Are you lost needing femoid advice post here - For the poor bastard's who dare or are just curious

[Big Miss Steak]

16 pounds of pure muscle? Are you feeding her a scoop of protein powder with her kibble every meal?

I feed my cats a homemade raw diet. On Meat Box Mondays, she sits in a cardboard box and I give her frog legs, whole mice, or whole chicks for her to shred and eat. I chase her around the house and/or wrestle a few times a day.

 

[long waters]

16 pounds of pure muscle? Are you feeding her a scoop of protein powder with her kibble every meal?

I feed my cats a homemade raw diet. On Meat Box Mondays, she sits in a cardboard box and I give her frog legs, whole mice, or whole chicks for her to shred and eat. I chase her around the house and/or wrestle a few times a day.

Were you that anon on /fit/ who was strength training their cat many years ago?!

 

[Two Frogs]

I feed my cats a homemade raw diet. On Meat Box Mondays, she sits in a cardboard box and I give her frog legs, whole mice, or whole chicks for her to shred and eat. I chase her around the house and/or wrestle a few times a day.

It sounds like you are genuinely raising this thing to kill intruders.

 

[ThePozzedOutCritic]

It sounds like you are genuinely raising this thing to kill intruders.

don't call cats things it's rude

 

[Two Frogs]

don't call cats things it's rude

*this little gentleman and scholar

 

[Fishnumm]

 

[crazedaze]

Think I'm okay for early-30s. Good job making six figures. Face is good. Fit. But unfortunately short (5'3")

Not a lot of successful relationships.

She's overweight and I don't find that physically attractive.

why are you asking us to give you permission not to date someone you don't even want to fuck?
Here's the secret; you are not "okay for early 30s". You are a fucking midget who found someone who adores you and you think is a good person, but she's too unattractive for you, a kissless midget who works out and has a job.

I have a gut feeling something is off about this.

Of course it is off. You should hold out for the fit racist tradwife of your dreams, you don't like this chick. Of course don't "take what you can get", the honest truth is your standards are way above your means, and also you shouldn't date people who are below them.

 

[The Stranger]

I think someone here is fat

 

[Big Miss Steak]

Were you that anon on /fit/ who was strength training their cat many years ago?!
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My cat is two so no, but I did try to leash train her so this anon and I think alike.

It sounds like you are genuinely raising this thing to kill intruders.

I do entertain fantasies of a medium sized dog or somesuch entering the home uninvited and being killed by the cat in a rare, heroic display of bravery (she runs and hides at such terrors as the front door opening, or someone laughing too loud).

She's very high energy and likes to chew things. When she was a kitten, I would play with her wand toy until she was panting like a dog right before bed, and she would still wake up around 4 AM with intense zoomies. I would hide myself in the guest room and get a few more hours of sleep. I still find odd things in her poop, like small bits of plastic and plant. The Meat Box Mondays are not enough.

 

[HorridHenry]

Like @pork and beans said, you don't have to settle just because she likes you. I know being alone is hard, but being in a relationship with major compatibility issues is a different kind of hard. The things you dislike about her are serious personality defects that probably won't change and probably will cause problems in the future. Individually, things like political alignment, weight problems, and poor sexual decisions aren't necessarily deal breakers for everyone, but when undesirable traits cluster like that, it tells you a lot about a person. Your height is commonly seen as a physical flaw in society, but her flaws have to do with judgment and decision-making. Those aren't the same thing.

The woman you'll end up with will eventually get old and probably fat, too. You will have to teach yourself to be attracted to an old fat woman. Maybe you can teach yourself to be attracted to this one. Jeff Bezos fucks Dirty Sanchez and she looks like a biohazard, clearly there's something besides pure appearance that men find sexually appealing.

Everyone gets old and ugly but by then you have something of a shared life when it doesn't matter. Or I see that as a function of time anyway. It's probably a small thing.

For the weight, I think it could depend. If she's like slightly overweight and you don't find it attractive but it's not a dealbreaker then that's different from more overweight and blatantly unattractive. I think the odds of this changing long-term are slim.

I actually don't think the specific political difference here is that big of a deal, but it would depend on the degree of it too. Like I personally don't think it's that big of a deal for a school counselor to look the other way for petty kid student stuff, especially if she's trying to gently nudge them into commiting to education and honest employment. I think long term there's also a fair chance she'd become more jaded.

3. attention isn't necessarily bad, however there's a fuck ton of mental derangement that involves love bombing people, so if that was the only issue i'd tread very carefully, people that are bad bi polar for one will drive you to crying in a corner mentally then go "damn baby, i love you so much, ty for being here, i'm so sorry you feel like i did something wrong"

I guess my thought is there is always some give and take. No one's totally perfect.

Far as the weight goes but shes bordering on obese at 29, basically.

I'm trying to be hopeful the multiple 6 paragraph texts per day, and past polyamory, don't hint at mental derangement and are some expression of interest and excitement. Seems to be echoed as a judgment issue by enough people. This is the thing that made me feel uneasy.

Trying to overlook she is such a bleeding heart, but she let Jamal steal from her purse. I'd be pissed.

Smart, thoughtful, fun to spend time with. I'd take one strike but these seem like too many.

why are you asking us to give you permission not to date someone you don't even want to fuck?
Here's the secret; you are not "okay for early 30s". You are a fucking midget who found someone who adores you and you think is a good person, but she's too unattractive for you, a kissless midget who works out and has a job.

look i just need reassurance

And I dunno. Not much I can do about short except make lots of money and look pretty. Though I've seen short guys with non-obese women. I think? Is it that dire?

 

[pork and beans]

I guess my thought is there is always some give and take. No one's totally perfect.

yeah but you want to feel attracted to that person you love, on all levels. Like this is someone you want to be a better person for, enjoy time with, possibly grow together in the future
if you feel like that or think the spark is there then continue but if you dont see that happening its gonna be way more painful than being on your own a bit more. from your message it sounds like you were pretty hesitant...

Though I've seen short guys with non-obese women. I think? Is it that dire?

depends. on USA its probably hard because there's a lot of fat people AND people are tall. Some countries have less fat people AND most people are shorter, especially women. so height is not that big of a deal culturally+ no matter who you date they're a normal weight

This is the thing that made me feel uneasy.

have you told her? you should tell her about how its making you feel, can't really expect her to change her ways otherwise

if she's clingy and you avoid her it will only make the clinginess worse. adress it directly and you'll both feel secure with each other despite having different communication patterns

the obese and job things are harder to approach but the texting thing is 100% fixable, probably has to do with miscommunication or an unmet need from her own life that causes her to act this way


here have some pussytherapy tier pics. word it like this she will not be hurt

 

[ThePozzedOutCritic]

My cat is two so no, but I did try to leash train her so this anon and I think alike.


I do entertain fantasies of a medium sized dog or somesuch entering the home uninvited and being killed by the cat in a rare, heroic display of bravery (she runs and hides at such terrors as the front door opening, or someone laughing too loud).

She's very high energy and likes to chew things. When she was a kitten, I would play with her wand toy until she was panting like a dog right before bed, and she would still wake up around 4 AM with intense zoomies. I would hide myself in the guest room and get a few more hours of sleep. I still find odd things in her poop, like small bits of plastic and plant. The Meat Box Mondays are not enough.

Have you tried getting her one of those dried up rabbit ears to chew on? They're usually meant for dogs but she's basically a dog-cat from the sound of things.

 

[Red flag]

Don't date someone you're having to write paragraphs justifying why they "aren't that bad" that you can "work with".

Would you appreciate it if she was mulling over similar feelings on reddit or tumblr, picking apart your height or other characteristics when trying to decide whether you're worthy of her love?

You're either attracted to her or you aren't. Trying to force it is only going to make you both feel unfulfilled.

 

[pork and beans]

Don't date someone you're having to write paragraphs justifying why they "aren't that bad" that you can "work with"

Red flag is, contrary to what the user name suggests, completely correct

 

[Squanto Airi]

I still find the "former" polyamory part more concerning than her being fat. It'd probably be easier to tell her to eat a salad once in awhile than to break the conditioning of needing multiple men to make her feel loved.

 

[ThePozzedOutCritic]

I still find the "former" polyamory part more concerning than her being fat. It'd probably be easier to tell her to eat a salad once in awhile than to break the conditioning of needing multiple men to make her feel loved.

She basically said she used to be a whore. Like if she actually got over that that's great for her but I wouldn't date her. Not unless she's been normal for a couple years at least.

 

[Squanto Airi]

She basically said she used to be a whore. Like if she actually got over that that's great for her but I wouldn't date her. Not unless she's been normal for a couple years at least.

Pretty much.

 

[pork and beans]

probably be easier to tell her to eat a salad once in awhile

im sure that will go over well, polyamorous liberal overly sensitive chicks love being told to put down the fork

 

[Lentil Soup]

I guess my thought is there is always some give and take. No one's totally perfect.

With the additional context, it kind of sounds like she has more qualities of concern than qualities you actively like. There are other fish in the sea.

I will maintain, reading other comments in the thread, that suicidal empathy is a trait that transcends political leanings. My grandmother is like this, but she's a MAGA republican who does it out of religious belief and takes WWJD literally. It's more common in women but some people are just truly like this, it's like a core personality trait.

 

[Two Frogs]

the multiple 6 paragraph texts per day

she's insane, run