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I need to start taking better care of my hair, but I'm not sure where to start.
Sleep, eat, and relax better. No amount of fancy shampoos and hair routines worked for me as effectively as working like a healthy and well-adjusted human being. I can still directly measure my workload by the quantity of hair that is left in my brush.
 
My resolve to not drink the entirety of February lasted for all of three days (actually four because i did not drink on the last day of January, too), not too bad regarding my current situation :story:

Got my physical therapy shit sorted out today, called them yesterday to get an appointment but they told me i have to appear in person to set everything up properly. Went at around 10AM and it was already freezing cold outside. Their practice looks nice and i got six appointments in total, starting in a bit less than a fortnight and ending in early March. Average age of patients there was 70 from what i've seen :story:

The practice is not too far away from my home, there was another one i checked out online that is like five minutes on foot from my home but their website showed me that three of the five physical therapists working there are named Mohammed (i wish i was joking) and if i want to get my back "treated" by someone named Mohammed i could just start shit with any random dude in my hood :story: The healing plan i got from the practice i chose instead tells me i am going to be treated by [MOST GERMAN NAME 1] and [MOST GERMAN NAME 2], i much prefer that.

Doing fine in general, nothing much happening until i start the physio, back is giving me shit but i am still pretty dilligent with my exercise at home to counteract the pain and to generally get back into shape, the Lord knows i've been slacking off big time on that front the last couple of years. Already seeing gains, already got comments on how i look more fit (mostly from my girlfriend so i am not sure if that really counts), keeps me motivated to keep my routine going, to the point that i keep my regimen up even on the days when i am hungover (like i will be tomorrow, most probably). One of the better starts into a new year in the last decade, all things considered.

Edit: God, i love using this Tommy Wiseau emoticon :story:
 
Not bad. Cut my drinking back big time in January. Probably about half the total drinks I'd usually do, which was heavy drinker territory of 4-6 nightly. Cut that back to 2-3 or just not having any. It's not easy, it's boring, but it forces growth and that's good. We'll see if I can keep it going into spring. Spring is usually when I start to get more manic.
 
I recently somehow ordered a giant bag of peanuts for birds. So whatever, you can't return food items, I also got a bird feeder that hangs from a hook like the one that used to hold Boston ferns. So I'm just going to put up a giant bird feeder full of peanuts. Tomorrow, I believe.
 
Faggot multi-quote post incoming while i catch up with the thread.
it's boring
That's my main "motivator" in getting fucked up on drink. I am obviously not working right now because of my back issues, i rise early and get all my general stuff done by around midday (keeping the house clean, exercise and various other stuff i have to take care of) and then there's just so much left of the day where i got fuck all to do. Despite knowing i get even more bored down the line once i opened a bottle and how it affects my general mood and especially on how it fucks with my sleeping patterns/sleep quality i still resort to drink to fill the time more often than not in the last half year or so. At least i am more the the kind of sappy homosexual drunk when i am fucked up (which i know annoys my girlfriend to no end when she's working on her shit)instead of the aggressive and violent type of drunk, i keep telling myself that counts for something even when i know it really doesn't.
i dont understand how anyone goes out in public without trying to look decent. ive seen women at the store wearing ratty t shirts and pj pants, no bra of course, so their titties are swinging down to their knees....completely unkempt and usually followed by their equally unkempt children.
I am not sure right now if i sperged about this before ITT but i know i did in the "What really grinds your gears?" thread before but i absolutely can't understand when i see people at Lidl or the other local super markets who are wearing their house shoes and, what looks like, their sleep wear when they go shopping. I've been down bad bad for prolonged amounts of time in my life but i never went that low, it's a matter of self-respect and a matter of common sense, why would anyone want to drag the filth of the streets/sidewalk into their living quarters like that? Baffling to me no matter how often i see that, which is pretty much on the daily.
All cheese is good.
I am a half-Sardinian mutt so i concur. I already ate stuff like the world-famous maggot cheese (Casu Marzu) and cagliu/caglio di capretto on many occassions and i love it, there's almost no cheese that even manages to gross me out anymore, be it via smell or preparation.
Tardwrangled two autistic students (they're brothers) because they keep fighting in the kitchen again

This time i had a little chat with the mother, and i can see why they behave like this. She just smiles and find it funny, and i can't help but notice i've never seen their dad over the institute...
If i go just by your nickname you're much more patient than any of the souschefs and also chefs in general i've ever worked under. I couldn't hack my apprenticeship as a cook (which is three years here, culinary school and work combined in the so-called dual system of apprenticeship we have in my country) but my then-head chef loved me despite my general fucked-upness (quote "I will make a proper chef out of [my lastname") back then. I still feel shitty about disappointing him 20 years after the fact that he/i didn't manage to do it. Top 3 regrets in my life is that i did not to become a certified cook. People who only had a hint of tard about them were let go in their first three months of working in the kitchen, working under three months made it possible to fire people at will, no reason given, under our generally very strict labour laws back then.
This isn't the thread for fighting.
Agreed, it's my "/r9k/ back when it was good" suboxone. I'm not going to be a faggot about "hurr, disruptive users ruining the site" faggot because i won't deny that in-fighting isn't/can't be funny but this thread is not the place for it.
I sometimes wonder if he thinks I am being "radicalized" by this site.
Not trying to imply anything here, i get how someone could think that about his significant other if he/she spends too much time on this site but it feels kind of uncalled for when you introduced him to the site/threads on the site in the first place and that he/she should've known by that alone how the general tone is on here. Once again i feel blessed with having a girlfriend who shares my views on things (and is quite more radical in her views on many topics where even i am slightly taken aback sometimes by the fervor she displays when we discuss her views on certain things).
I can't be bothered to particularly care unless it affects me personally.
With you on that. Over the past years i had to train myself hard so that only my tribe (so, my family and the people that matter to me on a personal and emotional level) matter to me. Still struggling with having too much empathy for people that clearly do not deserve it and won't reciprocate that empathy.
There's times that I think back on previous relationships and wonder if we could've made it work, and where we'd be now. But hearing stuff like this from different friends/family slaps me back to the reality that it wouldn't have worked out, some of them really were just insane, and life could have been much worse.
Peak male growth. I got two like that, one a teenage love, one from which i was with in my very early 20s. It does nothing to think about "What could've been" when you look back now as a fully-grown adult but i'd lie if i say i don't do that myself nowadays even while i am in a happy relationship and many, many years have passed since i've been with these other girls. I even see that teenage love girl somewhat regularly in my dreams to this day, it's crazy how some early developement shit does a number on your brain.
 
I don't have TV and today is the cheap day at the cinema so we blindly went and saw Iron Lung. I had no idea that Markiplier had directed and stared in a movie based on a video game. It was really well done and the claustrophobic one location interior shot in the sub worked really well. The way that the only way to see out was an X-ray camera was really well done; I loved the alien and all the oozy blood. Why did Marki choose the end of dump month to release this movie, it's so much better than that. I also have desire to play the game.

I will not apologize for bitches taking my bait personally. Also if you don't want fighting, stop bringing up yesterday's news.
 
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If you’re male, sorry I have no advice.
Male advice: If you look at your father and/or grandfather (i read that hair loss supossedly runs on the maternal line of the family but fuck that.) and see the Norwood VII reaper smile back at you just buzz cut that shit. I realized i don't need to prolong shit when i was around 16 years old and the crew cut i was rocking before that already started to look iffy :story: Definitely get barber shop-grade clippers before you decide to take the plunge, i ran through so many hair clippers, brand or non-brand, in my life it is simply ridiculous.
 
If i go just by your nickname you're much more patient than any of the souschefs and also chefs in general i've ever worked under. I couldn't hack my apprenticeship as a cook (which is three years here, culinary school and work combined in the so-called dual system of apprenticeship we have in my country) but my then-head chef loved me despite my general fucked-upness (quote "I will make a proper chef out of [my lastname") back then. I still feel shitty about disappointing him 20 years after the fact that he/i didn't manage to do it. Top 3 regrets in my life is that i did not to become a certified cook. People who only had a hint of tard about them were let go in their first three months of working in the kitchen, working under three months made it possible to fire people at will, no reason given, under our generally very strict labour laws back then.
That depends... When dealing with children students i'm an absolute teddy bear and really patient. Those two students i mentioned are special needs, one has severe autism, the kind that makes him spasm around and jerk his arms and legs out of nowhere, so i have to keep an eye on him. He likes to fidget and mess up with stuff around, and in an industrial kitchen that can go bad... C-MAX Gourmet can melt your face if you open it hot... So when he's in class, i have to tardwrangle him, but he's a good kid. He actually brought me a christmas gift and seem very happy with it. Makes me kind of sad of complaining about him, it's a disease, it's not his fault

When i get older students, i'm a little less tolerant of fuckups. Those 13~14 years old, i'm still very lighthearted with them, but one girl in particular pissed me off when i went to instruct her and she snapped back something like "i'm in my third year i know what i'm doing", i simply replied "your cuts don't show it, start over". I can't stand impolite people that are knowingly impolite. I bartended one place that i supervised two bartender and one barback, and guess who was the one with attitude? Of course, the zoomie barback. It was a small space, and on top of making the drinks, we had to wash the glasses, there was no dishwasher available (bar was new, few weeks since opening). This piece of shit went saying "i don't do dishes, i don't like it". I made him dishwasher duty until 3am

Thing is, i believe in treating everyone with respect and understanding, so long people are willing to act humble. Can't stand uptight people, and i'll happily adminster a dose of realitic check if i deem necessary
 
Those two students i mentioned are special needs,
That, of course, makes a hell of a difference and a lot more sense regarding in how you treated them. I couldn't tell from your post if they were legit autists or if it was just KF vernacular. I definitely worked in kitchens before where i had co-workers that weren't certified special needs but, by God, it made me think they were :story:
 
Male advice: If you look at your father and/or grandfather (i read that hair loss supossedly runs on the maternal line of the family but fuck that.) and see the Norwood VII reaper smile back at you just buzz cut that shit.
Seriously, good advice. Imagine getting bent because you're losing hair. Jesus Christ just get over it. Age with dignity, do not tantrum, just cope with it or shave it all off like a real man. Pussying out and bitching out that you have a thing happening that literally nearly every male has happen, and desperately trying to conceal it is just pathetic.

Just grow a pair, or own the pair you already have, and cope with the fact that yes, you are losing hair.

What is wrong with males so insecure that a receding hairline or male pattern baldness actually causes you to have a tard tantrum? Get over it, deal with it. It's a natural process. Learn some dignity.
 
Seriously, good advice. Imagine getting bent because you're losing hair. Jesus Christ just get over it. Age with dignity, do not tantrum, just cope with it or shave it all off like a real man. Pussying out and bitching out that you have a thing happening that literally nearly every male has happen, and desperately trying to conceal it is just pathetic.

Just grow a pair, or own the pair you already have, and cope with the fact that yes, you are losing hair.

What is wrong with males so insecure that a receding hairline or male pattern baldness actually causes you to have a tard tantrum? Get over it, deal with it. It's a natural process. Learn some dignity.
Looking at your fathers young pictures help soften the blow. I remember dad showing his pictures when he was young and i was whoa, this handsome man looks just like me! Like a carbon copy of myself. And like myself he rocked very long hair, but than i took a gander at his big ol Mickey Mouse hairline and i already got into terms that my hair will probably go byebye next decade or so

When it starts, i'll shave it off, there's nothing uglier than men that are bald and long haired at the same time... But you know, he looked cool with his mickey mouse hairline, he'd comb it back with gel, looked like a mafioso, i want to be like him when i get old
 
Male advice: If you look at your father and/or grandfather (i read that hair loss supossedly runs on the maternal line of the family but fuck that.) and see the Norwood VII reaper smile back at you just buzz cut that shit.
uhm ackshully you inherit baldness from your mother's side of the family :geek:
What is wrong with males so insecure that a receding hairline or male pattern baldness actually causes you to have a tard tantrum? Get over it, deal with it. It's a natural process. Learn some dignity.
I could understand it if you were balding as a young adult or you don't have the headshape to wear "it" bald, but seriously it's a thing I don't get as a woman at all. It sucks to lose your hair, no doubt, but I think there's strength in embracing some of the things you can't change, regardless of money being an issue or not.
Work on what you CAN change instead. Ironic, coming from me, I know.
 
Second Tuesday in a row that I've felt ill and called out of work. It doesn't help that I'm taking next Tuesday off for my house blessing. I hope work doesn't think I'm just trying to skip.
here's nothing uglier than men that are bald and long haired at the same time.
Don't talk shit about Devin Townsend like that
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What is wrong with males so insecure that a receding hairline or male pattern baldness actually causes you to have a tard tantrum? Get over it, deal with it. It's a natural process. Learn some dignity.
Agreed and i want to put heavy emphasis on the dignity part. Modern beauty standards have men in my own age range (late 30s to mid 40s) acting like teenage high school girls. I sort of get the hair thing but not to the point that you'd get insecure enough about it that you take a flight over to Turkey to get some sketchy hair transplantation shit getting done.

It's comparable to when it comes to insecurity about height in males in Current Year. Maybe it isn't modern beauty standards but rather warped, terminally online beauty standards (probably the same thing at this point, i am too old to spit solid facts on this shit) from niggers who never leave their house to interact with the other sex in the first place (applicable for both sexes).

Anecdotal shit for the male height thing: I got a friend i know for almost 20 years by now, not as tight with him as we used to be when we were younger but we see each other semi-regularly up to this day. Dude is 5' 2" and pulled tail ever since his 20s that i could've only dreamed of pulling. I don't want to sound all /v/ in this post but it's honestly a skill issue if it comes down to it, no manner of looksmaxxing (fuck this neologism) will be able to mask your crippling insecurity and is wasted money in the end. Women can smell insecurity ten miles against the wind and i am not sure if young males are aware of this fact these days.

Tangentially related to whatever point i am trying to make in this post, i told the friend i mentioned many times before (affecionately) that should we ever end up in a prison cell mate situation he'd be the one to wash my clothes :story: He's that pretty, seriously, nohomo.

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Like a carbon copy of myself.
Love it and feel it. I resemble my late father to the point that even at five years old and when i did not speak a lick of italian/sardinian yet i walked through the village where my father and most of my family grew up in on summer vacation that the grannies who did nothing all day but look out of their windows shouted at me "Chi sei? Oh, sei il figlio di [my father's name]!" (Who are you? Oh, you are the son of (My father's name)!). I look in the mirror these days and it is even more pronounced, Sardinian genes stronk!

Edit again: While i got childhood memories from when i was about five years old and even younger than that this is one i do not consciously remember, it got told to me by my mother and by my aunt so often over the years that i have it now "saved" as a key childhood memory. Had to DeepL the italian to make sure that the italian is grammatically correct, shame on me.
 
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I did an experiment.
New cheap phone. Have it in the bedroom or wherever I work: battery runs down kind of fast.
Put it in a kitchen on some plates in a closed cupboard a long way from me: almost no battery drain.
... Suck my dick, fbi.
 
I need to start taking better care of my hair, but I'm not sure where to start.
I had a disturbing amount of hair loss that coincided with a seriously peaking shitty work situation that I could not leave. I understand.
Collagen and biotin don’t hurt
I started taking biotin about 18 months ago, and it helps. It takes a while to show up, but the unnatural loss has pretty much stopped (just normal shedding and age) and my hair is healthier and feels thicker. A 90 day supply is about $8 on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01FV7PSAI?ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_fed_asin_title&th=1 (don't pay more, lots of stuff is out there at five or ten times the price and is basically the same thing) just one a day. Bonus, your nails will grow out nicely as well. I can practically use mine to set screws. It takes about 3 months to notice a difference, be patient.
Also, I find that a lot of people wash their hair too often. Once or twice a week max.
 
It's comparable to when it comes to insecurity about height in males in Current Year.
Height’s a funny one, because a lot of the things people stress about are things that ARE kind of are attractive but aren’t at all deal breakers.
You can find tall men attractive as a general concept and still fall for someone short. Just like you can find massive tits or blondes attractive and still be perfectly happy with a skinny girl who’s a brunette. The abstract and the real aren’t the same. Is nice hair on a man attractive? Yes it is, but a crew cut is fine too.
I’ve dated guys between about five seven and six four, and the most objectively attractive one was probably the shorter one (who was an international standard endurance athlete and built like a Greek god, and smart and musical as well.) I’m a fairly short gal and actually found the tall one sort of stoichiometrically incompatible- gives you a crick in the neck looking up like that all the time, you feel like a chihuahua next to a Great Dane.
if I had to build-a-bear the ideal man in the abstract I’d probably go for roughly six foot but I actually don’t care that much in reality and have had a long standing crush on someone about five foot six.
Same for general ‘beauty.’ We seem to confuse things we find nice in the abstract with ‘absolute needs’ in a partner and that’s the way to not finding anyone. Amazing looks, height, all that are a nice extra, the real ‘absolute deal breakers’ are the things that are less visible; being decent, stable, and loving you unconditionally and all that stuff. If a man makes me laugh, is kind, reasonably smart and loves me and I love him, well then we are good even if he looks like a mountain troll. Heck I’m not exactly Helen of Troy.
Right now we can’t help male balding (give me fifty million bucks and a lab, and I’ll have a go…) so you may as well just embrace it.
Having said all that, I do understand why people get upset about it. Post pregnancy a lot of my hair fell out (as is normal and happens to almost all mothers) and I have nice hair and it upset me quite a lot. Perhaps it’s a bit different for women. It did eventually grow back and I have OK ish hair now (not as lush as pre kids but such is life) but it’s just one of those things you have to deal with as you get older, like creaky joints, or an inability to tolerate cretins
Female hair loss is almost always stress, alopecia, post pregnancy, anaemia or hormonal. If it’s hormonal you need a DHT blocker on your scalp and rosemary oil is as good as minoxidil without the side effects (never put neat essential oil on skin.)
 
I've been at my current job since October and I have completely and totally mentally checked out. I updated my resume a couple of weeks ago and am going to start hunting for another job until I get fired or something. I'm a "risk and strategy analyst" at a bank and so far I've spent most of my time rewriting sloppy shitty code written by an employee who left like 2 years ago and wrestling with various bullshit software for presentations that I don't even give. It may not sound like a lot on paper, and to be honest it isn't, but literally half of my team of 4 are Indian women, one of whom is my manager, and they have more than succeeded in making this job hellish. I dread the 1 on 1 with my manager this week and my manager just being around me makes me stressed. I'm thinking of talking to someone within the company about how shitty my team makes my job and that I want an internal transfer, but I have no idea who to bring it up with. Certainly not my manager because with these two women everything is walking on eggshells. They love the guy they hired a month after me, though.
 
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