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In case you missed it: Chastity is the fetish of the year. Yes, you read that right, the fetish of the year. That’s according to data from the video sharing site Clips4Sale which reports that people are becoming increasingly curious about individuals being “locked in” — and we aren’t talking about fitness goals.
For the past few years, conversations about chastity kinks have become increasingly public, with a bejeweled device showing up in the presentation and subsequent advertisements of a high fashion jewelry designer. Last year, it seemed to pierce the zeitgeist in a different way as bros on TikTok encouraged one another to “Lock in” for Locktober. For them, they meant a month of concerted effort in meeting their self-improvement goals. But for those on our side of the internet, which has been engaging in Locktober since at least the 2010s, it means engaging in chastity for the month of October.
In a nutshell, chastity is the practice of orgasm denial, often through a device like a dedicated cage. It requires focus and self-control, sometimes incorporating dominance and submission (hello BDSM!) through the inclusion of a keyholder. It, understandably, is not easy, whether you’re doing it for a day or a month, but there are a few ways to make coping a little more manageable.
Here, we talk to a few guys who have locked in before about what you should keep in mind and how to make it through, whether you’re doing it for the full month of Locktober or just the weekend.
1.) Take it one day at a time
As they say, the way to abstain for 31 days is to do it one day at a time. “If Locktober is your reason to first try chastity, make a Plan A to do 31 days and a Plan B to increase your length of time locked each time,” Self Authored Sub, who at the time of writing has been locked for 2,514 days, tells Them.
What that means is worry about getting through the day in front of you. Then when that’s done, focus your attention on the night after that. Breaking your bid up into bite size chunks might make it more manageable. And if you have to stop, don’t look at it as a failure, look instead at the accomplishment of how many days you stayed locked.
2.) Comfort (within reason) is non-negotiable
While chastity is not intended to feel like a bed of pillows, there is a line to how much you should take. “Chastity should be challenging, not painful,” Jasper Reid, who has engaged in chastity in the past and now serves as a keyholder for submissives. “Invest in finding a way to make the experience more comfortable for you.”
This can look like many things. If you’re wearing a plastic device, some advise you to take a piece of sandpaper and rub down the sharp edges that may catch and poke at you. Sleeping can be particularly difficult so consider swapping your cage out for silicone to sleep in, which may be more comfortable. Others underscore how important it is to keep your body moisturized in order to minimize friction which can cause drying and cracking of skin.
“This is not a practice in pain, it’s about pleasure through denial,” Reid says.
3.) Hygiene is key
This should go without saying but, do not skimp on your cleanliness. “The cage needs to be cleaned,” Kory Koxx, a nudist and gogo boy based in NYC, says.” I usually wear mine 24/7 but will take it off and clean it every other day.” Some classic soap and hot water should do the trick.
4.) Prepare for this to impact many parts of your life
Wearing a cage around your genitals, unsurprisingly, worms its way into your everyday. “Most guys are not ready for just how distracting it will be at first,” a chastity hobbyist that goes by CtrlZalt online says. In addition to sleeping, you will likely begin using stalls instead of urinals in public bathrooms and find yourself conscious of the cage when changing in the gym locker room. “You’re always aware of the cage. Even just walking down the street you feel it … with each step. It’s like a dom getting close and telling me I can’t cum, but this dom is taunting you every second of the day, even when I’m just doing normal things like grocery shopping.”
Jeb Bush points out that it might also factor into your workouts. “Watch out with anything high intensity where your cage is going to be jerked around a lot,” he says. “It’s hot to have on at the gym, but you have to be realistic that your member is essentially in a plastic or metal vice grip.” And while many advise that you should give people a heads up before meeting for a hook up, wearing it openly in a designated play space can be beneficial. “Wearing a cage in a steam room or sauna is very in and a great signal that you’re there to give pleasure solely,” Bush says.
5.) Find something to divert your focus
If your cage is going to pull your focus, it’s important to give yourself something else to focus on. “Chastity for me has always been about connection for long distance relationships and it gives me a hyper focus on self-care and getting a lot of shit done,” Champ Phoenix, a leatherman and co-creator of the fetish party Into, says. While locked, some choose to focus on their fitness habits to burn extra energy or work on other projects they’ve been hoping to get off their to do list.
“The hardest part is often the mental fixation," Reid confirms. “When your mind is busy, the cage is easier to forget.”
6.) Don’t try to do it alone
Everybody say “community!” If you’re trying out chastity, especially for the first time, getting connected to someone else in the chastity world will help. “If you don’t have a keyholder, have someone else to help you stay focused when you’re going insane,” Chipper, a NYC-based leatherman, educator, and fetish workshop owner says. “Join an online chastity community for support, to do cage checks, and keep it fun. It helps one achieve their goals, keep you focused, and motivates [you.]” This might come by way of meetups (bars like Rock Bar in New York City host socials,) events (like CagedJock's Locktoberfest) or even online. In addition, Bush points out that community may help with offsetting the costs of various things.
“You can swap out rings or cages that don’t have an ideal fit,” Bush says. “They can get expensive so any way you can save money.”
6 Pro Chastity Kink Tips for Locktober Beginners
It’s time to lock in!In case you missed it: Chastity is the fetish of the year. Yes, you read that right, the fetish of the year. That’s according to data from the video sharing site Clips4Sale which reports that people are becoming increasingly curious about individuals being “locked in” — and we aren’t talking about fitness goals.
For the past few years, conversations about chastity kinks have become increasingly public, with a bejeweled device showing up in the presentation and subsequent advertisements of a high fashion jewelry designer. Last year, it seemed to pierce the zeitgeist in a different way as bros on TikTok encouraged one another to “Lock in” for Locktober. For them, they meant a month of concerted effort in meeting their self-improvement goals. But for those on our side of the internet, which has been engaging in Locktober since at least the 2010s, it means engaging in chastity for the month of October.
In a nutshell, chastity is the practice of orgasm denial, often through a device like a dedicated cage. It requires focus and self-control, sometimes incorporating dominance and submission (hello BDSM!) through the inclusion of a keyholder. It, understandably, is not easy, whether you’re doing it for a day or a month, but there are a few ways to make coping a little more manageable.
Here, we talk to a few guys who have locked in before about what you should keep in mind and how to make it through, whether you’re doing it for the full month of Locktober or just the weekend.
1.) Take it one day at a time
As they say, the way to abstain for 31 days is to do it one day at a time. “If Locktober is your reason to first try chastity, make a Plan A to do 31 days and a Plan B to increase your length of time locked each time,” Self Authored Sub, who at the time of writing has been locked for 2,514 days, tells Them.
What that means is worry about getting through the day in front of you. Then when that’s done, focus your attention on the night after that. Breaking your bid up into bite size chunks might make it more manageable. And if you have to stop, don’t look at it as a failure, look instead at the accomplishment of how many days you stayed locked.
2.) Comfort (within reason) is non-negotiable
While chastity is not intended to feel like a bed of pillows, there is a line to how much you should take. “Chastity should be challenging, not painful,” Jasper Reid, who has engaged in chastity in the past and now serves as a keyholder for submissives. “Invest in finding a way to make the experience more comfortable for you.”
This can look like many things. If you’re wearing a plastic device, some advise you to take a piece of sandpaper and rub down the sharp edges that may catch and poke at you. Sleeping can be particularly difficult so consider swapping your cage out for silicone to sleep in, which may be more comfortable. Others underscore how important it is to keep your body moisturized in order to minimize friction which can cause drying and cracking of skin.
“This is not a practice in pain, it’s about pleasure through denial,” Reid says.
3.) Hygiene is key
This should go without saying but, do not skimp on your cleanliness. “The cage needs to be cleaned,” Kory Koxx, a nudist and gogo boy based in NYC, says.” I usually wear mine 24/7 but will take it off and clean it every other day.” Some classic soap and hot water should do the trick.
4.) Prepare for this to impact many parts of your life
Wearing a cage around your genitals, unsurprisingly, worms its way into your everyday. “Most guys are not ready for just how distracting it will be at first,” a chastity hobbyist that goes by CtrlZalt online says. In addition to sleeping, you will likely begin using stalls instead of urinals in public bathrooms and find yourself conscious of the cage when changing in the gym locker room. “You’re always aware of the cage. Even just walking down the street you feel it … with each step. It’s like a dom getting close and telling me I can’t cum, but this dom is taunting you every second of the day, even when I’m just doing normal things like grocery shopping.”
Jeb Bush points out that it might also factor into your workouts. “Watch out with anything high intensity where your cage is going to be jerked around a lot,” he says. “It’s hot to have on at the gym, but you have to be realistic that your member is essentially in a plastic or metal vice grip.” And while many advise that you should give people a heads up before meeting for a hook up, wearing it openly in a designated play space can be beneficial. “Wearing a cage in a steam room or sauna is very in and a great signal that you’re there to give pleasure solely,” Bush says.
5.) Find something to divert your focus
If your cage is going to pull your focus, it’s important to give yourself something else to focus on. “Chastity for me has always been about connection for long distance relationships and it gives me a hyper focus on self-care and getting a lot of shit done,” Champ Phoenix, a leatherman and co-creator of the fetish party Into, says. While locked, some choose to focus on their fitness habits to burn extra energy or work on other projects they’ve been hoping to get off their to do list.
“The hardest part is often the mental fixation," Reid confirms. “When your mind is busy, the cage is easier to forget.”
6.) Don’t try to do it alone
Everybody say “community!” If you’re trying out chastity, especially for the first time, getting connected to someone else in the chastity world will help. “If you don’t have a keyholder, have someone else to help you stay focused when you’re going insane,” Chipper, a NYC-based leatherman, educator, and fetish workshop owner says. “Join an online chastity community for support, to do cage checks, and keep it fun. It helps one achieve their goals, keep you focused, and motivates [you.]” This might come by way of meetups (bars like Rock Bar in New York City host socials,) events (like CagedJock's Locktoberfest) or even online. In addition, Bush points out that community may help with offsetting the costs of various things.
“You can swap out rings or cages that don’t have an ideal fit,” Bush says. “They can get expensive so any way you can save money.”
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