Someone mentioned this a while back but Big Al definetely uses her past to guilt trip her mother, with the way she was dramatizing it and going on the whole spiel about having to "fix something that someone else caused"... from my perspective there is no one to blame in this situation, she (like many by the way) was just born into an unfortunate situation, so I wonder who excatly she is blaming this on. I don't think the relationship is as wholesome as it seems, seems to be filled with guilt and resentment.