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Even then, it’s for fags. If I had my time again I would do things very differently, and a PhD would not be in my life plan.
When I was much younger, a LOT of people asked when I was going to get my PhD. Honestly, I might have, but my career has always been moderately unstable, but looking back, I don't think it would have done me any good. I've known too many overly-credentialed cretins (they weren't all cretins, but I think everyone here knows what I'm talking about) to think I was more than likely to be treated like one of them.
 
Imagine my experiences of going to parties or group functions with a woman like you describe who generally never had anything of value to say, but who nevertheless would not shut up about topics she knew next to nothing, especially after she had two or three belts in her. The second-hand embarrassment for her I would get was uncomfortable.
To my eternal embarrassment and without even having the hot and female bonus, i've been that exact kind of person for way too many times due to not having my drinking in control way back when (~15 years ago or even longer). Slept in the park next to my current girlfriend's apartment on one occassion because i behaved that much of a cunt when i couldn't keep it together when we were out in a restaurant with one of my best friends and his girlfriend. To this day i have zero memory of the evening and my girlfriend never told me exactly what happened but i know it must've been bad because she was used to me drinking and me being drunk me back then.

Not sure how i'd handle having a girl who is with me and starts shit when she's fucked up, God knows i had girls around me who behaved like you describe more times than i can count but as long as she's not my girlfriend i never got involved into physical shit. Fuck getting my shit pushed in for a girl/woman i am not sticking it in (excuse my very crude wording to the women who read this thread).
 
To my eternal embarrassment and without even having the hot and female bonus, i've been that exact kind of person for way too many times due to not having my drinking in control way back when (~15 years ago or even longer). Slept in the park next to my current girlfriend's apartment on one occassion because i behaved that much of a cunt when i couldn't keep it together when we were out in a restaurant with one of my best friends and his girlfriend. To this day i have zero memory of the evening and my girlfriend never told me exactly what happened but i know it must've been bad because she was used to me drinking and me being drunk me back then.

Not sure how i'd handle having a girl who is with me and starts shit when she's fucked up, God knows i had girls around me who behaved like you describe more times than i can count but as long as she's not my girlfriend i never got involved into physical shit. Fuck getting my shit pushed in for a girl/woman i am not sticking it in (excuse my very crude wording to the women who read this thread).
That does sound rough, my dude. This girl, though, wouldn't necessarily get hammered and then start talking shit. It was more like her trying to sound all intellectual and knowledgeable about current events or some niche topic when it was clear that she was just ignorant as a goldfish.
 
One of my kids got into grad school yesterday! It's a great program, it's been fully funded, and there are many options from there.

Another kid has decided against grad school for now and is looking to satisfy wanderlust by going expat in the next year or so.

Being a parent is such a ride. Absolutely love seeing them find/ change/ find paths.
 
That does sound rough, my dude.
All in the long past, testament to her love that she still is with me to this day (again, i got zero memory of that day apart from waking up in the park that's like five minutes away from her old apartment). To my humble credit, i never got anywhere close to something like that again in the 17 years we are now together. Going on 18, i think, this year, i am never going to get married but i already planned on getting rings next month for her birthday, it's about time, but i don't know how i can make it into a surprise without asking/measuring her fucking ring finger size.
 
What's your problem? The day to day struggles, or a lack of purpose in life?

Ever since I was born I've lacked the ability to get any positive chemical feedback from doing anything in life and I'm very autistic. I just follow the steps I have to follow to complete the day and then I repeat it all over again, again and again, for no reason what so ever.

If you don't have any drive to do anything, and you get nothing out of life, then it's a mindless hollow experience.

I just want this madness to end and I want to rest in peace.
 
A PhD is inferior to immediate employment following your bachelor's/master's unless you're young and secure funding. It's not something that intelligent people should undertake unless they are already financially privileged and can delay their career by at least 4 years.
It really depends on what field and for which purpose. Most fields are pure deathtraps, others (such as electronics) are strongly linked to industry and may provide a springboard to employment.


Health is mostly ups and down but I'm confident about reining it in before spring. Gotta work on regular physical activity.

I feel that I'm going in above my head and contacted a lawyer.
Well, turns out I was indeed above my head. Even if my previous apartment rental agency's practices are really scummy, they're somewhat legal, there's thus an extremely remote chance that going to court is not gonna result in a net loss for me. I've decided to set my pride aside and settle. It's a shit sandwich but I gotta eat it.

Other than that, mostly positive, got a lot to look forward to this year. Even surprised myself gently dipping my toe in the world of dating at an age where I've sworn it off long ago (I'll most likely get my fingers burned again).
 
I am enjoying the chill and peace of winter.

When I was much younger, a LOT of people asked when I was going to get my PhD. Honestly, I might have, but my career has always been moderately unstable, but looking back, I don't think it would have done me any good. I've known too many overly-credentialed cretins (they weren't all cretins, but I think everyone here knows what I'm talking about) to think I was more than likely to be treated like one of them.
You can always do it for yourself.
 
Ever since I was born I've lacked the ability to get any positive chemical feedback from doing anything in life and I'm very autistic. I just follow the steps I have to follow to complete the day and then I repeat it all over again, again and again, for no reason what so ever.

If you don't have any drive to do anything, and you get nothing out of life, then it's a mindless hollow experience.

I just want this madness to end and I want to rest in peace.
Fucking.. mood, man. Mood. Minus the autism, but I could definitely be considered neurodivergent.
The lack of aim is killing me. I feel like I have goals on behalf of others, and their expectations of me. I'm a puzzle piece from the wrong puzzle.

I hope there's a solution for our problem that won't be seen as selfish to others. Not suicide necessarily, imagine being able to run away from whichever country you're in and going to some place remote, like Alaska or Svalbard. Be a hermit and live a life that's fulfilling to you and only you.
 
I hope there's a solution for our problem that won't be seen as selfish to others. Not suicide necessarily, imagine being able to run away from whichever country you're in and going to some place remote, like Alaska or Svalbard. Be a hermit and live a life that's fulfilling to you and only you.
I've heard Montana is nice.
 
Ever since I was born I've lacked the ability to get any positive chemical feedback from doing anything in life and I'm very autistic. I just follow the steps I have to follow to complete the day and then I repeat it all over again, again and again, for no reason what so ever.

If you don't have any drive to do anything, and you get nothing out of life, then it's a mindless hollow experience.

I just want this madness to end and I want to rest in peace.
Maybe you have chronic depression. I know how you feel since I have that issue as well. Get diagnosed and have a treatment whenever posible.
But that won't be enough to get you better. This will sound corny as shit, but the reasons to live are the all the small pleasures on life. Doing big and "important" shit won't make you happy, as you'll never seen a nobel price winner happy all the time. Things like a mere moment of calm can be celebrated and enjoyed.
Another thing is purpose, but focus on feeling better first.
 
I've heard Montana is nice.
I've seen pictures, but is Montana full of religious nutjobs? I don't mind religious neighbours who socialise via their church and do charity drives, or monthly potluck dinners with the congregation, I'm talking Amish or LDS type of weirdos.
 
I live in the south myself, and I had some melancholic feeling myself during December a few years ago, and I don't really think I fully recovered from it, especially since it went on during a rough patch in my life and I'm noticeably not like before. Like just sitting in the car in the parking lot of Winn Dixie bracing myself to drive home after shopping for food. - I couldn't help but wonder if it really is "the most wonderful time of the year" like the Christmas song says given how many people deal with winter melancholia even in warmer areas.
I can get depressive through winter pretty bad so I can sympathize. It's hilarious, since I burst into flames in natural sunlight, but I need the sun to just be there. Also under stand the Christmas thing, it was my favorite time of the year, but had a few years of family being retarded and spiteful for no good reason in a row and it's really soured the season for me. My mother and one of my siblings have grudges that go back as long as I've been alive and it flares up from time to time. I tend to start stressing in October, but they've been better lately, for now.

Snow is sloughing off the roof with ominous noises. But at least it's going away.
We're slated to get back to above freezing weather starting Monday and I cannot wait. We went two weeks below freezing and that's long for SW Ohio. Hasn't gotten as cold as it sometimes does, no daytime near 0 temps, but just long and I think it's driving people crazy.
 
I've seen pictures, but is Montana full of religious nutjobs? I don't mind religious neighbours who socialise via their church and do charity drives, or monthly potluck dinners with the congregation, I'm talking Amish or LDS type of weirdos.
Montana is full of nothing. As you can tell from friend of the farms Theodore John Kaczynski and how long it took to find him. Montana, Wyoming and Alaska are the 3 least densely populated US states.
 
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