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Stranger Neighbors said:
I'm not sure... I'm an innocent Mormon boy just trying to relate so I can bring you hairy musky monsters to the light... I'll do just about anything for Joseph Smith tho
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Do you want someone to turn your mouth into a girl.... for the Lord?
 
I'm bi and have been distanced from both the gay community and the straight community because of the "you're too straight/too gay for us" dichotomy. I just sleep with whoever I want when I'm single and people just kind of see it as "oh, that Turdy."
 
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At this point I think I have a better chance at going to non gay events than trying to go to a gay bar or some app. everytime I look at the apps there's loads of pics of dudes in some kind of fetish gear in public. or your generic lunatic or effeminate guy. not to mention all of the gay meeting areas are just only for hook ups. Where did you lottery winners find your non crazy other half?
 
Xitaens said:
At this point I think I have a better chance at going to non gay events than trying to go to a gay bar or some app. everytime I look at the apps there's loads of pics of dudes in some kind of fetish gear in public. or your generic lunatic or effeminate guy. not to mention all of the gay meeting areas are just only for hook ups. Where did you lottery winners find your non crazy other half?
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Stuck with dating apps for 3-4 years until a normal person appeared.
 
Surf and TERF said:
Stuck with dating apps for 3-4 years until a normal person appeared.
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That's what confuses me. Everything with common logic is saying to avoid any LGBT apps/gatherings like the plague, yet several people here such as yourself found their SOs through them anyway. Is it just lucky timing and highly specific screening to weed out the weirdos? Because if there's some sort of "trick" to it I'd see about giving things a shot at some point, since at least there's still a more likely chance than just hoping I bungle into someone at complete random.
 
UntimelyDhelmise said:
Is it just lucky timing and highly specific screening to weed out the weirdos?
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Yeah
@polonium mentioned doing this too but being upfront was helpful for me.

My profile was basically:

- dating for a relationship only.
- describing my place in life (job, education)
- state that I have no interest in making LGBT the main facet of my identity
- disinterest in drugs
- disinterest in hookups

Don’t state these things like a grumpy asshole, but be clear about it. It scares away a lot of people who will waste your time.

It also helps to not obsess over the apps. I would feel overwhelmed and miserable unless I kept expectations low and notifications off. Even when I was talking to someone, I explained that I was busy and only opening the app once or twice a day. Anyone who couldn’t tolerate that probably didn’t have enough of a life anyway.
 
Surf and TERF said:
Yeah
@polonium mentioned doing this too but being upfront was helpful for me.

My profile was basically:

- dating for a relationship only.
- describing my place in life (job, education)
- state that I have no interest in making LGBT the main facet of my identity
- disinterest in drugs
- disinterest in hookups

Don’t state these things like a grumpy asshole, but be clear about it. It scares away a lot of people who will waste your time.

It also helps to not obsess over the apps. I would feel overwhelmed and miserable unless I kept expectations low and notifications off. Even when I was talking to someone, I explained that I was busy and only opening the app once or twice a day. Anyone who couldn’t tolerate that probably didn’t have enough of a life anyway.
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Seconding this.
I had a profile on a couple of different apps, I made sure to be upfront about looking for something long term, although I was open to no-strings/hookups it wasn't really what I was there for. I was also not rude to people even if I wasn't interested, because way too many people are rude, and western australia has a small population so if you're going to inevitably get a reputation it might as well be the right one. I've got a friend who calls those kind of apps "gay social media" and I basically treated it that way - just a location-aware messaging service for people who were also interested in dudes. Luckily for me, I had a few dates that went nowhere, got laid a few times when I wanted it, and after maybe a year of that I did find someone I wanted to settle down with and who, for some inexplicable reason, wants to settle down with me.

I agree that the dating apps look like a minefield of cock pics, deviants and the worst gay stereotypes, but they're just a tool at the end of the day and if you use them a certain way it is entirely possible to get what you want out of them.
 
Xitaens said:
Where did you lottery winners find your non crazy other half?
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work a stint in sales/retail that isn't over the internet/phone. You need to be meeting fresh faces to the tune of 80-100 people a day, 3 days a week minimum. If you aren't socially tarded eventually you'll meet people where there's mutual attraction.

I have a friend who's a career girl working in a medical lab 50 hours a week, and is starting to get baby-crazy and can't find a man. It's because you're locked in a fucking lab processing sick people's blood and piss for most of your waking hours dear. Dating apps have not helped her.
 
UntimelyDhelmise said:
That's what confuses me. Everything with common logic is saying to avoid any LGBT apps/gatherings like the plague, yet several people here such as yourself found their SOs through them anyway. Is it just lucky timing and highly specific screening to weed out the weirdos? Because if there's some sort of "trick" to it I'd see about giving things a shot at some point, since at least there's still a more likely chance than just hoping I bungle into someone at complete random.
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You need to go to settings, long press the version number 5 times, then enter your API key. An advanced settings menu will then appear. Select the experimental "remove crazies" option, and you're good to go.
 
Haramburger said:
work a stint in sales/retail that isn't over the internet/phone. You need to be meeting fresh faces to the tune of 80-100 people a day, 3 days a week minimum. If you aren't socially tarded eventually you'll meet people where there's mutual attraction.

I have a friend who's a career girl working in a medical lab 50 hours a week, and is starting to get baby-crazy and can't find a man. It's because you're locked in a fucking lab processing sick people's blood and piss for most of your waking hours dear. Dating apps have not helped her.
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The thing is, most level headed gays look like straight people. Most social jobs still aren’t personal enough to determine who is and isn’t a potential partner.

At least with dating apps, you’re putting yourself out there somehow. It’s better than being totally helpless.
 
Self-hating troon said:
Put on a happy face :shit-eating:

I'm a loser baby so why don't you kill me? At least I'm not Chris chan! uwu nuzzle wuzzles sugoi oni chan uwu
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You're gonna start talking normal or I will pound your ass until you forget how to language. :tomgirl:

Senor Cardgage Mortgage said:
I still don't understand what the hell queer means anymore.

Is it like bi but you'll fuck trannies?
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It's become a massive catch all for anything that isn't straight. I miss when it was just plain gay., simpler times.
 
Senor Cardgage Mortgage said:
I still don't understand what the hell queer means anymore.

Is it like bi but you'll fuck trannies?
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It's a nonsense word for tumblrspecial assholes to be included in the LGBTQWERTY community. You a straight guy but can admit another dude is good looking? Not attracted to him, but acknowledge he's a good looking dude? You're queer! Ever play a female character in a video game or tabletop game despite being male? You're queer! Possibly trans as well!
 
"Bi but fucks trannies" is pansexual I guess. I don't see why there's even a need for the label, but I guess the implication that there's only two genders made some people upset? I don't even know.
 
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