As a local expert on Max and fellow woman, I have a few things to say about the gross allegations posed by Stardust and Chaeiry.
1. Max has had a back injury since 2020. I will not share past what he has said on stream, but I can corroborate that he should be standing up MULTIPLE times per stream, and I yell at him daily for not doing it enough. What he said about his pants being low is a literal recommendation from his PT, but even if it wasn't, this would never be a complaint if he was a woman - being hairy isn't indecent, you are just sexist.
2. Implying that Max is so horny and desperate that he needs to flash you to get off or retaliate is ludicrous. Trust me, there is no shortage of consenting women who want to watch him, and there is no reason to be underhanded or retaliatory. He has no problem asking people directly if that is his intention, and this is a consistent personality trait that he has shown time and time again, in sexual and nonsexual situations. Shaming him and implying that he is rapey because these kinks exist or because you personally watched his porn/sex doll review and are suddenly deciding to sexualize him on stream is sexist and generally anti-sex. Moreover, so many of you fucks are so sexist that you think that men have no self control, or ability to say no to sex. That is literally part of the problem with this whole conversation - none of you idiots can conceptualize a man genuinely saying no to sex. As a personal recipient of this at times, rest assured men, specifically Max, can say no.
3. Feeling violated is not the same as being violated. Having talked with Max on camera about consent, I know that engaging with him on this topic can be a difficult task, especially in public. I have empathy for both Stardust and Chaeiry in the conversation, and genuinely think that they felt violated by what Max SAID during these conversations. It is unusual to have someone push back about something so deeply personal as this topic can be, and he does have a way of expressing himself that can feel pointed and hurtful at times. I think part of what went wrong is that neither of them seemed to want to acknowledge the emotional stakes in the conversation, when it is obvious that they are there. I think this is sexist too. There is an unfair expectation that women have to pretend they aren't emotionally compromised because if they are, they fall into a stereotype. I don't feel comfortable being vulnerable in these moments either, but I think we should try. If they could have been more vulnerable, I think they could have advocated for what they needed from him and he would have been open to it. Despite popular belief, you can ask Max to be nicer, you can ask him to take it down a notch, you can ask why he is being antagonistic or ask him to stop. And worst case scenario? You can fucking leave if you are uncomfortable. Your feelings don't require a logical explanation or action to be attached in order to be valid. You can feel what you feel without making up harassment allegations.
4. There were points in the conversation where you can see both of them claim that Max was advocating for women dropping sexual boundaries if men are upset. This is not Max's stance, as he very clearly reiterated, and I think their arguments here were at best, confused. That being said, I can genuinely relate to the internal experience of thinking that Max is against me or my boundaries, thinking that he is being condescending, feeling strongly that there cannot be two perspectives, feeling internally like I can't have boundaries if he is upset by them, whereas in a calmer moment I can see what he means. But that is the thing about boundaries - they are there BECAUSE the other person is likely to be upset or disagree. If the other person is already on the same page as you, you wouldn't need the boundary. You HAVE to be okay with and accept that the other person may have bad feelings about your boundary, and still maintain it. Just because the other person has bad feelings about the boundary doesn't make that person bad. This is common for almost everyone - being told no is hard, especially from someone you like or want to fuck. Pushing past the boundary would be bad, but NO ONE ever advocated for that. Using yourself as an example in a theoretical discussion of boundaries is not the same as someone pushing past your boundaries. Moreover, when Chaeiry did set her boundary and left the stream, Max said he understood and stated publicly that she was always welcome back, and that he was glad she stood up for herself. Show me a classier reaction, I fucking dare you.
5. If Max didn't hold his current position, and had agreed with Stardust and Chaeiry, or changed his tune because of their arguments, there is no way in hell that they would be saying this. I think Chaeiry might have still commented on it as she did in the stream (which I personally think is a power play as well), but I think the idea that she would have low key accused him of sexual harassment if he was agreeing with them is laughable. If Chaeiry was unsatisfied with Max's answer when she asked about him standing up, she could have left, she could have said that she was uncomfortable, and asked him not to do that, etc. Failing to advocate for one's self in a conversation is not a reason to make a public sexual harassment claim against someone.
Having considered both of these women as allies and even loosely as friends, I feel personally betrayed by their actions here. Max deserves better than this, and he would never in a million years try to ruin your careers or lives in the way you are doing now. It is an embarrassing day to be a woman watching this mess.
