I was playing Rogue Trader (mild romance spoilers) and there's a shut-in noble character who gets all her information about the outside world from books and this made her a hopeless romantic. At the very first interaction with her after she joins your team there's a book on the table that she was reading, and if you examine it you discover it's a sappy book about woo. Hours of playtime later she "accidentally" drops a silk handkerchief in front of you and if you roll an awareness check you see she's secretly looking at how you react. I remembered the book she was reading and acted out one of its corny moves and she was ecstatic. It surprised me and was kind of a sweet moment. If you're romancing her and at any point come on to her sexually she gets really angry and storms off because she wants a Jane Austen courtship. In contrast I was constantly pissing off my teammates in BG3 and not only did they all still want to fuck me, but told me I'm like no man they've ever met and that they're deeply in love with me.
The whole thing was such a difference from Baldur's Gate 3 and the FOMO that drives its romances. I wish RPGs would stick to this sort of writing, cut the apron strings and let you fuck up relationships when you're unintuitive or not paying attention, and reward you for taking notes. It makes the writing so much more impactful.
Yeah Cassia is very poshy. The straight male romancable companion is Heinrix von Calox, the Inquisition wizard.
He is a bit of a mixed bag with the traits. He has the dark secrets dangerous guy with tragic backstory, but he is the "handsome and muscled stoic" type instead of fruity, but you can cuddle him after he gets tortured by the aliens. Pretty much a dark drama romance type of thing.
He is not the Shepard style "we bang ok?" fratboy romance.
These are the straights, the rest are playersexual.
There is the smuggler lady which is closest and is what you get to regular romance when you chuck Han Solo, an arabic princess and victorian treasure hunter in a blender.
She may also be the one who tried to bang the eldar, and is generally the hornier one.
The Eldar seems like an emo bpd girl who needs uwu handholding as humans are mean to her.
The Dark eldar I don't know, but I think he wants to rape you, hilariously the only gay option.
You need to be Loyalist (lawful evil) to charm the straight guy, loyalist or good to charm the noble girl, good for the elf and smuggler girls, and Chaos(very chaotic evil) for dark elf rapeys.
So to be a fag you need to go evil, which is hilarious. And you need the based aligment for the straights.
I don't really mind plaxersexuality, but BG3 could have added more decidedly evil or good companions who need you to match aligments better on the men front. Astarion you can redeem or enable. Sharty you need to redeem. Minty wants to be mrs Tyrant. Karlack is goody two shoes wholesome chungus. Lazael is kinda neutral I think? So there is 2 good 1 evil option and 1 neutral. Gale is either enable or redeem. There is no strictly bad guy or good guy romance. Hansin is just down bad and wants his bear wand wet. No Prince Charming or Dastardly Dude.
If Aylin/Minsk was a romancable man or you could recruit/Romance Gortash or the torturer dude from the gobbo dump...