Having Children

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Kids

  • Yes, I'm a pregger fetishist and i hate money

    Votes: 26 44.1%

  • No, I want a succession of flesh dolls for companionship

    Votes: 11 18.6%

  • Idk, just let me get lubes for this fence

    Votes: 22 37.3%
  • Total voters
    59
I'm asexual and aromantic so it will never happen I guess (you can rate "Autistic" btw, I strongly think me never understanding sexual attraction can be blamed on my near autistic mindset so it would be fitting) so since I will never in my life date a woman, I guess I will never have a child either. It's a bit sad but I've already accepted that fact.

And I don't plan adopting one either. I'm pretty sure I would be a terrible dad.
I have no sense of responsability, my mind is pretty much a weird mess and I'm a terrible person all in all. I don't see myself as a great father figure at all and it's frankly for the best if I never have a child. Don't want to engender a bigger mess of a person than I am. My child would be doom...

I'm great with children. They love playing with me and I love playing with them. I'm great with children. And as a teacher I can make them respect me and have some sort of authority. But I don't think I will ever be able to do the two things at the same time. Really parenthood is not for me.
 
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I have no interest in having kids. As cool as it would be to read books, go on walks, go to the zoo, see the world around us, ece with a child, I dont have the patience or mentality to raise another human being. And I would need to be in a relationship with a woman first, cant do it on my own.

I also wouldnt want to pass my genetics on, too much of a chance of something going wrong. If I want to make the world a better place, I can volunteer or some shit.
Okkervils said:
Having my first in late October. I have no idea what to expect. :c
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Intense pain and anger at your husband/so/ece, followed by great joy, followed by several years of never ending exaustion. Buy the baby stuff long before you think you'll need it, saves a lot of hassle.

And dont buy new baby shit. They will outgrow their clothes in a matter of months, and used stuff is 1/10th the price of new stuff if not cheaper. Save that money for the kids college fund.
 
MaxiMax said:
I'm great with children. They love playing with me and I love playing with them. I'm great with children. When I put on my teacher outfit I can make them respect me.
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DNA_JACKED said:
Intense pain and anger at your husband/so/ece, followed by great joy, followed by several years of never ending exaustion. Buy the baby stuff long before you think you'll need it, saves a lot of hassle.

And dont buy new baby shit. They will outgrow their clothes in a matter of months, and used stuff is 1/10th the price of new stuff if not cheaper. Save that money for the kids college fund
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Ah, yeah. I'm definitely buying everything but the car seat second-hand. I have a few things and outfits here and there already. It blows my mind that people buy these things new, kid is only going to use it for a year or two.
 
I was super into the idea of having a kid when my sister in law was pregnant, and for the first month or two when my nephew was born, but as i take care of him now, I'm very unsure about having a child of my own. Luckily the little bean isn't really a fussy baby, but my opinion on babies have mellowed out now. Not sure if depression or just being serious about the consequences of having a kid- but I'm really on the fence about it. I pretty much hate every kid that isn't in my own family tbh but I get along with them great.

Probably will have like one or two in the future with whoever I marry if it can be helped, whether it be the current boyfriend or someone new happens. But I'm not ready for a child now that I have a taste of freedom. I like alcohol too much right now.
 
~*dank meme*~ said:
I was super into the idea of having a kid when my sister in law was pregnant, and for the first month or two when my nephew was born, but as i take care of him now, I'm very unsure about having a child of my own. Luckily the little bean isn't really a fussy baby, but my opinion on babies have mellowed out now. Not sure if depression or just being serious about the consequences of having a kid- but I'm really on the fence about it. I pretty much hate every kid that isn't in my own family tbh but I get along with them great.

Probably will have like one or two in the future with whoever I marry if it can be helped, whether it be the current boyfriend or someone new happens. But I'm not ready for a child now that I have a taste of freedom. I like alcohol too much right now.
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I think that's a really normal feeling after seeing someone close to you go through a pregnancy and raising a baby. It gets real. I'm the same way, I love my parasite but I dislike most kids.
 
Okkervils said:
I think that's a really normal feeling after seeing someone close to you go through a pregnancy and raising a baby. It gets real. I'm the same way, I love my parasite but I dislike most kids.
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I'm going to 100% blame the fact I had to clean up my nephew's shit explosion mostly by myself for the first time today after he napped, and that little sneaky shit smiled as I was doing it.

I think I'll be good later on in life, but right now, not so much.
 
Hellbound Hellhound said:
If you understand why death and loss is such a horror, then you will understand why the antinatalist position makes no sense. We are horrified by the prospect of death because we intuitively understand that our lives have positive value and meaning, which contradicts the antinatalist position that the being alive is a net negative.
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I think the horror is innate to the mammalian programming that prioritizes survival and procreation, not due to any romantic notions. As an animal, your job is to breed and survive. Evolution doesn't concern itself with feelings or individual nuance. Even our "love" for our offspring is an evolutionary process designed to serve its imperative. These things make the possibility of free will (as we've been lead to understand) impossible. It's very disappointing.

Do you love humanity, and humankind? Do you think we are a wonderful thing worth cultivating? I just don't.

6uo0kryff
 
Since money is not really a problem for me, I'm probably one of the last people left in the West that really wants a lot of children. Like, around 8 or more (possibly with the same partner). I'm serious, there's nothing more depressing than a house with a withering old person or couple that has no future, no one to remember them or to love them in their final moments. I've witnessed it, and it's not pretty. I know it'll be chaos, but I don't really mind.
 
Okkervils said:
Having my first in late October. I have no idea what to expect. :c
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Dependence. Demanding. Noise.

Mysterious Capitalist said:
Since money is not really a problem for me, I'm probably one of the last people left in the West that really wants a lot of children. Like, around 8 or more (possibly with the same partner). I'm serious, there's nothing more depressing than a house with a withering old person or couple that has no future, no one to remember them or to love them in their final moments. I've witnessed it, and it's not pretty. I know it'll be chaos, but I don't really mind.
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It can happen even if you have kids. If you have a kid and they turn out shit, or die.
I have neighbours who gave their kids a loving good upbringing - one died after doing something stupid and the other has fagged out and thinks their parents are bigots. Just because you have children doesn't mean things will go to plan. Even if you do everything for them. The one thing to remember is that you aren't owed anything in life.

See : http://abc7ny.com/traffic/father-and-4-daughters-killed-in-delaware-crash-identified/3718921/
She did everything right and look what happened.
 
heathercho said:
Just because you have children doesn't mean things will go to plan
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My possibilities are to have children and risk being alone anyway when I grow old... or to not have children and be sure that I'll be alone when I'll be old. Besides, with a lot of children it's statistically more plausible that at least one of them will love me until I die, if you want to look at it that way.

Obviously, I'm not doing it just for that reason, but I still prefer to give it a try rather than giving up to the fact that I might fail. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take, after all.

Anyone else is free to do as they see fit, of course.
 
Mysterious Capitalist said:
My possibilities are to have children and risk being alone anyway when I grow old... or to not have children and be sure that I'll be alone when I'll be old. Besides, with a lot of children it's statistically more plausible that at least one of them will love me until I die, if you want to look at it that way.

Obviously, I'm not doing it just for that reason, but I still prefer to give it a try rather than giving up to the fact that I might fail. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take, after all.

Anyone else is free to do as they see fit, of course.
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I do agree, though I think there are other options, if a person isn't going to have kids. I don't think it's all doom and gloom and you die alone.

As long as you plan on being a good father who can send your kids to good schools and ensure they have a good life, I say go for it.
I think people who are able to live somewhere where they can afford it, are beyond blessed. I personally don't have that luxury, where I live is one of the most expensive places for housing in the world and I have to live there to continue to work in the niche industry I do - my other options would be similar expense cities in Asia.
Most people I know who do live here and have children have moved back in with their parents. So brother and sister move back in with spouse and their kids into family home. Alot of the time a grandparent/s may also be there. That's the reality of life here... I guess the parents won't have to face that issue of being alone though.
 
i am 20, poor, and still live with my parents. therefore, i have no reason to start reproducing now. maybe at a later point in life, but not now
 
Sofonda Cox said:
I think the horror is innate to the mammalian programming that prioritizes survival and procreation, not due to any romantic notions. As an animal, your job is to breed and survive. Evolution doesn't concern itself with feelings or individual nuance. Even our "love" for our offspring is an evolutionary process designed to serve its imperative. These things make the possibility of free will (as we've been lead to understand) impossible. It's very disappointing.

Do you love humanity, and humankind? Do you think we are a wonderful thing worth cultivating? I just don't.

6uo0kryff
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Does something being the product of "mammalian programming" make it any less meaningful? Is meaning itself something which can be said to even exist outside of our mammalian psychology? Because if not, you don't really have an argument. Your condemnation of humanity is every bit the product of mammalian psychology as my hope for it.

As for the subject of free will, have you ever considered the possibility that the fact we possess awareness might be a convincing argument for free will? I've heard determinists describe awareness as nothing but an illusion, but this begs the question: to what is awareness an illusion to? As far as I'm concerned, the only convincing answer to this question is something which was aware all along, which begs the original question: why are we aware? What purpose does our being aware of the choices we make serve if we're nothing but marionettes for the laws of physics?
 
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