Opinion Drag Is Never Appropriate For Kids

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I love drag. I have done drag. Many of my favorite celebrities are drag queens. If you asked me a decade ago what I thought of, say, RuPaul sashaying into a library in full sparkling evening gown glory to read a popular children's book to kids, I would have said it was hilarious. RuPaul's Drag Race did for drag queens what Will & Grace did for gays in the 2000s. I would argue most Americans can name a favorite drag queen at this point.

But something has also changed in how Americans see drag. Drag queens went from a favorite gif to add to a particularly sassy tweet to the manifestation of everything conservative Americans fear about LGBTQ activism, especially toward children.

It might seem easy to dismiss these concerns as an overreaction or even as an expression of bigotry, but conservatives are right about this one.

The art of drag relies on exaggerated sexuality and female stereotypes. Drag queens, through dazzling performances, over-the-top humor, and a cultural dedication to irreverent commentary, have long acted as a release valve for the LGBTQ community. They could say and do things that others would never dare to express, and their unpredictable and provocative personas have long kept audiences on the edge of their seats. With careful inflection, a hand on an over-padded hip and a wink, a drag queen can speak truth to power and make them laugh.

This, however, has always remained within the private walls of adult entertainment and for good reason. Drag queens take on the most absurd sexualized elements of female stereotypes and gay culture, and add a few cans of hair spray to make it even bigger and bolder. They strut out on stage and without a moment of hesitation or shame, unleash epic poems of intentionally offensive obscenity, all with a smile and a sense of style no audience can resist.

Although many have argued this charisma can be redirected into child-appropriate entertainment, education and advocacy, the reality demonstrates otherwise. Drag queens can't turn it off. Whether in front of a cheering crowd in a gay bar or a room full of kids at a library, the performance doesn't change. They cannot translate the magic so many of us enjoy on stage to something children can understand.


Worse, far too many have chosen to disregard the concept of appropriateness altogether, performing dance routines, wearing costumes and portraying the same bombastic, and overtly sexual characters in front of kids as they would in front of adults.

Rather than appreciate this distinction, activists have doubled down and declared their adult entertainment world not only suitable for kids, but necessary and educational. LGBTQ activism has distorted whatever playful and innocent fun a sultry and perfectly poised RuPaul could bring to the room into another act of social rebellion designed to mock and provoke parents and conservative America.

By its very nature, drag is already unsuitable for children, based on the culture it flourished in and the way the artform communicates to its audience. It barely translates outside of the LGBTQ cultural bubble. The more you remove these elements, the less it resembles drag and the more it looks like advocacy for something kids just shouldn't be exposed to. You take away the cursing, the sexual inuendo, the revealing clothes, the provocative dress and the sharp political commentary, and you are left with an adult man in a dress mocking women and trying to convince children he is an ambassador for an entire community.


It just doesn't work. It cannot work.

Some cultural experiences are simply meant for adults and drag is one of them. They are not clowns or cartoon characters. They are not educators or counselors. They are entertainers. Their job is to take obscenity and irreverent humor and make it as glorious and exaggerated as their wigs and makeup.

By taking away the adult nature of drag, you ruin it, and by forcing it into children's spaces, you turn it into something threatening and vile.

Leave the kids alone. They will have plenty of opportunities to discover the joy of drag when they are adults and old enough to appreciate it for what it is.
 
I would argue most Americans can name a favorite drag queen at this point.
Yeah and when I was on dope I thought a lot more people did drugs than actually did. Who knew the people you surround yourself with become your social barometer?

Stop gaslighting us into thinking this is true - it's not.

Let me repeat that. IT. IS. NOT. There's a YUGE swath of regular fucking people out there who DGAF about RuPaul's washed up stanky ass, and that's if they even know who the dude even is.

Love that last sentence, just assuming that your kids will grow up to totally enjoy this clownish perversity. By that time your kind will be firmly and decidedly back in the fucking closet, inshallah.

Otherwise, an OK article but it shouldn't have had to be written in the first place.
 
I feel like these are basically crocodile tears. The horse is out of this barn. Where were these voices 10 years ago when it was just getting started? A group of gays against drag being promoted to kids early on would have been powerful. If RuPaul had said no kids should watch his show and you're a shit parent if you let them, that would have been profoundly influential and stopped some kids from going down a bad path.

Desmond is now a laydee. There are hundreds, probably thousands, of little kids with drag aspirations, and tens of thousands of teenagers.

Now that the ship is starting to sink, the rats are scuttling.
All drag queens are doing is desperately trying to retreat to the last tolerated position to lock their gains in steel. After all, conservatives don't conserve a fucking thing.
 
Every cross dresser should be publicly beaten up death. Anyone trying to stop it should also be beaten to death.
 
Yeah and when I was on dope I thought a lot more people did drugs than actually did. Who knew the people you surround yourself with become your social barometer?

Stop gaslighting us into thinking this is true - it's not.

Let me repeat that. IT. IS. NOT. There's a YUGE swath of regular fucking people out there who DGAF about RuPaul's washed up stanky ass, and that's if they even know who the dude even is.

Love that last sentence, just assuming that your kids will grow up to totally enjoy this clownish perversity. By that time your kind will be firmly and decidedly back in the fucking closet, inshallah.

Otherwise, an OK article but it shouldn't have had to be written in the first place.

I personally have a favorite drag queen.

We went to high school together. We were friendly, though not friends.

His parents were in a classic lavender marriage. They were schoolteachers. He was the most flamboyant person in the school, in a time and place where that held no cachet or room for anything but ridicule.

When he went to college he found a boyfriend, majored in interior design. He found someone who loved all the same musicals he did and they became drag partners as well as life partners. Later, his drag partner got on RDPR and, finding fame, left him. He's aging now, directionless, always on vacations and seeing shows but it's the same, year after year. He hasn't been the same since the person he thought he'd spend his life with left.

I've never seen a live drag performance.

I've never seen RDPR.

But my favorite drag queen is someone who might, once upon a time, have been a pillar of his community like his mom and dad (who also got to go on vacations and see shows together, but also built something in the school and town). It's bizarre how dedicated people are to the idea that it's always, always better to "live your truth."
 
Something about the way this article is written and the word choices makes me feel like some fed the orginal article through chatgpt to make it sound smarter.
 
I'm still confused as to how drag shit became such a prominent part of American culture.

The fact of the matter is that we have come to realize that the boomer conservatives were right all of those years ago when they said the gay acceptance / gay marriage thing was a slippery slope. Once the gays got their acceptance and recognition, all of the subgroups had to have theirs too.
 
I'm Br*tish so I will say I accept some people will disregard me for this.

Sometimes in some specific circumstances drag can be for children.
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Pantomime dames are a traditional part of British culture. At Christmas, children are often taken to watch a pantomime retelling of something like Aladdin or Peter Pan. The pantomime dame is always a man (and usually the lead male role, the "best boy" is played by a woman).

Some of these dames are drag queens in the off season but they're usually some z-list celebrity who's dragged up to perform as Widow Twanky. The difference is these are specifically children's entertainers. They understand that their audience is children, even if there is some innuendo thrown in to appeal to the adults watching.

I could vaguely understand a children's entertainer that does drag, in line with a clown or one of those women who dresses up as a Disney Princess for a little girl's party. I would naturally have a higher level of suspicion, but it's like that Evil Queen performer at Disneyland a while back - as long as the performer understands they're playing a silly role for children, I wouldn't necessarily see it as a bad thing. Kids like people in silly costumes and the whole point of a panto dame is a man in a dress is funny, and I suppose some little boys may appreciate seeing that it's OK to dress however you want and that doesn't make you less of a man (I'm straining my credulity with that one, but I guess we all knew a boy who'd go for the girl costumes in the dressing up box).

The issue is your average drag queen is first and foremost a drag queen, and so is an alcoholic gay guy who does party drugs and stages hypersexual performances in gay night clubs. They're not exactly role models, and that's putting aside the fact that a lot of these party twinks are too dumb to think "my usual performance and outfits are in no way suitable for children".
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I hate everything about this picture (besides maybe that one little girl's ladybird costume, which is adorable). Why the fuck would you go in front of children dressed like this?

There's also clearly drag queens who are sexual predators towards children - there's been far too many stories about it already. And negligent parents are letting their kids watch Drag Race, something that is categorically unsuitable for children, and then trying to take their kids to go see those queens in gay bars - a space categorically unsuitable for children. Some drag queens have even issued statements along the lines of "do not bring children to my events, my performance is not suitable for children". Someone upthread mentioned Dita Von Teese and that's a great comparison - kids might love a pretty lady with funny makeup and a big feather boa and a weird costume, but that doesn't mean you should take them to a burlesque performance.

I like to think "drag queen storytime" was started with the best intentions, although I suspect it was mostly grown through narcissistic Millenials who missed going to "drag brunch" after they became parents. Whatever the intentions were, it's clearly not manifested - it's damaging to children and should be stopped.
 
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