I do not understand why women still stay when their spouse troons out. I mean, I realize that people stay in horrible relationships because they're scared of being alone, mistakenly thinking the power of love will conquer all, think "it's a phase, it will pass" or "they'll change their ways", or are self serving martyrs who believe "in good times and bad", but goddamn, what the fuck is wrong with you!?! Why are you going along with this?!?
From what I've seen from these women online, the narcissism and raging meltdowns are a constant when the man troons out. They suddenly can't do the men's work, because "that just worsens my dysphoria" but they refuse to do the women's work because "that's beneath me" or "well that's your job". They'll gladly put their family into massive debt to live out their fetish, not caring if their wives and kids have to go without, just as long as they get HRT, those expensive clothes, makeup, beauty treatments and surgeries. They undermine and belittle their own , wives to the kids, because they can't stand the bond a mother has with her children, or the fact the mother gets attention solely for being a mother, because let's be honest, no one really gives a shit about fathers (which is a shame, because there are so many amazing fathers out there, mine included). They force their own fucking children to take part of this, and will rage at their own fucking children if they don't validate them or play along to their delusions. Fuck, these goddamn men will even try to take over the fucking breastfeeding, because it gets them off!! And these fucking women let them or give it serious consideration!!
Let's not forget that people are actively encouraging these women to stay in the relationship, despite their own feelings about it. "Well, you just don't understand how hard it is to be trans in this horrible society we have" or "you're a selfish bitch for thinking about leaving. Do you even know how hard that "she" has it? It takes a lot of courage and bravery to come out, and now you're being a selfish bitch for not supporting "her" living her true life". Even "well you have to understand why "she's" acting out. "She" never got to experience a female childhood, so "she's" basically having to go through puberty all over again!" or "I understand normally that particular behavior would be extremely concerning if it was a cis male, but "she's" trans, so therefore, it's different somehow and totally not inappropriate".
I rarely hear of men staying with their girlfriends/wives when they troon out, unless they are bisexual or troon out with them. Like, I try to be supportive of women since I am one, but goddamn, sometimes I really do want to be "not like other girls" with shit like this.