Having Children

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Kids

  • Yes, I'm a pregger fetishist and i hate money

    Votes: 26 44.1%

  • No, I want a succession of flesh dolls for companionship

    Votes: 11 18.6%

  • Idk, just let me get lubes for this fence

    Votes: 22 37.3%
  • Total voters
    59
Damien Thorne said:
I have heard many people admit that they would not be decent parents so they abstain from procreation. I can respect that.
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My earlier post was more jokey in nature, but yeah, I do not think I’d be a good parent. In fact, I can almost guarantee a rough life if I ever bring a kid into the world. Don’t wanna go woe-is-me in this thread but long story short I have horrible genetics. I could not in good faith knowingly and willingly pass on the illnesses I have and that are in my blood to another living human being, one of my own creation. Maybe someday I’ll find a partner who wants a kid or already has one, and if that’s the case I’ll do my best to try to be a parent for them. But as it is I don’t see that for myself. I’m still young though, so maybe my mind will change someday.
 
Shadfan666xxx000 said:
Personally, i want kids if only because i feel like they have a lot to offer in terms of emotional reward if done right but its risky and honestly I could go without it.
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Sounds like you would be one of those narcissistic parents who treat their kids like turds after they turn 14 and are no longer "innocent angels" incapable of forming their opinions.

I can't speak for everyone, but i think anyone who has kids needs to take in count that no child is a perfect clone of its parents. Be it genetically or in terms of morality and their view of the world. Sure, it helps to teach them whatever you want them to learn at an early age, but by their mid teens (specially nowadays with the internet) most kids unlearn most stuff you've teached them, which is the part of the whole reason teens always "rebel" against their parents. And leaving morals aside, genetics can also vary wildly. Some healthy, good looking, mentally stable parents in their mid 20's could have an ugly autistic son with some minor deformations like flat feet or myopia.
None of this is to say that people shouldn't have kids just to avoid being dealt a bad hand in these gambles, but they are definitely factors they should think about.

Although i just don't want kids because human babies are fucking gross lmao>
 
Billy Rocker said:
Sounds like you would be one of those narcissistic parents who treat their kids like turds after they turn 14 and are no longer "innocent angels" incapable of forming their opinions.

I can't speak for everyone, but i think anyone who has kids needs to take in count that no child is a perfect clone of its parents. Be it genetically or in terms of morality and their view of the world. Sure, it helps to teach them whatever you want them to learn at an early age, but by their mid teens (specially nowadays with the internet) most kids unlearn most stuff you've teached them, which is the part of the whole reason teens always "rebel" against their parents. And leaving morals aside, genetics can also vary wildly. Some healthy, good looking, mentally stable parents in their mid 20's could have an ugly autistic son with some minor deformations like flat feet or myopia.
None of this is to say that people shouldn't have kids just to avoid being dealt a bad hand in these gambles, but they are definitely factors they should think about.

Although i just don't want kids because human babies are fucking gross lmao>
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Actually to the contrary, i kind of want a spitfire little shit. Mavericks tend to be more independent and ironically need less upkeep and one day I want to be able to respect the kid and nobody can respect someone who can't disagree.
 
I do but I dread the responsibility that comes with having them. Not to mention the financial burden.

And that's before being able to even find someone I'm willing to have children with or who is willing to have children with me, for that matter.

Perhaps when I'm more financially stable and less responsibility-averse.
 
Shadfan666xxx000 said:
Actually to the contrary, i kind of want a spitfire little shit. Mavericks tend to be more independent and ironically need less upkeep and one day I want to be able to respect the kid and nobody can respect someone who can't disagree.
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Same really.

Kids becoming rebellious and contradicting you is part of finding their own identity and growing up. It leads them to having a bit more of a more well rounded view of the world when (or if in some cases unfortunately) they actually become mature adults.

At the end of the day, they're still your kid and they can never change that, so you might as well love them unconditionally.

"Fuck you, Dad! I hate you!"

"That's fine. I still love you."
 
I hope to have 1-3 kids. Some days I’m like eh one-and-done and I’m good, others I’m like three seems like a good number.
 
queerape said:
I hope to have 1-3 kids. Some days I’m like eh one-and-done and I’m good, others I’m like three seems like a good number.
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My advice, as someone who has been there and done that, is to have your kids as young as you can and right in row. That way, by the time you are in your 40s your kids are all raised. You can then focus on wealth building and fill your early retirement with spoiling grandchildren.

I waited too long to have kids. First at 29, second and last at 39. If I could do it over I would have had 3 starting at 23.
 
Cynically Insane said:
My advice, as someone who has been there and done that, is to have your kids as young as you can and right in row. That way, by the time you are in your 40s your kids are all raised. You can then focus on wealth building and fill your early retirement with spoiling grandchildren.

I waited too long to have kids. First at 29, second and last at 39. If I could do it over I would have had 3 starting at 23.
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I’m already 28, I guess it’s too late to do that. I plan to start before 35 though. I’d rather be a 35 year old mother than an 18 year old one. I was a total dumbass at 23 and would have been a shitty mom.
 
Oh hell no. And I'm well past the age where I could have changed my mind about that.

I love being retired. With no descendants, I don't need to worry about prodigals coming back home to get "free" rent while they ponder the consequences of their life choices. No grandkids to raise because the parents are crackheads. And when I die, all my leftover money will go to feed stray cats and not worthless offspring who'd only have spent it on stupid shit like sports cars instead of paying off credit cards.

It's bad enough I have siblings who expect a cut of the cat food money if they have the dumb luck to outlive me.
 
I'm a parent that became one during a stressful time of my life, with no applicable life skills, and I have found it rewarding. The first two years have been a shock to the system for myself and my partner but our child has been worth every hardship we faced.

He wakes up and the world is amazing. Our bedroom door flies open every morning and an excited bundle of joy throws himself between us to obtain hugs, kisses, and discuss the rain on the window. He just wants to go outside, pat the cat, see the sheep, be filthy, eat food, ride his bike and laugh at dumb stuff like the word "ew". You can't have a bad day with him around. Seeing the world through his eyes gives us hope.

I've cleaned up my direction in life since having him. My partner and I were both going nowhere fast before our son was born. I'm studying to earn more money so he has a nice, permanent home to grow up in and can pursue activities and sports that he enjoys. It's given us purpose and our son has a good life because we pulled ourselves together to give him what he deserves: stability across the board.

I shifted all of us to a semi-rural place a month ago with a big yard after seeing the BLM shit infest the small city we were living in. It was a lot of money to do it but I felt a gut level responsibility to not raise my family in a concrete jungle. It's just not healthy. I'd rather drive ten minutes more to the shops so he can have clear air to breathe.

Some people should not have kids. By all accounts my partner and I fitted into that category more than I like to admit. It has been hard but our son is precious. This experience has highlighted the value of a traditional family with the ups and downs that it brings. When my son gets older, he will realize he was the number one reason his parents didn't end up as useless NEETs one way or another lol.
 
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I would like to have 1-2 sons in the future, but I feel like it wouldn't happen due to financial and social reasons. If I do want to have kids I will have to be financially stable and own at least a nice big house for my family. With the way the world is going and my life in general, I just sadly don't see it happening.
 
I like kids, in the regular non-deviant way. I want some of my own but I would be just as happy adopting them at a younger age and may well end up doing so. I meet all the qualifications to become a foster parent but as a blue collar guy I can't find a job that has a schedule that lets me properly take care of a kid. It's a damn shame
 
Virgo said:
I'm a parent that became one during a stressful time of my life, with no applicable life skills, and I have found it rewarding. The first two years have been a shock to the system for myself and my partner but our child has been worth every hardship we faced.

He wakes up and the world is amazing. Our bedroom door flies open every morning and an excited bundle of joy throws himself between us to obtain hugs, kisses, and discuss the rain on the window. He just wants to go outside, pat the cat, see the sheep, be filthy, eat food, ride his bike and laugh at dumb stuff like the word "ew". You can't have a bad day with him around. Seeing the world through his eyes gives us hope.

I've cleaned up my direction in life since having him. My partner and I were both going nowhere fast before our son was born. I'm studying to earn more money so he has a nice, permanent home to grow up in and can pursue activities and sports that he enjoys. It's given us purpose and our son has a good life because we pulled ourselves together to give him what he deserves: stability across the board.

I shifted all of us to a semi-rural place a month ago with a big yard after seeing the BLM shit infest the small city we were living in. It was a lot of money to do it but I felt a gut level responsibility to not raise my family in a concrete jungle. It's just not healthy. I'd rather drive ten minutes more to the shops so he can have clear air to breathe.

Some people should not have kids. By all accounts my partner and I fitted into that category more than I like to admit. It has been hard but our son is precious. This experience has highlighted the value of a traditional family with the ups and downs that it brings. When my son gets older, he will realize he was the number one reason his parents didn't end up as useless NEETs one way or another lol.
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Heh, you sound like my folks. Both of whom were alcoholics who had to kick the habit prior to having me and my brother.

Still sober to this day.

I really admire people like you.
 
I can't stand the thought of creating a social media addict, I don't think my old heart could take it.
 
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