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I think he'd be all about it, and then we would love him even more LADIES LOVE COOL JOSH
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Anyone remember Slowlybutshelly/knitbynight? Amazing lolcow who is still active. She was expelled from Ross medical school in the early aughts and has been “about to graduate” ever since.
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Imagine hand stitching this instead of just using a fucking sewing machine to finish each line in 2 seconds
Scratch that, imagine making it at all
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YES! I know there is no way she got back into medical school but I do wonder if she ever finished her bohemian mosaic sweater.
For those not in the know, she was in the peace corps. When she got back, she went to medical school but failed some important test that required that the school kick her out. Appealed and lost. I know she was talking about Caribbean medical school. Don’t think she attended. Joined Raverly and talked about the above endlessly. A famous spinner sent her a spindle and once received, she broke it in like two weeks.
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I'm pretty sure she gave up knitting.
That spinning thread was amazing. She had some real big names, people whose books I've read, giving her one-on-one instruction.
She went to the University of Vermont. She was suspended for a year over cheating. She went back, failed out. Then she went to a foreign pay-to-play school, Ross. She failed to graduate there because she couldn't pass whatever the medical version of the bar is (?) something like that? The Step exams. She failed too many times and they academically withdrew her.
She's on Reddit now (original name SlowlybutShelly, same as her StudentDoctorNetwork name, new name ScooterAnn). She constantly suggests the same four names for cats. If you can sift through those there's still quite a lot of crazy. As of last year she was still trying to get into med school. She rewrote the MCAT and did poorly.
Her current obsessions seem to be dermatology and an accident for which she has been found at-fault.
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The online knitting community is one of the original factors that cemented a lifelong loathing of copyright and the concept of “intellectual property” in me. The fact that some of them pretend like they have any right or ability to control what someone does with a physical object that they made themselves, with materials they purchased, is completely absurd, and it floors me how many people seem to think this is reasonable.
The ironic part is that I’m actually pretty sure that you can’t copyright a knitting pattern itself (as in the instructions to cast on 50, knit stockinette, for five rows, etc.), in the same way you can’t copyright a recipe. The copyright would almost always apply to just the book, PDF, or web page that it was published on.
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Thank-you, thank-you, thank-you. Every once in a while, I would check to see if she had posted on Rav. Didn’t occur to me to check Reddit. I didn’t know she had been kicked out due to cheating, but it makes sense. I see that she is 60 now and still taking about medical school. For some reason I thought she was like 10 years younger. That is a serious case of failure to launch. Imagine being near retirement age and never having a car in your name.
Her social security checks are going to be tiny since she hasn’t worked much. Guess we will get another 20 years of her bitching about that.
Same with me. It’s really weird how hardcore Internet knitters talk about how important it is to pass on the knowledge from previous generations to the future ones while at the same time screaming at you about copyright for sharing a scan of a pattern from 30 years ago.
In other news, Stephen West wants you to know that he is doing the work and won’t be responding to comments. I wonder what the specific and visible thing will be. Hopefully it is an ugly shawl pattern, free to BIPOC and other marginalized people, but with not one but two hidden swastikas.
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My friend you need a ravelry account for this. It’s worth it.
Shelly/knitbynight
Shelly Bankston of Lafayette, Louisiana
Active on Facebook under that name
Her MO goes like this: get an idea (Dave Ramsey, a car accident that happened to her, finishing a sweater, hiking the Appalachian Trail).
Go to a place where people into that gather. Ask them a bunch of questions.
Learn nothing. Ask more and more detailed and repetitive questions, like a broken AI. Learn NOTHING. Take no action.
Peppered into these questions is repetitive and irrelevant information about herself, which is how she gets ID’d under different names. Peace Corps in Malawi in the eighties. Duke undergrad.
Med school out of state. Poor sick family (her dad, Ed W. Bankston, is a labour lawyer and arbitrator, so the idea that she came up from working class is not true.) some guy who said he loved her in 1997.
Annoy people. Delete post. Get banned.
Spinning:
Why do people spin?
Masters Level Spinning Course?
bee travel wheel/learning on spindle versus wheel?
is the yarn you make yourself REALLY different from LYS bought
single, 2ply, 3ply. how do you know?
Curious about spinning?
RECOMENDED SPINNING BOOKS
Spinning Log?
recommendations on spinning videos?
Thanksgiving
What is the purpose?
Eventually the Beginning Spinners group got so tired of her that they confined her to her own thread:
Knitbynight's thread
This is a partial selection.
The world's ugliest sweater:
Sweater Swatches
Sweaters from Hell
First attempt at adapting a pattern - sweater
Perhaps learning from the spinners, they then confine her to her own thread again:
Knitbynight's sweater thread
Will return later to update.
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While I was getting screenshots, you made a wonderful, informative post on her. It has been fun going down memory lane on this. For anyone who doesn't want to click on the links or sign up to Rav, here is just a sample of her craziness.
I guess she actually broke the spindle within 10 minutes of getting it, not two weeks. She posted this helpful picture:
I am a broke student (maxed out on student loans) and landed at my mothers house while taking a break and getting my apps ready. Last April, my mother broke her leg, has IDDM, borderline personality; helped with her rehab while putting off my step2ck. She has aspergers and is divorced from my father because she provokes and antagonizes verbally abusive until the other person reacts towards her. Learned behaviour from somewhere?
So after 4 months of rehab and tag teaming with my sister to help stabilize my mom and be the emotional support system (and let the doctors do their job) my father lands in the hospital with pneumonia. he never had a vaccine, so of course it happens to him.
So I end up on the local psych unit because…..
with no one around my mother provoked and antagonized and their was nothing between me and the door except my keys; and I hit her with my keys on the wrist. I did not have time to even think that she was on coumadin.
I texted my sister and brother to please check on her that I could not go home until they were there. well they get home and there are bruises….and my sister and brother call the police to order protective custody against me.
This is a brother who had conduct disorder as a child, breaking glass bottles over my head at one time. He has a history of suing doctors (psychiatrists) in this city. He lost his job a month ago, 3000 miles away and returns home and creates this; on the same day his dog (a deaf dalmation) in my care tore her acl. I paid for the dogs surgery and rehab and then my brother came down and literally two days later this scenario happens.
Fired brother from his job. Unemployed sister (with what I suspect is schizoaffective disorder). Mother with asperger’s, IDDM, htx, a radical hysterectomy, and two cardioversions to convert afib in the last year.
and they write me a letter and tell me they have taken care of me for too long and that I am the one with the psychiatric diagnosis and needing medication.
So once I went voluntarily to the police and to the hospital, I had my own avnodal psvt taken care of and migraine meds rechecked. and in the family meeting my family refused to let me come back home unless I was put on medication. So I said to the psychiatrist ” do I have a diagnosis? ” no……
then ‘why would i need to be on medication’? my family wanted me sick because they are sick.
So now what I have learned is that I live in a schizophrenegic family. A father probably with no positive symptoms but lots of negative symptoms.
A sister who is probably schizoaffectice; having delusions that the banking industry collapse is targeted at her because and she wants to change her name to allegra. ??????
A brother who when I was at undergrad, professors told me “he is not ready for this”…meaning beyond the campus. for twenty years he has gotten hired and fired ..and takes jobs mainly from lovers (is their another word for that that starts with a P?). dX: paranoid personality disorder.
I feel like I have just been ganged by my family. a situation was setup and created for me; to make me appear to be the violent one.
And three weeks ago I had written in my journal and drawn a big circle and inside that circle I put the names of the people I had to protect myself from (my mother, my brother, my sister, my father). Three weeks ago…. I anticipated this.
While on the unit there was a young man who was cussing constantly for hours and hours at a time; I told the others my mother was 100 times worse than that.
I have been discharged to my fathers home in another city. But now I may not have a relationship with my mother , brother, or sister again.
My brother is unemployed. My sister is unemployed and getting food stamps for my mother. I think they expect my 72 yr old father who should be retired to support them; my mother gets 1/3 of his social security and lives on that. and my 37 yr old sister lives off her with her. and my brother came home to lean on them.
a dog he cannot pay for but keeps. like a child…
I think animals should be subject to the same rules as humans. If you cannot support them and give them a loving environment then you should not have them.
anyway, my family wrote me a letter saying I could not go home to their place until I got ‘on meds for my diagnosis”.
For months prior to this I had been telling my mother that if her behavior continued this way that she would end up in a mental institution. and she kept throwing it back on me and telling me I was. So now they created a scenario to make my mother right.
Now the psych staff would not even communicate with her because they realized she wanted control over my life.
So now my mother is fading….my undiagnosed schizoaffective sister is manipulating her against me (my mother has aspergers and cannot understand emotions); my sister is purposefully manipulating my mother against me.
I feel like the woman who wrote the book “Left To Tell”. she had to leave rwanda because ‘when would the people who had killed start loving again” and when would the loving people forgive”. she said never in her lifetime.
Now I feel like in my lifetime I may never have a relationship with my family again. Just because I am the doctor…..
I used to help my mother with her meds; and for months prior to this she would yell and scream…..YOU ARE NOT A DOCTOR…YOU ARE NOT A DOCTOR…..and my sister would shove an iphone recorder in my face and record “even your psychiatrist will not see you again”…truth is my psychiatrist is 75 years old and has health issues and I am now the burgeoning doc….and may end up taking care of him. so our relationship has changed.
Lesson learned “I cannot be my mothers doctor”. 2. how to tell a schizoaffective she is a schizoaffective? how to have a relationship with a schizoaffective?
How does me the sane one stay sane? even the doctor staff were calling me the ‘twisted sister’….because my siblings had twisted me up”.
I have no idea how really good psychiatrists stay sane….
The worst part is
What is the saying ” she …..cuts off her nose to spite her face”.
What do I do?
Worst part is my father decides I am the one who needs help…..
my response was 1st response. and in 1st response….situations it turns back around on the other person.
Even the psychiatrist at the hospital admitted that ’ my family was splitting her against me.
sad thing is….my father was coming to pick me up and he went to the other house first ….mom, sis, bro all convinced him that the same thing would happen at his house. so 3 against 1 turned into 4 against 1. total nightmare.
I am the educated doctor who talks to my brother about the wound healing process in his dog; and he gets upset and indignant that he ‘knows all this stuff”. when he has never taken and anatomy and physiology course in his life. Evidently my educational level intimidates them and the more I know and share the worse they feel about themselves. and the lashing out starts….
How do I pick up the pieces from here? None of my family members sees the “global system” of job hiring etc. they are local yocals and i am the one that has to tiptoe around them.
The hardest part of all was not pretending to be a doc and be a patient throughout it all. The psych staff just let me rest and relax and updated all my vaccine records and TB results and …it was concierge service. I would go back there on a medical holiday.
I was run down and had a lowgrade infection before I went in there; they gave me abx and steroids and I should have asked for GG shot to boost my system.
Do you see narcissism in here somewhere?
So after 4 months of rehab and tag teaming with my sister to help stabilize my mom and be the emotional support system (and let the doctors do their job) my father lands in the hospital with pneumonia. he never had a vaccine, so of course it happens to him.
So I end up on the local psych unit because…..
with no one around my mother provoked and antagonized and their was nothing between me and the door except my keys; and I hit her with my keys on the wrist. I did not have time to even think that she was on coumadin.
I texted my sister and brother to please check on her that I could not go home until they were there. well they get home and there are bruises….and my sister and brother call the police to order protective custody against me.
This is a brother who had conduct disorder as a child, breaking glass bottles over my head at one time. He has a history of suing doctors (psychiatrists) in this city. He lost his job a month ago, 3000 miles away and returns home and creates this; on the same day his dog (a deaf dalmation) in my care tore her acl. I paid for the dogs surgery and rehab and then my brother came down and literally two days later this scenario happens.
Fired brother from his job. Unemployed sister (with what I suspect is schizoaffective disorder). Mother with asperger’s, IDDM, htx, a radical hysterectomy, and two cardioversions to convert afib in the last year.
and they write me a letter and tell me they have taken care of me for too long and that I am the one with the psychiatric diagnosis and needing medication.
So once I went voluntarily to the police and to the hospital, I had my own avnodal psvt taken care of and migraine meds rechecked. and in the family meeting my family refused to let me come back home unless I was put on medication. So I said to the psychiatrist ” do I have a diagnosis? ” no……
then ‘why would i need to be on medication’? my family wanted me sick because they are sick.
So now what I have learned is that I live in a schizophrenegic family. A father probably with no positive symptoms but lots of negative symptoms.
A sister who is probably schizoaffectice; having delusions that the banking industry collapse is targeted at her because and she wants to change her name to allegra. ??????
A brother who when I was at undergrad, professors told me “he is not ready for this”…meaning beyond the campus. for twenty years he has gotten hired and fired ..and takes jobs mainly from lovers (is their another word for that that starts with a P?). dX: paranoid personality disorder.
I feel like I have just been ganged by my family. a situation was setup and created for me; to make me appear to be the violent one.
And three weeks ago I had written in my journal and drawn a big circle and inside that circle I put the names of the people I had to protect myself from (my mother, my brother, my sister, my father). Three weeks ago…. I anticipated this.
While on the unit there was a young man who was cussing constantly for hours and hours at a time; I told the others my mother was 100 times worse than that.
I have been discharged to my fathers home in another city. But now I may not have a relationship with my mother , brother, or sister again.
My brother is unemployed. My sister is unemployed and getting food stamps for my mother. I think they expect my 72 yr old father who should be retired to support them; my mother gets 1/3 of his social security and lives on that. and my 37 yr old sister lives off her with her. and my brother came home to lean on them.
a dog he cannot pay for but keeps. like a child…
I think animals should be subject to the same rules as humans. If you cannot support them and give them a loving environment then you should not have them.
anyway, my family wrote me a letter saying I could not go home to their place until I got ‘on meds for my diagnosis”.
For months prior to this I had been telling my mother that if her behavior continued this way that she would end up in a mental institution. and she kept throwing it back on me and telling me I was. So now they created a scenario to make my mother right.
Now the psych staff would not even communicate with her because they realized she wanted control over my life.
So now my mother is fading….my undiagnosed schizoaffective sister is manipulating her against me (my mother has aspergers and cannot understand emotions); my sister is purposefully manipulating my mother against me.
I feel like the woman who wrote the book “Left To Tell”. she had to leave rwanda because ‘when would the people who had killed start loving again” and when would the loving people forgive”. she said never in her lifetime.
Now I feel like in my lifetime I may never have a relationship with my family again. Just because I am the doctor…..
I used to help my mother with her meds; and for months prior to this she would yell and scream…..YOU ARE NOT A DOCTOR…YOU ARE NOT A DOCTOR…..and my sister would shove an iphone recorder in my face and record “even your psychiatrist will not see you again”…truth is my psychiatrist is 75 years old and has health issues and I am now the burgeoning doc….and may end up taking care of him. so our relationship has changed.
Lesson learned “I cannot be my mothers doctor”. 2. how to tell a schizoaffective she is a schizoaffective? how to have a relationship with a schizoaffective?
How does me the sane one stay sane? even the doctor staff were calling me the ‘twisted sister’….because my siblings had twisted me up”.
I have no idea how really good psychiatrists stay sane….
The worst part is
What is the saying ” she …..cuts off her nose to spite her face”.
What do I do?
Worst part is my father decides I am the one who needs help…..
my response was 1st response. and in 1st response….situations it turns back around on the other person.
Even the psychiatrist at the hospital admitted that ’ my family was splitting her against me.
sad thing is….my father was coming to pick me up and he went to the other house first ….mom, sis, bro all convinced him that the same thing would happen at his house. so 3 against 1 turned into 4 against 1. total nightmare.
I am the educated doctor who talks to my brother about the wound healing process in his dog; and he gets upset and indignant that he ‘knows all this stuff”. when he has never taken and anatomy and physiology course in his life. Evidently my educational level intimidates them and the more I know and share the worse they feel about themselves. and the lashing out starts….
How do I pick up the pieces from here? None of my family members sees the “global system” of job hiring etc. they are local yocals and i am the one that has to tiptoe around them.
The hardest part of all was not pretending to be a doc and be a patient throughout it all. The psych staff just let me rest and relax and updated all my vaccine records and TB results and …it was concierge service. I would go back there on a medical holiday.
I was run down and had a lowgrade infection before I went in there; they gave me abx and steroids and I should have asked for GG shot to boost my system.
Do you see narcissism in here somewhere?
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It’s one tiny little thing like this that is going to make a vengeful deity send that giant meteor…
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I think she just dropped it immediately and broke the whorl.
I don’t think any of the three children is particularly successful. Pretty sure the son, Forrest Edward Bankston, is a tennis coach and competitive pickleball player. Which is not what the dad would have expected given he’s a fairly successful lawyer and put at least the older two through Duke.
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did she fucking drop it from the empire state building?
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She might have run it over. Then again I ran over a set of Addis and they just kept ticking.
Did you look at the “yarn”? She spent years on that and it looks like what motivated elementary schoolers can produce.
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again I am befuddled by how this would even happen
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I ran into this so early on in Rav (I joined in the first year) that I very nearly deleted my account there and have pondered doing so a few times. This whole bullshit about ‘copyright’ and the stupid boycotts and group hysteria drive me up the wall.
Anyone with instructions on what I should do with my knitted item only makes me rather determined to do with it exactly what I’m told not to.
The acrylic thing has always pissed me off too, mainly because I grew up poor and poor kids had home-knitted school uniform jumpers (and every other jumper, hat, scarf, mittens etc) from cheap acrylic. I don’t remember it being any more scratchy than anything else. In fact, when Billy Connolly did his sketch about GIANT ANTS ARE EATING MA HEED after wearing a wool balaclava his aunt knitted, I knew exactly how he felt. We had wool blankets at home and I hated how scratchy they were (warm though).
Me and a couple of knitting friends went around proudly telling people they were absolutely fine to knit with acrylic (pattern dependent, obvs - you’re not making felted slippers with it), and fine to knit with those second hand grey aluminium needles with the enamel coating on. Meanwhile, the thread on ‘why do my KnitPicks interchangeable keep snapping?’ just got longer and longer, with the excuse that ‘they have great customer service for replacements’ as some sort of fix. I’ve never had an Aero circ break on me. Ever. Best £2.99 per size I spent.
I have fancy yarn and fancy needles, and outside of knitting fine lace I still prefer to knit with acrylic and those old Aero needles.
Glad he’s getting some shit, finally. Not because I care about whatever transgression he’s supposedly made, but because he’s a narcissistic, flouncing fag who makes exceptionally ugly and unwearable bullshit. The only reason he’s popular is because he’s a man in knitting, (was) young and could be thought of as attractive, but gay so no threat. Watching thousands of women fawn over him when they flat out ignored or even boycotted the most exceptional lacework patterns from Russian knitters, for example, really fucking boiled my beans.
Back to copyright, I love how Drops reverse engineers many popular Ravelry patterns and there’s not a fucking thing angry Ravelry users can do about it.
Despite it all, I still have my Rav account. There’s just no other place that has the ease of use for logging stash and books, coupled with the ease of buying and storing digital patterns. If only Null were a knitter. Think how good a Null-manufactured Ravelry would be!
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Of all the things we could have had without Hart-Celler this is the one I am going to yearn for today
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