I used to have a friend just like skinny AL, her face kind of resembles AL's, with the eyes and nose ring. It's uncanny. Also a lesbian, same personality without being morbidly obese. She had a rough life as a kid, dad in prison, kid brother dead, grew up on the streets for a bit, has a penchant for hitchhiking and being irresponsible in general, the kind like AL who heavily relies on other people to care for them. So fucking impulsive and irresponsible; one day she bought a baby rabbit and kept him in the dark hallway outside her spacious room for a year until I took him.
She'd leech off her longtime girlfriends until they had nothing left but the essentials, and then she'd break up with them and immediately find someone else, swinging from one branch to the next seamlessly.
This one time irl_AL calls me out of the blue to tell me she went to a reiki healer and he fingered her, and she's on the other side of the country. My friends and I chipped in to buy her a bus ticket to come here, and she ended up staying my bed for a week because she had nowhere to go even though she's in her late 20s. She was never appreciative of anyone's help, always took it for granted. I tried so hard to put myself in her shoes and see things from her POV but I couldn't, so I cut all contact with her in the end.
I know everyone deals with their childhood/adolescent traumas differently, and where it makes some people become well-adjusted later on in life, it turns some into users who always look out for number one. No matter how charming and bubbly their facades are, inside they're still terrified of having to rely on themselves. I think it's common with these types to feel like the world owes them for their suffering, and they should be babied until they're 50.
