Kosher Sex for Antisemites
The opposite of antisemitism is not tolerance. It is joy.
Rabbi Shmuley Boteach
Dec 26, 2025
I am writing a new book about sexual repression and antisemitism. Its title: “Kosher Sex for Antisemites.”
The idea, which has been germinating with me for years, came to me in its final form when arch antisemite Tucker Carlson recently told ten million viewers that O, Rabbi Shmuley, am the evil Jew in America and called me “the butt plug Rabbi.”
Firstly, I’m honored with the distinction and I plan to frame it. Out of six million evil Jews in America, to be the most evil is quite a distinction. Second, Qatarlson thought he was insulting me, based on my blockbuster international best-seller and generation defining book “Kosher Sex” and my daughter Chana’s Kosher.Sex store which selves, among countless other things, wrote devices for married couples.
Together, Chana and I have saved hundreds of thousands of marriages, especially and including religious Christians and Jews who are often erroneously taught to be sexually inhibited in marriage.
We have saved tens of millions of men from porn addiction and a mountain of marriages from infidelity. Qatarlson, if you’re reading – and you unhealthy years-long obsession with me means you probably are - no one needs our devices more than you, which is is why I’m giving you a $500 Christmas gift card for Kosher.Sex to finally deal with your deeply anal sexual repression. Indeed, when you broadcast if often seems like your constipated. Let is help you, brother.
But I digress.
My new book grows directly out of Kosher Sex, my international bestseller published more than a quarter-century ago, a book that argued something still radical in our age of both pornographic excess and puritanical rage: that moral, passionate, joyful sex between husband and wife is not a concession to human weakness but a celebration of human dignity.
What I did not fully grasp then—but understand with brutal clarity now—is that hatred of Jewish sexuality is not incidental to antisemitism. It is central to it.
Antisemitism is not only a hatred of Jews. It is a hatred of Jewish joy, Jewish vitality, and Jewish intimacy.
Over the past year, especially since the Hamas massacre of October 7, I have debated antisemites across the ideological spectrum—Islamists, far-left radicals, conspiracy theorists, and right-wing populists. Their politics differ wildly. Their psychology does not.
Nearly all of them, without exception, fixate obsessively on Jewish sex and my book and Chana’s company “Kosher Sex.” In thee heightened state of misogyny and sexual repression, they bring it up in every single debate. Their envy of the joy of Jewish sex and the celebration of life that it represents is self-evident, if not ugly.
They rage about my books: Kosher Sex, Kosher Lust, The Kosher Sutra. They sneer at the idea that Judaism treats erotic love not as a shameful necessity but as a sacred art. Psychotic antisemites like Candace Owens’s, with their outdated views that Alex is only for procreation and not for marital intimacy, are the worst of all. And they seethe over the fact that my daughter in Israel runs a Kosher Sex company that helps married couples deepen intimacy—saving countless relationships from pornography addiction, adultery, emotional estrangement, and divorce.
Let me be clear. I am a child of divorce and in the millions of marriages I have helped save, I could not be prouder.
Saving marriages is the most counter-revolutionary act in a civilization addicted to destruction.
Yet to antisemites, this is unforgivable.
Which explains why Tucker Qatarlson, with the second most viewed podcast in America, devoted an entire segment to publicly referring to me as “the evil Jew in America,” mocking me as “Rabbi Buttplug”—a slur aimed not merely at me but at the idea that Jewish sexuality can be holy, disciplined, and joyful rather than degraded or violent.
This was not an insult. It was a confession.
Because antisemitism has always had an erotic pathology at its core.
Why Antisemites Are Obsessed with Jewish Sex
Sex is life-affirming. At its best, it renews energy, intimacy, and hope. It reminds human beings that the body is not an enemy of the soul but its partner.
Marriage, by contrast, can easily become exhausted by routine: bills, stress, fatigue, disappointment. Sexual intimacy is the divine rebellion against deadness. It brings a couple back to life.
That is precisely what antisemites cannot tolerate.
They hate Jews not only because we survive—but because we live well.
They despise that we build families while they glorify martyrdom. That we raise children while they train death cults. That we argue, laugh, flirt, celebrate, and make love while they demand submission, silence, and despair.
Antisemites don’t hate Jews for choosing life. They hate us for enjoying it.
This is why antisemitic ideologies—from medieval Christianity to modern Islamism to contemporary racial extremism—are obsessed with regulating sex. Control erotic life and you control the human spirit.
Judaism refuses that bargain.
Sexual Repression as a Political Weapon
Look carefully at societies steeped in antisemitism and you will find severe sexual repression close by.
Catholic clerical celibacy elevated abstinence into moral superiority—with catastrophic consequences. Entire generations were taught that holiness requires denial of desire. The result was not purity but pathology.
Radical Islamist cultures go further: hyper-segregation of the sexes, obsession with the most extreme and demeaning female modesty, and the reduction of women to symbols of male honor. Sexual frustration curdles into rage, which is then redirected toward Jews.
Nazism followed the same pattern. While outwardly obsessed with racial breeding, the regime stripped sex of intimacy and reduced it to a biological weapon—children for the Reich, not lovers for each other. Eroticism was militarized. Tenderness was suspect. Joy was treason.
Every movement that hates Jews also hates pleasure unless it serves power.
Judaism stands alone in rejecting this sickness.
The Jewish Erotic Tradition
The holiest book in the Hebrew Bible is not a legal code or a war chronicle. It is an erotic love poem.
The Song of Songs does not apologize for desire. It sanctifies it. Breasts, kisses, longing, physical yearning—these are the metaphors Scripture uses to describe divine love.
This is not incidental. It is foundational.
The Torah forbids coveting your neighbor’s spouse precisely because it assumes you are meant to desire your own. Jewish law obligates a husband to sexually satisfy his wife—not as charity, but as justice.
Sex in Judaism is not merely for procreation. It is for connection.
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Judaism teaches that survival without intimacy is not survival at all.
This is what terrifies antisemites.
Why Jewish Joy Is Intolerable to Bigots
Watch the anti-Israel mobs shutting down concerts, blocking highways, screaming at strangers. These are not happy people. They derive pleasure only from depriving others of it.
Misery seeks company. Antisemites seek accomplices.
Israel, despite war, trauma, and global hostility, remains one of the world’s happiest nations. Jewish culture produces humor, music, family warmth, intellectual playfulness, and erotic confidence.
This is unbearable to those whose worldviews depend on grievance and grievance alone.
Nothing enrages a bigot more than a people who refuse to be broken.
The fixation on Jewish sex is therefore no accident. It is the last frontier. If they can make us ashamed of our bodies, our marriages, our intimacy, they can finish the job.
They will fail.
Kosher Sex as Moral Resistance
When my daughter Chana and I help couples heal from porn addiction, rescue sexless marriages, or prevent adultery, we are not selling products. We are fighting civilizational decay.
Pornography does not liberate. It numbs. It trains men to desire women they will never touch and women to compete with fantasies they can never beat. It destroys marriages quietly and efficiently.
Kosher Sex does the opposite. It restores mystery, commitment, exclusivity, and joy.
That is why antisemites hate it.
Jewish sexuality threatens every ideology built on death, despair, and domination.
The Oldest Hatred, Repackaged
Antisemites covet Jewish joy because they lack it. They envy Jewish families because their ideologies devour their own children. They resent Jewish success because it exposes their moral bankruptcy.
Rather than choose life, they seek to extinguish it.
Judaism’s response has always been the same: L’chaim, To Life!
Not survival alone. Not endurance alone. But flourishing.
I am writing this new book because the world desperately needs this truth again. Sexual repression fuels bigotry. Bigotry feeds violence. And joy—authentic, moral, embodied joy—is the antidote.
Kosher Sex was never about provocation.
It was about freedom. The freedom of a man and a woman to be liberated from sexual immorality and licentiousness and focus all their erotic desire on one target: their spouse.
And that, more than anything, is what antisemites cannot forgive.
The book Kosher Sex for Antisemites will be appearing soon. Avowed Jew-haters will, honestly, receive a 50% discount. All they have to do is publicly avow their hatred of Jews, which they do quite organically and publicly already, and the cure, Kosher Sex, will come immediately to the rescue.
L’Chaim!
Rabbi Shmuley Boteach, widely known as “America’s Rabbi”, is one of the world’s most recognized and influential Jewish voices. A bestselling author, award-winning columnist, global human rights advocate, and dynamic public speaker, he has dedicated his life to spreading Jewish values, defending the Jewish people, and championing universal human dignity. The international bestselling author of 36 books that have been translated into multiple languages and sold millions of copies worldwide, his works—including Kosher Sex, Kosher Adultery, The Kosher Sutra, and Kosher Hate—blend timeless Jewish wisdom with modern relevance, challenging readers to rethink love, intimacy, ethics, and spiritual life. His writings are known for their boldness, accessibility, and unapologetic defense of morality in the modern age. In 2000, Rabbi Shmuley became the only rabbi to win The Times of London’s prestigious “Preacher of the Year” competition, and remains the record-holder to this day. He has also been honored with the American Jewish Press Association’s highest award for excellence in commentary, cementing his reputation as one of the foremost Jewish communicators in the world. Follow him on Instagram and X @RabbiShmuley.
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The opposite of antisemitism is not tolerance. It is joy.
Rabbi Shmuley Boteach
Dec 26, 2025
I am writing a new book about sexual repression and antisemitism. Its title: “Kosher Sex for Antisemites.”
The idea, which has been germinating with me for years, came to me in its final form when arch antisemite Tucker Carlson recently told ten million viewers that O, Rabbi Shmuley, am the evil Jew in America and called me “the butt plug Rabbi.”
Firstly, I’m honored with the distinction and I plan to frame it. Out of six million evil Jews in America, to be the most evil is quite a distinction. Second, Qatarlson thought he was insulting me, based on my blockbuster international best-seller and generation defining book “Kosher Sex” and my daughter Chana’s Kosher.Sex store which selves, among countless other things, wrote devices for married couples.
Together, Chana and I have saved hundreds of thousands of marriages, especially and including religious Christians and Jews who are often erroneously taught to be sexually inhibited in marriage.
We have saved tens of millions of men from porn addiction and a mountain of marriages from infidelity. Qatarlson, if you’re reading – and you unhealthy years-long obsession with me means you probably are - no one needs our devices more than you, which is is why I’m giving you a $500 Christmas gift card for Kosher.Sex to finally deal with your deeply anal sexual repression. Indeed, when you broadcast if often seems like your constipated. Let is help you, brother.
But I digress.
My new book grows directly out of Kosher Sex, my international bestseller published more than a quarter-century ago, a book that argued something still radical in our age of both pornographic excess and puritanical rage: that moral, passionate, joyful sex between husband and wife is not a concession to human weakness but a celebration of human dignity.
What I did not fully grasp then—but understand with brutal clarity now—is that hatred of Jewish sexuality is not incidental to antisemitism. It is central to it.
Antisemitism is not only a hatred of Jews. It is a hatred of Jewish joy, Jewish vitality, and Jewish intimacy.
Over the past year, especially since the Hamas massacre of October 7, I have debated antisemites across the ideological spectrum—Islamists, far-left radicals, conspiracy theorists, and right-wing populists. Their politics differ wildly. Their psychology does not.
Nearly all of them, without exception, fixate obsessively on Jewish sex and my book and Chana’s company “Kosher Sex.” In thee heightened state of misogyny and sexual repression, they bring it up in every single debate. Their envy of the joy of Jewish sex and the celebration of life that it represents is self-evident, if not ugly.
They rage about my books: Kosher Sex, Kosher Lust, The Kosher Sutra. They sneer at the idea that Judaism treats erotic love not as a shameful necessity but as a sacred art. Psychotic antisemites like Candace Owens’s, with their outdated views that Alex is only for procreation and not for marital intimacy, are the worst of all. And they seethe over the fact that my daughter in Israel runs a Kosher Sex company that helps married couples deepen intimacy—saving countless relationships from pornography addiction, adultery, emotional estrangement, and divorce.
Let me be clear. I am a child of divorce and in the millions of marriages I have helped save, I could not be prouder.
Saving marriages is the most counter-revolutionary act in a civilization addicted to destruction.
Yet to antisemites, this is unforgivable.
Which explains why Tucker Qatarlson, with the second most viewed podcast in America, devoted an entire segment to publicly referring to me as “the evil Jew in America,” mocking me as “Rabbi Buttplug”—a slur aimed not merely at me but at the idea that Jewish sexuality can be holy, disciplined, and joyful rather than degraded or violent.
This was not an insult. It was a confession.
Because antisemitism has always had an erotic pathology at its core.
Why Antisemites Are Obsessed with Jewish Sex
Sex is life-affirming. At its best, it renews energy, intimacy, and hope. It reminds human beings that the body is not an enemy of the soul but its partner.
Marriage, by contrast, can easily become exhausted by routine: bills, stress, fatigue, disappointment. Sexual intimacy is the divine rebellion against deadness. It brings a couple back to life.
That is precisely what antisemites cannot tolerate.
They hate Jews not only because we survive—but because we live well.
They despise that we build families while they glorify martyrdom. That we raise children while they train death cults. That we argue, laugh, flirt, celebrate, and make love while they demand submission, silence, and despair.
Antisemites don’t hate Jews for choosing life. They hate us for enjoying it.
This is why antisemitic ideologies—from medieval Christianity to modern Islamism to contemporary racial extremism—are obsessed with regulating sex. Control erotic life and you control the human spirit.
Judaism refuses that bargain.
Sexual Repression as a Political Weapon
Look carefully at societies steeped in antisemitism and you will find severe sexual repression close by.
Catholic clerical celibacy elevated abstinence into moral superiority—with catastrophic consequences. Entire generations were taught that holiness requires denial of desire. The result was not purity but pathology.
Radical Islamist cultures go further: hyper-segregation of the sexes, obsession with the most extreme and demeaning female modesty, and the reduction of women to symbols of male honor. Sexual frustration curdles into rage, which is then redirected toward Jews.
Nazism followed the same pattern. While outwardly obsessed with racial breeding, the regime stripped sex of intimacy and reduced it to a biological weapon—children for the Reich, not lovers for each other. Eroticism was militarized. Tenderness was suspect. Joy was treason.
Every movement that hates Jews also hates pleasure unless it serves power.
Judaism stands alone in rejecting this sickness.
The Jewish Erotic Tradition
The holiest book in the Hebrew Bible is not a legal code or a war chronicle. It is an erotic love poem.
The Song of Songs does not apologize for desire. It sanctifies it. Breasts, kisses, longing, physical yearning—these are the metaphors Scripture uses to describe divine love.
This is not incidental. It is foundational.
The Torah forbids coveting your neighbor’s spouse precisely because it assumes you are meant to desire your own. Jewish law obligates a husband to sexually satisfy his wife—not as charity, but as justice.
Sex in Judaism is not merely for procreation. It is for connection.
Pull Quote
Judaism teaches that survival without intimacy is not survival at all.
This is what terrifies antisemites.
Why Jewish Joy Is Intolerable to Bigots
Watch the anti-Israel mobs shutting down concerts, blocking highways, screaming at strangers. These are not happy people. They derive pleasure only from depriving others of it.
Misery seeks company. Antisemites seek accomplices.
Israel, despite war, trauma, and global hostility, remains one of the world’s happiest nations. Jewish culture produces humor, music, family warmth, intellectual playfulness, and erotic confidence.
This is unbearable to those whose worldviews depend on grievance and grievance alone.
Nothing enrages a bigot more than a people who refuse to be broken.
The fixation on Jewish sex is therefore no accident. It is the last frontier. If they can make us ashamed of our bodies, our marriages, our intimacy, they can finish the job.
They will fail.
Kosher Sex as Moral Resistance
When my daughter Chana and I help couples heal from porn addiction, rescue sexless marriages, or prevent adultery, we are not selling products. We are fighting civilizational decay.
Pornography does not liberate. It numbs. It trains men to desire women they will never touch and women to compete with fantasies they can never beat. It destroys marriages quietly and efficiently.
Kosher Sex does the opposite. It restores mystery, commitment, exclusivity, and joy.
That is why antisemites hate it.
Jewish sexuality threatens every ideology built on death, despair, and domination.
The Oldest Hatred, Repackaged
Antisemites covet Jewish joy because they lack it. They envy Jewish families because their ideologies devour their own children. They resent Jewish success because it exposes their moral bankruptcy.
Rather than choose life, they seek to extinguish it.
Judaism’s response has always been the same: L’chaim, To Life!
Not survival alone. Not endurance alone. But flourishing.
I am writing this new book because the world desperately needs this truth again. Sexual repression fuels bigotry. Bigotry feeds violence. And joy—authentic, moral, embodied joy—is the antidote.
Kosher Sex was never about provocation.
It was about freedom. The freedom of a man and a woman to be liberated from sexual immorality and licentiousness and focus all their erotic desire on one target: their spouse.
And that, more than anything, is what antisemites cannot forgive.
The book Kosher Sex for Antisemites will be appearing soon. Avowed Jew-haters will, honestly, receive a 50% discount. All they have to do is publicly avow their hatred of Jews, which they do quite organically and publicly already, and the cure, Kosher Sex, will come immediately to the rescue.
L’Chaim!
Rabbi Shmuley Boteach, widely known as “America’s Rabbi”, is one of the world’s most recognized and influential Jewish voices. A bestselling author, award-winning columnist, global human rights advocate, and dynamic public speaker, he has dedicated his life to spreading Jewish values, defending the Jewish people, and championing universal human dignity. The international bestselling author of 36 books that have been translated into multiple languages and sold millions of copies worldwide, his works—including Kosher Sex, Kosher Adultery, The Kosher Sutra, and Kosher Hate—blend timeless Jewish wisdom with modern relevance, challenging readers to rethink love, intimacy, ethics, and spiritual life. His writings are known for their boldness, accessibility, and unapologetic defense of morality in the modern age. In 2000, Rabbi Shmuley became the only rabbi to win The Times of London’s prestigious “Preacher of the Year” competition, and remains the record-holder to this day. He has also been honored with the American Jewish Press Association’s highest award for excellence in commentary, cementing his reputation as one of the foremost Jewish communicators in the world. Follow him on Instagram and X @RabbiShmuley.
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