Having Children

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Kids

  • Yes, I'm a pregger fetishist and i hate money

    Votes: 26 44.1%

  • No, I want a succession of flesh dolls for companionship

    Votes: 11 18.6%

  • Idk, just let me get lubes for this fence

    Votes: 22 37.3%
  • Total voters
    59
I still haven't graduated from high school, so I have my own life to take care of before thinking of kids.

Having kids would be a big experience and would create a whole new chapter in my life. But of course, just like anything you experience with, you can fuck it up if you're not careful, and that's one thing I worry about if I become a parent.

And I'm not sure about having biological kids. Not sure if my sexual health is all in its "big boy" mode. I would rather adopt, this way I can help kids that would likely grow up with bad conditions and even live in the streets.
 
As a college student, I'd wait 10 or 15 years before I seriously think about the issue. But when it does come up, I hope I find myself with a wife who truly knows something about raising a child the right way.

On one hand, I feel like adoption would be a wonderful thing, but on the other hand I wish I had a family of my own.

Eh, what am I doing thinking about this at 20 years old? I really should be waiting several years before I entertain the idea of being a father.
 
Not gonna happen for me, for a few reason.
First of all, I like guys.
secondly, I just don't want any kids.
third, I'm pretty sure I'd be a horrible parent anyway.
 
I admit, I can be a slightly selfish person, and think about my needs a lot. I think by the time I was 9 I knew I wasn't going to have kids. My Mom was once preparing a chicken for dinner, and said that one day I will have to prepare dinner for my husband and kids. My Mom, by the way, was a total feminist, and was okay with cooking (she actually wrote a few cookbooks). But I still was like "is this what my future is? washing raw chicken?"

I don't want to go through pregnancy. I don't need the extra emotions or hormones. And I feel that once women give birth, they are still expected to settle down and be a mother. I don't want darkhorse816jr's teacher complaining that the reason he acts out at school is that his mother isn't in the house a whole lot.

The field I'm going into, TV writing, means long hours in a writer's room, pitching ideas, writing, drafting, editing. By the time I'm 35, I want to have one of my shows picked up, with me as the showrunner. I know, it sounds silly, and overambitious. And my dream doesn't have kids in it. It has friends though, and partners.

I view my screenplays and teleplays (the ones I'm proud of) as children, or at least products of a long labor. (children is kind of a bad word, because when people offer you critiques you of course would get defensive).

I guess I'm the person that people call selfish because they don't want kids.
 
For a while I've told myself I want two kids- a boy and a girl- but now I'm not so sure if I want children at all.
 
I'd be more concerned with how my Asperger's Syndrome and depression might affect my relationship with a spouse before having children, and the possibility that I may probably pass it on to my offspring. I probably wouldn't want anymore than 2 kids. I won't ask my kid(s) to live any life other than the one that he/she/they choose, but I also intend to be authoritative with them like my parents were with me. Truth be told, I'd like to go into voice overs or something related, but I worry about being able to support a family and whether I'll be a good father. I worry about being like Chris, a manchild who must never breed:alog:. I know that bullying that I faced in my early teens has made me think that, but that's another story.
 
i want some kidlings in the future. i'm not too keen on other people's children - if i have to deal with kids being gross and obnoxious i want them to be my own obnoxious flesh and blood. i dunno how i'll go about getting these kids because i'm a lesbian, a huge recluse (i'd be a wizard if i wasn't a succubi) and every girl i've been interested in are weird asexuals with a pregnancy phobia :heart-empty:
 
We decided not to have kids for a couple of reasons;

Money- we rather travel and have nice things then have kids. It sound pretty selfish and it is I guess

The bigger reason for me personally is that I do believe in doom and gloom. I think, for various reasons I won't bore you with, that the future is going to be a very dark and miserable place for all but the very elite (ie rich). So I would rather spare my offspring that pain of the living thru the crashes, riots and other generally nasty events.

Plus there is always tones of retards pumping out babies every day so I have no worries about the continuance of our species.
 
Sweet and Savoury said:
We decided not to have kids for a couple of reasons;

Money- we rather travel and have nice things then have kids. It sound pretty selfish and it is I guess

The bigger reason for me personally is that I do believe in doom and gloom. I think, for various reasons I won't bore you with, that the future is going to be a very dark and miserable place for all but the very elite (ie rich). So I would rather spare my offspring that pain of the living thru the crashes, riots and other generally nasty events.

Plus there is always tones of retards pumping out babies every day so I have no worries about the continuance of our species.
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Fuck no, it's not selfish. It's smart. There are too many of us in my opinion. Just think More money down the drain, More mouths to feed. Less freedom.
 
Yes I'm pretty selfish and individualistic, but I have some sense that I DO live in. A society. I must contribute and commit to somthing. Society is free, but that simply means I have freedom of choice, not freedom from responsibility.

I know kids are not my thing but I know that being stuck in a perpetual state adolescent hedonism is NOT ok.
Since I am not having kids, I will need to pursue in a career. Somthing I will actually have to commit to.
I have three ways to go, seeing my future in this way:
1.) Be single and a careerist. Possibly of a partner, but no kids. No half-assing a career.
1). Have a kid and family. Put all my full focus into it. No career unitl kids are older. No half assing kids.
3.) Continue doing my landscaping, part-time job at lumber yard gig. Go home. Eat. Play video games. In-the-moment Hedonism. Odd job to odd job. Stay in the same town, same people, same shit. Get into trouble and bogged down by small town nonsense.

I choose the first option. Moved to a new town because of that. I also don't want my Tism, tourettes and ADHD genes to be passed on. I was a crappy child. I'm not putting myself and a husband though that.

The problem with single and childless women is NOT single childless women. The problem is, these single women who just want too be single because they can't commit to anytihng. Not even to themselves.
Using college/university as an espcape, Going on all these travel trips, video game and computer addiction.
I'm not going to lie. Doing those things is not wrong, but after a while that would get pretty old.
Than your way over 30 and scrambling around playing musical men and musical jobs. Musical must have fucking kids or whatever.

Childless does not always have to mean being a self-absorbed asshole. I get sick of people who think they are so superior because they have kids and those who do not are selfish assholes.
Their is a huge difference between being self-focused and being a self-absorbed, fickle and flakey hedonist.

It's not that not just it's all about me, its
that its not all about me and my immediate needs.
 
Thought about it and then realized that I'm playing Russian Roulette with my genetics. Maybe I'd adopt a kid.
 
I don't see myself having kids because basically I'm quite a selfish person (NB I don't mean "not having kids is selfish," that's a bullshit argument). I like my alone time, and I like socialising, and I like the freedom to do things without having to consider how it'll affect someone else. I'm also just not very good with kids. I don't see the appeal of them. I guess I just don't have that nurturing instinct. Furthermore, I tend to get bouts of severe depression, and I really wouldn't want a kid to have to deal with that.

An additional factor is that there were a number of issues in my own upbringing that kinda fucked me up, and I really wouldn't want to risk making the same mistakes with a child of my own.
 
It's weird, I'm not really fond of most children, but I kinda like the idea of having one of my own someday. Obviously though, I need to be in a better living position than I am currently first.

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...and have sex...

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...and find a girl who would want to spend the rest of her life with me...

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...and get over my awkwardness around girls...

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Personally I plan to have kids but not until I'm in my 30s and well-established in a relevant career that pays well. While I'd prefer whatever woman I marry to be stay at home and take care of any kids after they came home from school, I also realize how impractical that is. Thankfully my family has a pretty strong support base and I could have my folks watch any said kids, provided I decide (and circumstances permit) to remain in the area they live and they don't move down to Mexico or South America after they retire like they speak of doing from time to time. I'm confident I will eventually have kids, though it's something that requires a lot of planning and thought.
 
I'm a bit torn on the subject, myself.

I do want to have kids--I adore children, and would love some of my own someday. The thing is, I'm not convinced I'll ever make a good mother, and that thought gives me pause.

If I do have kids, they'll probably be adopted, since A. I'm gay and B. I'm utterly terrified by the thought of ever being pregnant. (This is, of course, assuming my hypothetical wife doesn't specifically want biological kids--if she does, and if she's cool with pregnancy, I'd be fine with that too.)

Either way, I'm gonna wait till I'm a fair bit older (mid-20s at least) and in a long-term, stable relationship before I make any hard and fast decisions, and I'll definitely take my SO's considerations into account as well.
 
I have known for along time that I would never have kids. I have two reason for not wanting children the first reason I do not have the patience and I'm not all that fond of them. The second reason is having health issues I could not be the type of father that I should be if I were to have kids. I would not want the kid growing up knowing for whatever reason that I resented him or her because that would not be fair to the child.
 
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