I am 100% confident harem leads in anime get the least action of any men in all of anime. Its a trick. I've watched different harem anime for comedy purposes. High School DxD, everyone wants to fuck, willing to share fucking duties, protag never fucks a single time. To Luv Ru, surrounded by hot women who want to fuck, never fucks ever. I just CANNOT watch Harem anime anymore. If you've got a harem by episode 6 and you aren't getting laid by episode 7, you have something wrong with you. I'm done with tired, sex-less waifu wars and shit that just show pointless anime tiddy. Movies and shows have done fade to black since 1965 you don't need to be explicit. Just show a physical relationship. They can show people getting chopped in half, mutated, brutally murdered, dissolved into pieces, but you can't show kissing and fade to black in bed. Or basically just constantly unrealistically cock block them so it never ever happens. Like I said, the exceptions to this are 'Love is War' which is basically holding out as long as possible as to admit they actually love each other, which is kind of funny.
That's why I like In/Spectre with an actual defloration joke instead of everyone being perma virgins, Arifureta: From Commonplace to World's Strongest who basically outright states 'she's my lover, fuck all the rest of you. You can try, but nope.' There's a couple of others, like Chivalry of a Failed Knight where they get it on in like the second to last episode and shit. Cross Ange: Rondo of Angel and Dragon (which I fucking love, highly underrated anime).
But I've RARELY seen harem protagonists do anything and they really don't behave like men. Even if all the women go, "Ok, you can love all of us, just give us equal attention." NOPE the men act like they're five years old. Naked girl wants to get into a bath with him? "WHATS WRONG PUT SOME CLOTHES ON PLEASE OMG". The only exception is really Val x Date where the protagonist has a serious phobia about human contact and doesn't want anything to do with it.
Macross is more emotional for it because the leads have sex, because they have this physical connection. I've also noticed, the older the anime, the less of a problem this turns out to be.
But its really the biggest anime trope that gets on my fucking nerves. So if you want any sort of physical contact that means something, you generally, ironically, have to avoid harem anime because they stretch that shit out forever with no payoff because the audience is too busy deciding 'best girl'. Another cliche that bugs me is you have these super confident, observant heroes but they can't seem to take the most obvious hints when a girl wants them, to the level that even people on the autism spectrum can tell. The exception really is 'Black Clover' where I think Asta is legitimately autistic and can't tell and just wants a nun who literally cannot be in a relationship and has been telling him no for a decade. I mean the dude wants to be Wizard King and he can't use magic, so he's kinda not all there to begin with.
Or another thing is that the anime waits until the very last POSSIBLE second for characters to form relationships so there's no possible development or drama with them. Half the fun of having characters be in relationships is to see how much you can fuck with them with it. So sexless, loveless anime just kills the genre for me. Like come on Japan, people fuck. This is why you have a low birth rate.