nigga its not feminist to tell someone to date their own age, or as close to that as possible, simply on the grounds that means both parties have a higher chance of being treated equally, we're past the whole marriage is a joining of families, property, and as early on because of short life expectancy. Its the same if older male/ younger female, for vice versa situations.
theres no other logical point other than the risk of fathering retards, but even then, its some what of a risk and not a high risk, and you can always abort and try again. Love marriages are relatively a newer modern aspect, and depend on combability, instead of property assets, and value, and because its the current ideal most people strive for, then combability can help build a foundation towards a healthy long lasting relation ship.
Two different generations marrying in can mean fewer chances of compability and the risk of an unhealthy dynamic
. its part of the reason why, at 27 I struggle to even find someone to marry, because in my younger years the only men interested in me was interested in my youthful looks, and bust size, and essentially were old enough to be my dad, or grandfather. the problem is I have more than enough earning capital, and no desire to fill a void for a father figure, in the sense of dating an older man, and run the risk of having that man dictate my life to how he sees fit.
when people want to marry, they ideally want someone to not only provide for any offspring, but to love and respect them as an equal partner, and in some instances with an older party and younger party being together means that the respect can turn unequal. Its just human nature, we gravitate towards people that make us feel comfortable and relate too, and the only ones I've known who legit date men with substainal age gaps, are those who have severe daddy issues and haven't gotten over them. We base are idea of relationships with our parents, and part of not having a dad for most of your life is you seek to fill that void else where in unhealthy means. I only didn;t have a dad in my teen years because he fucked off to be a troon on his dying wife, and have learned that men who are over anal about control in the household, can and will fuck off when times get tough. So as a result I abhor significant age gap relationships, because look at my parents, only ten years apart, and he still ran like a boy when times got tough, and left me to be the only care taker of my mom who was young and beautiful and when she met him, and haggard and bitter in poverty up to her death.
Trad marriages where the man is the sole provider and the woman is the housekeeper, and traditional gender roles and values can fail and its not femenist propaganda to say it. The answer isn't to dismiss criticism of significant age gap relationships, as MUH FEMINISM, but to understand human nature. It's human nature to want to fuck procreate acquire stuff and pass it on to the next generation, that's how humans have been since the dawn of time, but its human nature to love and want to love as well, and respect each other, even Neanderthals understood that emotional complexity. A relationship where the party has an upper hand in terms of age and experience, isn't one conducive to generating a healthy relationship, it can, in rare instances, but its exploitive, and normal people wouldn't seek to exploit others.
