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I feel like it must be pretty bad for straight “butch” women as well. Not only because of the constant pressure to conform to plastic modern ideals of femininity, but also because I would wager it’s harder to find literally any place for them to feel a sense of community or kinship that isn’t crawling with troons or radical feminists. I’ve seen at least a few butch lesbian Reddits/forums/etc, and they already have some sense of community because they’re united by proxy under the L in , LGBT (even if they’re still ostracized in that group, which is really sad). But where the fuck do you go if you’re a straight female who just happens to embrace a very masculine aesthetic/lifestyle? You never see women much older than 18-19 consistently refer to themselves as tomboys, nor have I ever seen a space for them to find other masc women to commiserate with. It’s a lonely experience, and just like you said, it must be a damn tempting draw to just drink the trans kool-aid and gain immediate access to an ever-widening community who’ll not only welcome you, but constantly validate your thoughts and feelings to a downright manipulative degree.What pisses me off the most about rapidly increasing number of FTMs are the lesbian circles that won't acknowledge the part they play in it. Butch lesbians are frequently looked down upon. Lesbian communities like to claim they embrace GNC women, but its conditional. On a scale of femme to andro to butch, if you are anywhere to right of andro, you are not welcome. In online communities, it is common to hear the following:
- Butch women are gross
- Butch women are an embarrassment. They are why I avoid the lesbian label.
- Butch women are just men wannabes
- Why don't butch women just transition
- Butch women just want to emulate heterosexuality
- Anyone attracted to butch women should just admit they are bi
- Id rather date an actual man than a woman who tries to look like one
Butch women and anyone who finds them attractive are given shit by their own community. Back in the day these women would grow a thicker skin, find a new community, or create their own. Now they have the trans community that will embrace them. They get loved bombed by the cult. They declare they are trans instead of butch and now they are brave and stunning. They are sold a pile of lies and believe that they must have been trans all along. Meanwhile women who find butch women attractive can now date a transman and get told how amazing they are for doing so.
Its not hard to see why a young woman would find the trans side more appealing on a surface level. So I don't want to hear another lesbian crying about how "we are losing all the butch lesbians to the troons".
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