If anyone's interested in this topic, I would recommend David Goggin's first book "Can't Hurt Me". In it he talks about his life, starting with his abusive father and he and his mother fleeing from him to live in poverty. His mother worked hard to provide and improved their position in life, but he let a lot of external factors affect his mindset and turned into a total asshole, deserving of being hit with several Klingon Painsticks. He finally reached a point where he realized that he needed to change, and reading the rest of the book is following him through his life as that change slowly happened. Getting a physical book is better, but if you can't get one, you can get a copy here to read on your phone or computer:
https://oceanofpdf.com/authors/davi...-mind-and-defy-the-odds-download-62043662937/
Oh, but in Amber's case, changing would mean that she'd lose the perks that being a manipulative, controlling, selfish shitbag provides her, so it's a moot point.
Amber spent a little over half of her childhood in the system (and most of her adult life), getting everything she wanted with no consequence for bad behaviour. If a foster parent tried to set boundaries for her, Amber would just throw a tantrum (like the time when she smashed her foster mom's laptop - I mean, when Amber pushed it and it "just fell" to the floor), and get moved to another placement. And we know it wasn't a problem with the foster mom, because Amber told us that Tony stayed in the house - only she moved. While in the system, she got to help out with the SPACE dance program, play soccer (on the BLUE team!), go to Disney Land multiple times, be in the Girl Guides/Scouts/whatever, etc. She even had a smartphone (and back then they weren't as mainstream as they are now - I certainly didn't have one in the 2000s). When she couldn't be bothered to go to school because she was an ungrateful whiny bitch that was more interested in giving movie theatre handjobs to spotty-faced dweebs for ice cream, she got transferred to a continuation school and was just GIVEN a highschool diploma despite her admitting that she flunked the previous 3 years of highschool. One time she even blamed foster care for her present day situation, saying that they gave her everything and did everything for her, so she never learned how to do things for herself.
And then as an adult she mooched off of multiple families under the guise of the woman being her "girlfriend". When she finally pushed each gf too far and they dumped her, she still got to live with them (and sleep in their bed), until she had her next mark lined up that would take her in and care for her like a mother cares for a toddler, but with Amber being in control of everyhing. Then she created a YouTube channel which fortunately started paying out once she could no longer mooch off of Destiny, and has made hundreds of thousands of dollars through uploading videos of her deepthroating junk food, filming her girlfriends on the toilet, and fonding markers.