[Edited to Add: here's the PreserveTube archive link for Amber's YouTube video "why i stopped drinking." posted on 2024-11-08:
https://preservetube.com/watch?v=0_uEsJ1EL3Q]
If we're to believe what Amber says is true, an alcoholic or someone with "issues" regarding alcohol and a full-blown food addict. Also she could also be talking about herself, we all know how she is when she drinks, when she live-streamed and Jade had to physically take her alcohol away and cook her food to sober her up, this ain't going to go well, two active addicts should never date lmao
Yeah, this is all a little too convenient.
First take into consideration that Amber has a family history of addiction. Her mother struggled with addiction for years, and her father is still in active addiction. Two of her three brothers have addiction issues - even the one taken away for closed adoption as a baby and had no contact with the Reids while growing up. The 3rd is unknown but I wouldn't be surprised if he also has struggles. Amber admits to food addiction. Amber has shown compulsive behaviours with shopping, gambling, and vaping. Remember back during the Becky era, when Amber bought a few bottles of rose wine for "decoration" in the background of her vlogs and it was either on the countertop or on an endtable? Well, it kept disappearing, and everyone thought Becky was a secret drinker (in all fairness, she probably was a drinker, but stay with me here). Then after the Jade era, Amber told us that Jade had a drinking problem and was scary when she was drunk - but it was Amber who was the drunken mess while Jade cared for her in the background. And then when Amber couldn't find a girlfriend and was dating her mom, AMBER WAS STILL DRINKING, despite her mom being in recovery and maintaining her sobriety. And now she's in WI and it's
EMILY that suddenly has problems with alcohol bad enough that Amber also needs to quit drinking??
During the Jade Era Drunken Livestream, Amber admitted that she throws up everytime she drinks. And how many times has Amber gone to her audience asking for asspats because she's decided that she needs to stop drinking, only to come back a couple of weeks later and decide that
AKTULLY, she doesn't have a problem you guize; she just needs to only drink a few/only drink one day a week/only drink socially, etc. from now on? Signs of problematic drinking aren't as dramatic as the signs of full-blown alcoholism. Amber stating that she always drinks more than her limit ("I throw up after - every time") is one of the warning signs. Amber continuing to justify drinking despite her plethora of health problems is another warning sign. Amber regularily seeing a need to cut back, only to talk herself out of it a short time later (when the craving returns) is also a warning. These aren't proof that's she a full-blown alcoholic - but are signs that she isn't capable of drinking in moderation and therefore shouldn't be drinking at all.
I wouldn't be surprised if Emily is actually fine with alcohol, but doesn't want AMBER to drink and is making excuses not to in order to stop Amber from drinking. Or Emily has told Amber that she needs to chill out with the drinking, and Amber is projecting the problem onto Emily. "Tommy can't drink because of (some vague, unexplained) health issue" sounds a lot to me like the "We broke up because Krystle/Destiny is going through something right now". It's the same sort of projection that she's always done.
What do you want to bet that Amber gets a few drinks in her so she can RIP into Emily when Amber doesn't get her way, and then blames her BPD+alcohol for being abusive? And now Emily is trying to solve the problem that Amber's creating, thinking "Well, if I can get her to stop drinking, then she won't be abusive anymore, right?" It's a known abuser tactic because it gives a "reason" for the abuse (other than the REAL reason that the person is an entitled, controlling, abusive shitbag), and it ties up the victim's time and energy into the abuser (because now the victim feels a responsility to not "trigger" the abuser, as it will cause a relapse and the victim will feel that they're at fault for the abuse that follows). I should also point out that in a lot of cases, this behaviour is learned and done instinctually - Amber doesn't have to be capable of mindfully planning this out ahead of time in order to behave this way.
And I also believe that because of how Amber talked about "muh BPD" in her vlog. She truly sees herself the way Dr Jekyll saw Mr Hyde. Amber insists that she's this wonderful person, but there is this horrible BPD-thing that does all of the horrible things and IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HER.
She describes her "BPD" in the EXACT same way that she used to describe her "Binge Monster". She doesn't realize or accept that Amber is the sum of ALL of her thoughts, feelings, AND BEHAVIOURS. It's all her and her outlook on life/view of other people. And because it's all her, it's ultimately all under her control. It really came across like she's adopting this persona because she can weaponize it to manipulate others (again, it doesn't have to be a fully conscious decision, but more of a learned response). I don't think she realizes or cares how BPD is just a different branch on the same tree that has the branches of ASPD, NPD, and HPD (and those branches can often tangle together). She likes it because there's more sympathy towards it than ASPD/NPD (which everyone use to accuse her of having - NOT BPD like she keeps insisting).
Oh, but don't worry; she found a psychiatrist. She hasn't CALLED them, but she FOUND them. She's going to drag this shit out and bread crumb her audience with it like she did with her WLS arcs in 2019 and 2022/2023.
and make Emily nurse you back to 'health'. Amen¹⁵
