Ending friendships

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I actually keep a special brick on my decoration desk. What's special about it? It came from an old monument that was demolished decades ago. They actually dated and stamped every brick. The only other time I've seen one was in a museum.

Yeah just stop talking to them, unless there's a reason you feel the need to talk to them, for example, you want to give them a chance to correct whatever behavior is bothering you. But unless it was something egregious or it's something like a break up, you're both better off just leaving it at that.
I have a terrible habit of feeling pity for those who don't ask for it. Partially because I'm a bleeding heart, and partially because I know what it's like to be at your lowest. Unfortunately I often don't have the drive or attention span to follow through for long. Eventually I go with the nuclear option and just be an asshole. So that way they don't want to talk to me anymore. I've made tons of enemies at hobby stores with this method, but as I get older, I've been considering the possibility of other options.

give back your half of the friendship necklace
I have way too many of these to figure out which one's which. I do throw them out occasionally, when the drawer gets filled.

Hit them with the classic “it’s not me, it’s you”
This is more or less my 'go to' with some seasoning sprinkled on top.

This is horrible and spineless, just be upfront with them.
I normally don't try to avoid people, but speaking your mind is generally respected. I make exceptions, but the sheer thought of someone liking or respecting me for any reason disgusts me on a primal level.

There's plenty of cases where neither person really did anything wrong. But the personalities simply aren't compatible. The best solution in this case is to let it die naturally.
I'm a pretty depressing person yet I don't really get all with similar people for very long. Sadly, I'm only patient with about four people in the world. I often end up just killing a friendship myself by trying to be as hateable as possible. It's an immature way about things, but I find myself using it more and more often because it's effective. I need a better way of doing things but I'm starting to think I'm too misanthropic to really interact with other people and just need to stop trying.

If their personality changes, like, they seem to run a script in their head and expect you to behave according to it, or expect you to know and do things they never told you and every advice or remark regarding their behaviour understand as hostility and insult, then speak your peace, block them everywhere and don't respond ever again.
When I get the inkling that someone's acting weird I often believe I'm at fault and try to give that person more attention, but every time that makes things worse. Blocking them works wonders, but I feel like I should be less of a dick when I say my peace. I have an innate talent of being good at telling what gets under someone's skin the most and sometimes I just let that run.
 
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