Anyone see this video? I haven't finished it yet, but he has pointed out some interesting things so far. He has mentioned several times that BPD isn't diagnosed until you've seen someone many many times and we know Amber doesn't see anyone long enough to be diagnosed.
https://youtu.be/bvyVGQK93T0?si=MzC1bBZJQe1tK_zR
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He was surprised when Amber mentioned that her symptoms are worse with her girlfriends but most mild with her friends and family (though Amber of course leaves out that she has no friends - just family who feel obligated to deal with her, and randos on the internet that she's trying to lovebomb into becoming indentured servants). He said something like these patterns tend to start with family. Something else in this part that he said which I found interesting was re: the "big emotions". He said that this wasn't ALWAYS true, but a lot of times, they (people with BPD) react in extreme emotional ways because they've learned that this gets the reaction that they want. I interpretted that as it's not a case of Amber feeling "big emotions" - she has regular emotions like everyone else - but that she's learned that behaving out of control gets her the response she wants (basically, she never grew out of toddler tantrums). So like, she doesn't have unbearable emotions... she never taught herself to control her behaviour like normal adults have.
He was also surprised and let out a laugh when she said that she had all of the symptoms. He later tried to backtrack (these therapists are all so wishy-washy and back-stepping on everything they say and do - I guess they're all terrified of losing their licences or something), saying that the laughing was about something else and he wasn't laughing at her response (yes he was). Anyway, when he laughed, it reminded me of something my class was taught about (a million years ago so I don't remember all the details). There's a mental illness test that's sometimes given. It has a ton of questions that you must answer with either option A or B. Option A is that there is absolutely no symptom, and B is the worst possible symptom (often taken to absurdity). A question might be something like "Do you hear voices?", and your two options are "A - I never hear voices", or "B - Every hour Satan contacts me and tells me to kill another person". The purpose of the test isn't to identify mental illness - a person can score perfectly and be severely mentally ill. The purpose to catch people faking, as the higher the score, the more likely the person is embellishing their symptoms.
[EDITED TO ADD: to elaborate further, an example might be that a person answers the above question with "A - I never hear voices", but then will explain to the psychiatrist later in a therapy session that this was the closer of the two options because he's only heard a voice telling him to kill someone twice, and it wasn't the devil... or something like that. A person trying to avoid accountability for their actions would likely pick the most extreme of EVERY answer, thinking that it guarantees them an insanity Dx]
Another part that caught him was when Amber mentioned that she has every criteria in the most extreme form. He said that with personality disorders like BPD aren't reliable self-reporters due to the nature of the personality disorder itself. He said that because of that, you can't just take what they say at face value. He also said that they start off in therapy as very kind and helpful and eager to cooperate (as they are trying to mirror the therapist, and that over time changes as they start hearing things they don't want to hear from the therapist, etc. He said that if Amber were his patient, he would ask for her permission to do interviews with her friends, family members, and partner in order to get a more complete picture of her behaviours. He also mentioned that personality disorders are a last resort sort of catch all if no other diagnosis fits (which I assumed to mean diagnosis WITH THERAPY/TREATMENT - it wouldn't be something diagnosed quickly). It made me wonder if previous therapists heard her say BPD, requested to talk to the people in her life, and that's why she decided to bail on therapy so quickly?
He also noted that a couple of the examples she gave were NOT "extreme" cases, and that some can be normal. For example, he said that ANYONE would be disappointed if they sent a long, heart-felt message to someone, only to get an emoji back in response. This is not a "BPD reaction".
The most entertaining part of the video is really his comments section. Lots of people were filling him in on the backstory and the most recent allegations that Becky and Destiny have been making (as well as all of her other mental illness Dx claims). He said this all sounded concerning because a lot of the things she's claiming generally don't get Dx'd together and just don't go together. He also seemed a little surprised that so many in his comments section were all saying the same thing - NPD. He said that it made him want to watch more videos and maybe some livestreams to try and get a more complete picture of her (Translation: he sees the money).
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