Yeah, I am very confused about what is going on. It seems like the voice note really does exist and everyone says it's Grayson. The voice note is allegedly damning enough and disturbing enough for Tati to denounce James and believe what Jeffree was selling her, but if it's so bad why is she now friends with him? If the voice note exists and is what people say it is, why is anyone apologising to James? If the voice note is real, why do the Dolan twins support James? It's just a really weird situation and unless someone releases the voice note we're never going to know what the truth is.
I'm starting to think Jeffree doesn't have the dirt on people that he claims to. I think he has bits and pieces of gossip, some voice mails and some DMs people have sent to him, but nowhere near the extensive network of irrefutable info he's always alluded to. It makes sense to me that he has just enough info to convince people he genuinely has dirt, and uses that to control and manipulate everyone around him.
I also think his 'apology' was drafted by a PR team. I saw a video today saying they don't believe that to be true because no PR person would be dumb enough to write an ad into an apology video but I can totally see Jeffree taking the script and adding his own bullshit to it, namely the attempt to redirect with the talk of BLM (which was so transparent and weak. He's not the asshole, we're the assholes for paying any mind to this little tiff because BLM, as if people can't focus on more than one issue at a time) and the advert for his clown makeup.