The Japanese are fucking weird, anyone catering or involving themselves to their anime culture is fucking weird and most likely mentally ill.
The culture around it is so fucked up because it only promotes fucking degeneracy while promising a space for nerds and people like us but I believe it only turns you into someone not very far from the level of gross trannies are.
I can't really disagree with you even if I watch chuubas, with Pippa a lot of what she has built is based around all of this degeneracy that she seems to enjoy herself even (I really believe she is into it), which is obviously fucked up. The community in general has a lot of that, but every time you say anything against it you are painted as a tourist (and everyone hates annoying newfags), disingenuous, evil, a moralfaggot, etc.
It's impossible, there is no beating it. It's crystalized and hardened into the culture and it will only continue unless some fucking law is made about it, but I seriously doubt that will ever happen during both of our lifetimes or our children's, and I'm younger than you.