Princess and snuggles? My first association was ddlg and I'm probably not even wrong...
The way he describes his gf's new bf clearly indicates that he is jealous af.
I know a couple who were married for a about five years before they decided to do the whole poly thing. Long story short, they were going through divorce within 6 months of opening the relationship.
I know a couple who were married for a about five years before they decided to do the whole poly thing. Long story short, they were going through divorce within 6 months of opening the relationship.
It's pretty sad how she hasn't realized yet that superficially being a "great" guy isn't worth shit. Odds are she's under 25 and he's at least 30, and he doesn't want to deal with any of the local "poly" women at either of their same ages.
It's pretty sad how she hasn't realized yet that superficially being a "great" guy isn't worth shit. Odds are she's under 25 and he's at least 30, and he doesn't want to deal with any of the local "poly" women at either of their same ages.
145 points·9 days ago
If possessiveness is a trait of monogamy, an unmitigated sense of entitlement pervades in polyamory. Tell him his advances are unwelcome and that if he can’t tolerate being friends, you’ll have to cut him off entirely. No one is entitled to your presence in their lives.
The clock on the wall says it's asskick o'clock, lady. Your "friend" needs to be in prison, and you need to file for a divorce from your "primary". Both will get screwed like the bitches they are.
I have the feeling he'd ask that question even if it wasn't "polyamory" but "hitting yourself on the forehead with a tack hammer." (Though at this point in the thread, the latter sounds much more appealing.)
A counselor and nurse specializing in polyamorous singles, couples and groupings, Kathy Labriola has spent many years helping people to understand and manage their jealousy. This book is a compendium of the techniques and exercises she has developed, as well as tips and insights from the polyamory community's top educators, therapists and authors. These accessible, simple techniques are designed to be easily implemented in the event of an intense jealousy crisis. They are even more useful if undertaken over a period of time before a jealousy crisis happens, to build a skill set that will be at hand to help managing jealousy when and if it does occur.
I hate how they downplay his emotions. What they are basically telling him is that he has no reason whatsoever to feel insecure, even though the other guy is more attractive than he is. In poly world, feeling insecure and jealous because your SO is fucking a person who is more attractive than you are is not normal nor acceptable, and emotions like jealousy should always be repressed.
A counselor and nurse specializing in polyamorous singles, couples and groupings, Kathy Labriola has spent many years helping people to understand and manage their jealousy. This book is a compendium of the techniques and exercises she has developed, as well as tips and insights from the polyamory community's top educators, therapists and authors. These accessible, simple techniques are designed to be easily implemented in the event of an intense jealousy crisis. They are even more useful if undertaken over a period of time before a jealousy crisis happens, to build a skill set that will be at hand to help managing jealousy when and if it does occur.
I hate how they downplay his emotions. What they are basically telling him is that he has no reason whatsoever to feel insecure, even though the other guy is more attractive than he is. In poly world, feeling insecure and jealous because your SO is fucking a person who is more attractive than you are is not normal nor acceptable, and emotions like jealousy should always be repressed.
That's funny, because invalidating someone's feelings is a form of emotional abuse--especially when those feelings are an integral part of a relationship.
I feel sorry for the raped lady, but it's astounding that she expects any kind of loyalty or basic respect from the guy when she knew she was disposable from the very beginning of the relationship. She needs to figure out that it doesn't matter if reality is described in fancy words, disposable is disposable.
A counselor and nurse specializing in polyamorous singles, couples and groupings, Kathy Labriola has spent many years helping people to understand and manage their jealousy. This book is a compendium of the techniques and exercises she has developed, as well as tips and insights from the polyamory community's top educators, therapists and authors. These accessible, simple techniques are designed to be easily implemented in the event of an intense jealousy crisis. They are even more useful if undertaken over a period of time before a jealousy crisis happens, to build a skill set that will be at hand to help managing jealousy when and if it does occur.
I hate how they downplay his emotions. What they are basically telling him is that he has no reason whatsoever to feel insecure, even though the other guy is more attractive than he is. In poly world, feeling insecure and jealous because your SO is fucking a person who is more attractive than you are is not normal nor acceptable, and emotions like jealousy should always be repressed.
"Opening up a relationship" is usually the last roll of the dice before a doomed marriage collapses. Often, hilariously, it is the partner whose behaviour is destroying the marriage who will try to open it up, only to find their SO hooks up with someone less awful than them straight away and divorces their sorry ass while they can't get laid with anybody.
One guy I know decided to open up his marriage because his wife refused to indulge his revolting fetishes (scat, watersports, emetophilia) and was such a delusional narcissist (these people keep cropping up in this thread, huh) that he assumed he'd be drowning in tubgirl pussy within a week. Instead his wife found a lovely guy, bought a house with him, got a new job, got custody of the kids and left him homeless. This entire process took about 2 months from start to finish. Last I heard he was living in his aunt's basement, presumably jacking off to the worst porn in existence.