How are you doing? - Kiwi Farms Wellness Check

[Yamamura]

OK so good news and not so good news. Bad news is I found out the Subaru is basically fucked. The cost to fix it exceeds what it's worth in blue book value.

Good news is I just found out that I'm going to be an uncle today.

 

[Shadfan666xxx000]

These are the roots of my problem, though. I don't have any hobbies because I don't really care about anything. Nothing intrinsically motivates me. I don't have any goals or things I want to achieve. I'm alive, and that's about it. And people don't believe me when I say I was like this even as a kid, but I was. It's not like life beat me down until I thought my dreams were unreachable; I just never had any.

I'm not unhappy because of hatred of the world or "society," or whatever. I think overall people do what they can to get by. Unlike when I was still plagued by adolescent hormones, I don't wave my fist at the world and the normies. People lie, cheat, steal, etc., but I know that has nothing to do with my happiness (or lack thereof).

Save up some money and shut yourself away from the world for a bit. Im not talking about giving up in disgust or anything like that. Simply take a long break if you can. Its not good to work so hard if you dont even know what it is.

 

[Betonhaus]

Update: the job interview went ok, but short. The cabinet shop looked like it would be a bit fun but I'm pretty sure I may have fucked up when I explained why I was doing telemarketing after years of CNC machining (which is admittedly difficult to explain). They promised to get back to me by end of day after they do a couple other interviews through

I did sent my interviewer a follow up text that should be a better answer, and talked about the things about the company I liked and how it builds on skills I'm confident in.

 

[Star Platinum]

Save up some money and shut yourself away from the world for a bit. Im not talking about giving up in disgust or anything like that. Simply take a long break if you can. Its not good to work so hard if you dont even know what it is.

I appreciate the advice. Unfortunately, when I'm not working I don't have anything I want to do. I spend all of my time sleeping or staring at walls. I've had extended periods of non-work and they were not very rehabilitative. Now I'm in a field where extended time off work can be career suicide if it's not medical or parental.

 

[Unremarkable Anus Lover]

Honestly pretty good despite some work related hardships, not mentioning the fact that we don't have AC in the building and every night feels like trying to survive being cooked in an Auschwitz oven. Life keeps on going and my favorite time of the year is just around the corner so I can't really complain too much.

Godspeed fellas, we're all gonna make it.

 

[Betonhaus]

I appreciate the advice. Unfortunately, when I'm not working I don't have anything I want to do. I spend all of my time sleeping or staring at walls. I've had extended periods of non-work and they were not very rehabilitative. Now I'm in a field where extended time off work can be career suicide if it's not medical or parental.

Get a fish or plant? Something that takes little effort to care for and can be left alone for some time? I'd say get a cat but that might be too much at this time. Just something to focus some attention and awareness of need to. Fishes might be more work then a cat depending, but neglecting them isn't as big of a deal.

 

[The Evil Midnight Bomber]

These are the roots of my problem, though. I don't have any hobbies because I don't really care about anything. Nothing intrinsically motivates me. I don't have any goals or things I want to achieve. I'm alive, and that's about it. And people don't believe me when I say I was like this even as a kid, but I was. It's not like life beat me down until I thought my dreams were unreachable; I just never had any.

I'm not unhappy because of hatred of the world or "society," or whatever. I think overall people do what they can to get by. Unlike when I was still plagued by adolescent hormones, I don't wave my fist at the world and the normies. People lie, cheat, steal, etc., but I know that has nothing to do with my happiness (or lack thereof).

I feel the exact same way. As a kid people always told me that I'll surely figure out what I want to do when I get older but that just never happened. I just go to work, I lift weights and then go to sleep afterwards. It's maddening, I've caught myself wishing for major strife just so I can feel what having strong emotions is like again.

 

[Betonhaus]

I feel the exact same way. As a kid people always told me that I'll surely figure out what I want to do when I get older but that just never happened. I just go to work, I lift weights and then go to sleep afterwards. It's maddening, I've caught myself wishing for major strife just so I can feel what having strong emotions is like again.

Get a cat then. They're little balls of drama and give you a reason to live. They did an experiment with prisoners and they (the adults, not the juvies) demonstrated a marked improvement in happiness and compassion.

Let's not talk about how the juvie experiment went.

 

[The Evil Midnight Bomber]

Get a cat then. They're little balls of drama and give you a reason to live. They did an experiment with prisoners and they (the adults, not the juvies) demonstrated a marked improvement in happiness and compassion.

Let's not talk about how the juvie experiment went.

I'm allergic and cats fucking hate me anyway.

 

[Star Platinum]

Get a fish or plant? Something that takes little effort to care for and can be left alone for some time? I'd say get a cat but that might be too much at this time. Just something to focus some attention and awareness of need to. Fishes might be more work then a cat depending, but neglecting them isn't as big of a deal.

I have two cats, actually, and adopted them because I thought it would help my mental health like you suggest. Sweet things. I like keeping a clean home and they kinda ruined that by getting hair and litter everywhere and destroying my furniture though. I never liked owning fish or plants, too hard to tell what they need and too easy to forget about.

I feel the exact same way. As a kid people always told me that I'll surely figure out what I want to do when I get older but that just never happened. I just go to work, I lift weights and then go to sleep afterwards. It's maddening, I've caught myself wishing for major strife just so I can feel what having strong emotions is like again.

You just brought back an old memory from when I was a kid. I was staying at a friend's house, it was late at night, and I went down to the kitchen for a snack. I was surprised to see that his grandfather was sitting there. He asked what I planned to do when I grow up and I said I couldn't think of anything. He asked me a long line of questions and his final conclusion was "Kid, seems like your options are to be a monk or a hobo."

 

[Betonhaus]

I'm allergic and cats fucking hate me anyway.

Both of which can be mitigated. Or get a hedgehog as those are hypoallergenic.
Maybe a spinx.

 

[The Evil Midnight Bomber]

I have two cats, actually, and adopted them because I thought it would help my mental health like you suggest. Sweet things. I like keeping a clean home and they kinda ruined that by getting hair and litter everywhere and destroying my furniture though. I never liked owning fish or plants, too hard to tell what they need and too easy to forget about.

You just brought back an old memory from when I was a kid. I was staying at a friend's house, it was late at night, and I went down to the kitchen for a snack. I was surprised to see that his grandfather was sitting there. He asked what I planned to do when I grow up and I said I couldn't think of anything. He asked me a long line of questions and his final conclusion was "Kid, seems like your options are to be a monk or a hobo."

I've had similar conversations with adults when I was a kid. The most concerning thing to me was always how stumped they seemed by my complete lack of drive. They just had no answers and that scared me.

Both of which can be mitigated. Or get a hedgehog as those are hypoallergenic.
Maybe a spinx.

I have 2 dogs. A lack of pets is not the reason I have no dreams or aspirations.

 

[Betonhaus]

I've had similar conversations with adults when I was a kid. The most concerning thing to me was always how stumped they seemed by my complete lack of drive. They just had no answers and that scared me.

I have 2 dogs. A lack of pets is not the reason I have no dreams or aspirations.

...I'll concede that fear of failure was the only thing keeping me going at times. I may have been projecting a bit as I'm too broke to be able to afford having a pet at this time. The only other thing I could think of is to find some sort of social club that's up your alley? But stuff like the Rotary club are full of old fogies that refuse to make the club more accomodating for fresh meat. I don't know how social shooting ranges would be, or if you would rather just have a big project like a Lego Deathstar or those super complicated wooden constructions. Or painting minifigs for 40k? Probably still projecting as I'm broke af.

That being said, the company I interviewed with wanted someone with more woodworking experience, but they did hire me on and I start tomorrow! I rather quite did not enjoy working in telemarketing.

 

[Vingle]

I've had similar conversations with adults when I was a kid. The most concerning thing to me was always how stumped they seemed by my complete lack of drive. They just had no answers and that scared me.

I don't have anything I want to do ether, but it is more concerning theres this this societal pressure to become something. Which is going to deal some damage in the future, when jobs are getting more and more automated.

 

[Star Platinum]

...I'll concede that fear of failure was the only thing keeping me going at times. I may have been projecting a bit as I'm too broke to be able to afford having a pet at this time. The only other thing I could think of is to find some sort of social club that's up your alley? But stuff like the Rotary club are full of old fogies that refuse to make the club more accomodating for fresh meat. I don't know how social shooting ranges would be, or if you would rather just have a big project like a Lego Deathstar or those super complicated wooden constructions. Or painting minifigs for 40k? Probably still projecting as I'm broke af.

That being said, the company I interviewed with wanted someone with more woodworking experience, but they did hire me on and I start tomorrow! I rather quite did not enjoy working in telemarketing.

Congrats on the job! I hope you get financially stable enough to get the right pet or 3d printer for you (or both).

 

[Betonhaus]

I don't have anything I want to do ether, but it is more concerning theres this this societal pressure to become something. Which is going to deal some damage in the future, when jobs are getting more and more automated.

...maybe that's ok? Marriages started falling apart when TV started telling people their spouse should've been Mr Perfect or the best available, but that means there was a time where people accepted their imperfect partners and carried on. Things got more and more expensive to live when we were told to buy the next shiny thing all the time, or fight to be the best of the best. Companies are obsessed with earning every last dollar, and politicians are obsessed with their reputations, and are willing to destroy the world to achieve their dreams. Maybe to survive as a species we must learn to take solace in mediocracy?

Congrats on the job! I hope you get financially stable enough to get the right pet or 3d printer for you (or both).

maybe a 3d printer, I already got a beginner one picked out when i ahve money

 

[FILTH Tourist]

I am doing not too bad, considering I am currently getting paid to sit around and do nothing. But what sucks though is that I actually need to be at work at all. Most schools automatically let their teachers have the summer off until the week before school starts. Not this school however, no you work all summer unless you use vacation days which I was only given a few of (I used it when family came to visit). I have a new job lined up and am eager to move to my new city. But can't do things like apartment hunting this month, because the school wants me here all July until my contract ends.

 

[56 others]

I am upending my entire life and im pretty nervous but also annoyed at all the bullshit to move from one house to another.
I am buying a truck to cope

 

[Nick Obre]

maybe a 3d printer, I already got a beginner one picked out when i ahve money

My dude, that looks like an instant regret printer. It's tiny. You'll print 3 things and immediately want to upgrade.
It's good that it comes with features like the auto-leveling system and the flexible plate, but it's got such a tiny build volume and it looks so geared towards the most absolute of beginners (as in, children) that it feels like it can't be very versatile, and hard to do maintenance or repairs on.

Look for an Ender 3/Ender 5-style printer. There's many brands and models (some of the most reliable are Creality, Elegoo, Prusa, and Anycubic) with many different sets of features and price points. They're great for beginners, in that they're easy enough to use to get you going pretty quickly, but also complex enough that you'll actually learn what you're doing. They're very customizable and pretty much the standard, so you'll find spare parts, upgrades, and accessories easily and at good prices.
Whatever you choose to buy, I'd recommend going for something with at least a decently sized build volume (220*220*250mm is a good start, the Entina Mini has less than half of that), a heated bed (the Entina Mini's bed isn't heated), and a built-in auto-leveling system.

 

[Betonhaus]

My dude, that looks like an instant regret printer. It's tiny. You'll print 3 things and immediately want to upgrade.
It's good that it comes with features like the auto-leveling system and the flexible plate, but it's got such a tiny build volume and it looks so geared towards the most absolute of beginners (as in, children) that it feels like it can't be very versatile, and hard to do maintenance or repairs on.

Look for an Ender 3/Ender 5-style printer. There's many brands and models (some of the most reliable are Creality, Elegoo, Prusa, and Anycubic) with many different sets of features and price points. They're great for beginners, in that they're easy enough to use to get you going pretty quickly, but also complex enough that you'll actually learn what you're doing. They're very customizable and pretty much the standard, so you'll find spare parts, upgrades, and accessories easily and at good prices.
Whatever you choose to buy, I'd recommend going for something with at least a decently sized build volume (220*220*250mm is a good start, the Entina Mini has less than half of that), a heated bed (the Entina Mini's bed isn't heated), and a built-in auto-leveling system.

What would I find for $200 cad?