User talk:Abd - CFC
You know how we had this conversation awhile back, where I said that I'd been with a girl and she had said "no" and I'd kept trying to have sex with her anyway, wrestling with her and stuff, till finally I gave up, and then later she accused me of rape? And the conclusion we came to is, you just shouldn't lay hands on a girl without her permission?Well, I was in a situation with a subsequent chick, where it was about 4 AM in the morning, and we were lying in bed together, and she was naked, and I tried to roll her over and she said "Oww" angrily and rolled back over. And I just left the situation like that; I didn't try to get on top of her or anything, or be persistent at getting her to have sex. I let her resume sleeping, and left the room to go on the computer, to try to distract myself from my horniness.Then, in the morning, she angrily put on her clothes and said, "You tried to roll me over, and then just went away." And she brought this up a couple times, as though I'd done something seriously annoying. What was she annoyed at, or more annoyed at, I wonder -- the fact that I rolled her over, or the fact that I didn't have sex with her after rolling her over?What she'd written to me in the past was:And I was definietly a tomboy in my younger yearsI rarely played with dollsOr even toys in generalI was always outsideplaying sports, playing in the mud, riding horses, etcI didn't wear a dress of my own accord until I was well into adulthoodI've been told many times in my life that I'm a type A personality, that I'm a natural leader, :things like thatThat's a big part of why I'm a spinster, tbhIt's a natural trait, but yes it was strongly encouraged in me, alwaysIt wouldn't be so problematic if I'd been told as a child that I'm abnormal for a femaleBut my conditioning only amplified what was already thereNow, do I have plenty of times where I'd love someone to take the control out of my hands? Absolutely.My problem is that I have to feel the person I'm surrendering that control to is more competent than I am.So, the one place where a natural female submissiveness is strongest in meis sexuallyThat's where I most enjoy being dominateddisplays of a male's physical strength remind methat no matter what my personality is likePhysically, a male will always triumph over meAnd ultimately, when society collapses that will matter more than my personalitySo, it's a very basic, primal thingThat's why I was so excited about youI'd enjoy you forcing me... so I guess it wouldn't be genuine forcebut there are a lot of guys who claim to be into consensual non-con, but wouldn't really do it when push comes to shoveI think you will. That's part of the chemistry. At least on my end.Well, I guess in this case she got pissed off that I
didn't rape her. And this is not an uncommon type of situation, actually, I think. Chicks say they hate rapists, but they also seem to despise guys who pussyfoot around rather than being decisive and just taking what they want sometimes. If a chick were to have the right to say "no" then she would have to take responsibility for the times when she says "yes" and chicks don't really want that. They want to feel like a dude is taking on the responsibility and just having his way with them, and so they can cry rape and play the victim later if that's convenient (e.g. they wanna break up the relationship because he was deficient in some way or another).I dunno, man. It seems life is not as simple as just saying, "Don't rape chicks." Chicks will even sometimes train men to rape by saying "No" and then asking, "Why did you stop? When I say no, I want you to keep going, because I get off on that." There's this
series of articles about how some women will even put themselves in situations where they purposefully provoke men to rape them, e.g. by plying him with alcohol to try to lower his inhibitions and then acting disrespectful toward him, and are disappointed if the guy doesn't take the bait.What do you think about all that?
69.244.230.1 13:23, 13 February 2020 (UTC)
