Disciplining the bitch worked
Postby
drgk » Sun Dec 09, 2012 9:36 pm
I watched a few videos from this sub last night after a particularly degrading fight with my wife. You see, I damaged the car on the way home running over an object that was in the road... something I could not have avoided. For hours, she harassed me, threatened to cancel our first trip back to see our family in two years. I tried to reason with her, I tried to get her to tell me what I had done that was so wrong and asked how I could make it right...but alas I slept alone. I should note that we're down to sex about once a month and she sleeps in our daughter's room almost every night.
At any rate, I found a link to this sub in someone's comment literally minutes after our argument ended and she went to sleep. I'm no stranger to the MR movement in general and I've been dying to find a way to fix the insanity of our relationship. MR made me see how badly I was being treated but until found these videos nothing had suggested an actual solution besides "lawyer up, delete facebook, hit the gym." The videos gave me a chuckle and made me feel like I wasn't going crazy for feeling like I was being treated poorly. Until I got to this one: (VIDEO)
Sure, the language is crass but something about it seemed to make sense...I figured fuck it, let's give it a try.
This morning at 6:30 a.m. my wife and daughter stirring in the next room woke me. I remained in bed. My daughter toddled in, she's two by the way, and I told her good morning. My wife walked in and I rolled over and said, "make some pancakes and call me when they are ready," and I went back to sleep. She made the pancakes and called me when they were ready.
At breakfast, I ate my first pancake, my wife asked if I would like another and I said yes. She sat down a minute later with her plate and I said, "did you make coffee?" She had not. I said, "I make coffee on weekdays because I'm up first, I expect you to make it on the weekends." She seemed flabbergasted but didn't argue.
We began to discuss our day. I told her what we were going to do. When we were getting ready to leave I told her what to do at each step of the process. Out of nowhere she rudely demanded I put my phone away and change my daughter's diaper. I turned my phone off and started to get up and she barked the order at me a second time. I responded, "that type of behavior is unacceptable, change the diaper yourself." She started to argue and I cut her off, "I'm not debating it, I'm simply telling you that that behavior is unacceptable." She threw down her things and said, "I'm not going," and stormed into the bedroom. I followed her in and said, "this is rebellious adolescent behavior, you have hands, you can change a diaper, we're not going to scuttle our plans for the day because I didn't jump fast enough when you told me to, now let's go." She told me to leave my daughter and get out of the house. Instead, I decided to take my daughter with me and we had a lovely three hour trip to Target where I proceeded to buy $200 worth of toys that my wife previously refused to let my buy...some for me and some for my daughter. We ate lunch at a restaurant my wife hates and came home.
My wife was sullen and silent when I came home. After fifteen or twenty minutes she called me into the bedroom where she was putting away laundry and tearfully told me that I wasn't the man she married and that if I kept this up she would leave me. She kept repeating, over and over, how I was being so mean to her and she didn't know why. I kept repeating, calmly and in a low voice, "I'm not being mean. I am simply pointing out how your behavior is unacceptable and that I will not tolerate it." She cried, she yelled, I remained calm and kept redirecting the conversation back to her behavior whenever she tried to deflect. She threatened me with divorce multiple times, I almost lost my nerve but I stuck to it.
At this point I was shaken, I saw the first stage of rebellion, the second of passive resistance, I originally expected this process to take weeks or months...not hours.
My wife made lunch for my daughter and, at my daughter's request, we both went into my daughter's room to take a nap with her. I woke up an hour or so later and played video games until they both woke up. My wife came out and I asked, "do you feel any better?"
Now here's where my mind was blown.
My wife walked over, stroked my back, ran her fingers through my hair, leaned down, kissed my forehead and said, "I'm so sorry, I was so mean to you."
I said, "that's ok."
She said, "No, it's not ok. I shouldn't treat you like that."
I said, "no, you shouldn't, and that's not what I meant, I was simply accepting your apology." Then I brought out the coup de grace, a big bag of M&Ms I had bought at Target. "Here honey," I said, "this is your reward for recognizing your own bad behavior." Doggy treats to reinforce good behavior, like the bitch she is.
It's a small step, but she has never, not even after her most hysterical and violent outbursts for a second ever admitted any culpability for her behavior or apologized for it. It has
always been my fault that she is behaving so atrociously. I'm going to keep it up, I'm going to discipline the shit out of this bitch until she's fucking obedient. I truly wish this isn't how it had to be, I tried, I really tried to have a relationship built on mutual respect and consensus but have come to the conclusion that such a thing does not exist. One party must be dominant, and if it is her it will be rule by one who does not operate using logic and reason...chaos will be the inevitable result.
I will not strike her and am somewhat averse to using physical pain to discipline her. Any ideas? Not sure that words alone are only going to do the trick. I'd like to have her sucking dick on command by the end of the year, possible?