisexual, you’re at the very least capable of having a normal dating life, and aren’t forced to scrounge around for whatever/whoever you can get if you’re gay.
The fact that you even have ability to seamlessly blend in with normalcy yet also have same-sex attraction feels like an online game where other people are using aimbots/wall climbing hacks.
You also wouldn’t have to resign yourself to feeling this utter disconnect because so many things considered to be just a part of growing up or a normal part of life don’t apply to you and probably never will, because it specifically has in mind boy-girl relations in mind.
TL; DR your gut reaction is resenting that they can have basically all the perks of being straight yet also get to be gay, too.
I swear to god I don’t hate you if you’re bisexual. It’s just a really nasty and complicated dilemma and I just want to help explain why internet lesbians are such shitty people.
With these lesbiennes' behavior, I predict the next generation's opinion of them will be "crazy bitches who love homewrecking because they can't find love the normal way."
I think I know why hatred of bisexuals exists, but it’s one of those things that’s hard to talk about without people getting mad.
It’s most accurately described as resentment... if you’re bisexual, you’re at the very least capable of having a normal dating life, and aren’t forced to scrounge around for whatever/whoever you can get if you’re gay.
The fact that you even have ability to seamlessly blend in with normalcy yet also have same-sex attraction feels like an online game where other people are using aimbots/wall climbing hacks.
You also wouldn’t have to resign yourself to feeling this utter disconnect because so many things considered to be just a part of growing up or a normal part of life don’t apply to you and probably never will, because it specifically has in mind boy-girl relations in mind.
TL; DR your gut reaction is resenting that they can have basically all the perks of being straight yet also get to be gay, too.
I swear to god I don’t hate you if you’re bisexual. It’s just a really nasty and complicated dilemma and I just want to help explain why internet lesbians are such shitty people.
I think it has to do with the relative size of the dating pool between bisexuals, homosexuals (both gay and lesbian) and straight people.
Bi people and pan people can date heterosexual opposite sex partners, bisexual partners of either gender, or homosexual partners of the same gender. Heterosexual people can date heterosexual opposite sex partners, and bisexual opposite sex partners. Homosexual people can date same sex bisexual people and homosexual same sex people.
But, here's the thing. About 95% + of all people are straight, and maybe like 4% are bi and the rest are gay (I don't know, but point is, most people are straight). This means bi people's pool is the largest, as they get all of the straight people of the opposite sex, which is most members of the opposite sex, and the homosexual same sex people as well as all other bisexuals. Heterosexual people are second largest, since most people are heterosexual, they get most members of the opposite sex and opposite sex bisexuals too. However, if you are exclusively homosexual, your dating pool is smaller by many orders of magnitude, because all you have are the few members of your sex who are homosexual and only the bisexuals of the same sex. The dating pool for bisexuals is only slightly larger than heterosexuals, while the dating pool for homosexuals is many times smaller than heterosexuals. This means by sheer numbers alone, even with no homophobia, homosexual people have to work much harder to find a partner, and looking for a partner in the wild could easily end in "Sorry, I'm straight." To make matters worse, because of it being easier to find opposite sex partners since there are more possibilities, most bi people will pair off with a member of the opposite sex. Not because it's any easier, just because there are more possible partners of the opposite sex.
The difference in the relative sizes of the dating pools could lead to resentment, leading to the whole nice gal "Oh woe is me why can't we convert those evil straights" and "those bihets are fake gays" instead of realizing it's all a numbers game.
There is indeed another place where differences in relative dating pool sizes breeds resentment, and that's the incels community. Incels have a much smaller pool of women willing to date them, due to being unattractive, the Tism , or having serious personality issues (the most common reason) then normie men or so called "Chads". In a situation analogous to the lesbians being angry at bi people for dating members of the opposite sex, incels are angry at women for dating "Normies" and "Chads" instead of them. Incels also resent "Chads" for having many more options to choose from for women, just like lesbians think its so easy for bisexuals and heterosexuals.
These attitudes are interestingly enough, seen more in lesbians than gay men. I haven't seen gay men respond to this with resentment. Why may that be?
3rd wave (or is it 4th?) feminism? Women in general are more and more pushed to complain and scream about every little problem they may have while calling it oppression and blaming the patriarchy, obviously some take it to the extreme and end up posted in this forum.
I'm not saying that every woman does this kind of stuff but feminism (the good and the bad) is everywhere now and speaking up is one of the mottos, gay men don't have this, in fact it could be frowned upon if they complained as much as lesbians do right now, imagine a gay man saying that girls are gross and nobody should date them, it would be social suicide.
They’re much less common but they still exist. One time me and my friends were at a club once and this one drunk dude was standing on the sidewalk ranting about how there were no gay guys in there and pointing at guys who were leaving and shouting “You’re probably straight!” Technically it was a gay club, but all the other places in town sucked, so pretty much everyone went there.
The same Nice Gal lesbian I'd known in high school that I shared details about before was a real piece of work, let me tell you. She would actively try to brainwash other girls into thinking they were gay, especially for her. We had this quiet little slip of a thing in one of our classes that was having issues with her boyfriend. Immediately, the she-harpy swooped in after what she thought was easy prey. Told her all kinds of creepy shit like "Being with a girl wouldn't make you have this level of emotional distress like you would with your boyfriend!" or "He doesn't understand you the way I can" or "being with another woman is soooo much better!".
Flashforward a few weeks and she's convinced this girl into a "relationship" with her. It lasts all of a week because the girl hated the inappropriate touching she was subjected to to the point where it made her cry. After she cut ties with the Nice Gal, the latter began to harass her and tell her all kinds of ugly shit--how her boyfriend would never take her back, how men would never understand her, how she MUST be gay but she's too much of a whiny prude to admit it, etc. Eventually, it was too much and the girl begged her folks to be transferred to another school just to get away from this shit. We never saw her again after that.
The same Nice Gal lesbian I'd known in high school that I shared details about before was a real piece of work, let me tell you. She would actively try to brainwash other girls into thinking they were gay, especially for her. We had this quiet little slip of a thing in one of our classes that was having issues with her boyfriend. Immediately, the she-harpy swooped in after what she thought was easy prey. Told her all kinds of creepy shit like "Being with a girl wouldn't make you have this level of emotional distress like you would with your boyfriend!" or "He doesn't understand you the way I can" or "being with another woman is soooo much better!".
Flashforward a few weeks and she's convinced this girl into a "relationship" with her. It lasts all of a week because the girl hated the inappropriate touching she was subjected to to the point where it made her cry. After she cut ties with the Nice Gal, the latter began to harass her and tell her all kinds of ugly shit--how her boyfriend would never take her back, how men would never understand her, how she MUST be gay but she's too much of a whiny prude to admit it, etc. Eventually, it was too much and the girl begged her folks to be transferred to another school just to get away from this shit. We never saw her again after that.
The scary thing was that she DID. By senior year of high school, MLP was just starting to take off in "popularity". She had a shitty fedora she wore to talent shows and her pony collection consisted of several awful drawings of ponified Dragon Age characters. So she hits the mark on both accounts.
With these lesbiennes' behavior, I predict the next generation's opinion of them will be "crazy bitches who love homewrecking because they can't find love the normal way."
I'm late to this thread and haven't read the whole thing, so please don't be pissed if this was already answered.
But aren't one of the reasons that Lesbians hate bi women is that bisexual women tend to bring diseases into the Lesbian community picked up from their male relationships?
I'm late to this thread and haven't read the whole thing, so please don't be pissed if this was already answered.
But aren't one of the reasons that Lesbians hate bi women is that bisexual women tend to bring diseases into the Lesbian community picked up from their male relationships?
It's mostly because some lesbians think that bi women are secretly straight and/or that they can just date someone of another gender if they wanted, so they're not really oppressed.
For real. The term "wlw" (ugh) is supposed to mean "women loving women", but has become synonymous in their eyes with lesbian. They've kicked bi people out of an all-inclusive term meant for them, too.
I feel like I'm spouting mildly Tumblr-esque rhetoric but there really isn't a better way to phrase this.
Also,
As someone who is bisexual, this pisses me off a little.
I've seen some mean stuff said online about bi people- interestingly enough, almost all of it was from Internet lesbians. They bitch and moan about how straight people are soooo homophobic and act as if they're so much better, but then pull this shit against other "wlw". And they only seem to like bi women when they have a chance to get in their pants. As, you know, has been reiterated time and time again in this thread.
The 'wlw' thing is stupid. Stop trying to force bi girls and lesbians together as a community! It literally has never ended well. Gay men don't have this problem because bi men just wanna hook up discretely and go home. This isn't 1977 when you need everyone you can get to form a united front or something.
