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[Pig Cups]

I don't WANT to be called a gender freak, y'know?

With your choices as of late, you’re pretty much asking for it. Part and parcel, you know? Just make the smart choice and detroonsition if it’s bothering you that much.

I'm just a man who wears makeup better than you do, not your quirky gender goals or your barely hidden fetish.

So…sooooo close to getting it.

 

[Aunt Carol]

Found this funny pooner getting upset at people within her community not taking gender identity aka see's her as a man seriously.

1. She says she had "top surgery literally this Friday." That means all these experiences she's talking about, wearing makeup and fancy lady clothing and blowing people's minds, were from when she was piloting a stock female body.

2. tl;dr: now even the T is getting annoyed with the Q++

 

[Comp0site Specter]

Yet another form of GENOCIDE identified. In Japan this time, but it's happening all over.
Yes, GENOCIDE. In Japan. Again. tee hee

At least stateside there is a rumor that was floated around that insurance companies were responsible for getting gender dysphoria removed from the DSM 5 so they would be able to roll back coverage of tranny drugs and surgeries. I don't know why this strong independent woman cares though you don;'t need surgery to be a woman after all, what matters is how you feel on the inside right?

Here we go with the recent TIM shooter. The "No True Scotsman" comes into play.

Correct, they are depressed white men on a cocktail of troonshine and SSRIs, truly a winning combination.

 

[Magic Pickle]

Horny Canadian dick flick Heated Rivalry claims residence in the brain of yet another TiF, though this one is supposedly a perma-closet case, so rather than inspire a purr in her panties it just sends her into a bitter, envious spiral because she can never have sloppy jalopy with a fellow broski. I cannot believe the psychological warfare that this idiotic show has done to the minds of girls and women - it almost reminds me of how wild young ladies were during the height of the Beatles craze, but somehow worse.
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can't watch heated rivalry because i get so jealous​

insane but i wanna be a guy so bad that i get irrationally upset when i see heated rivalry stuff. i would give anything to be a man and love another man like a man can. i know half the point of the show is homophobia and how society is pitted against them because they're gay in a sport that will not support that, and that they're not better off than me. but I cant even pay attention to that part of it. i just get so upset, so jealous, so angry. i'll never transition but sometimes i feel like even if i did it wouldnt matter. It'll never be the same. The odds were a coin flip for me to be a man and to be happy and to love myself and i lost. now i have to live like this.
it's stupid and unfair and selfish of me to feel this way.

A newly-divorced veteran's joy is yanked right out of reach when he gets the name change that he wanted but his gender marker remains intact like a permanent stain on the soul. He does a lot of passionate blustering in this that makes him sound like a Navy SEAL copypasta, so I knew he was probably a bit of a cow in his own right, and lo and behold: OP came out as transgender during deployment in fucking Afghanistan, his wealthy wife is walking away with the money and the house leaving him to work for pennies at Target because they agreed to a pre-nup (which he tried and failed to wriggle out of), and now with her gone he's already looking to get his dick chopped off and have sex with random strangers online. We at Pickle Industries wish the former Mrs. Sadie Jane the best in taking her 2-year-old son from this weirdo and getting the hell out of dodge.
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My name is changed. I'm happy, sad and angry all at once.​

Last month, a judge signed my divorce decree, and with it, my name changed from [Redacted] to Sadie Jane [Redacted]. So, I created an appointment with the Social Security Administration (SSA) to begin the process of updating my name to the correct one, the I should have received at birth. Yesterday, after a long wait, I attended that appointment. I got everything I wanted, the name reflecting my proper identity to tell the world who I am. So that the government would recognize me, my truth, my freedom to life, liberty and the pursuit of my happiness.
Well, I got almost everything.
"Effective January 31, 2025, SSA guidance now states that we are not accepting changes to the sex/gender field in their internal record system." That means SSA workers are being told that they cannot process a gender marker change at this time. The drone behind the desk had no empathy at all, I was just another number, Z647 to them. "We can't update the gender." No emotion. No 'I'm sorry, I wish I could.' They agreed to ask the supervisor, who came over and was as gentle as a fairy godmother, wearing a sad frown knowing she was going to tell me the awful truth.
That truth being: The government I (stupidly) signed up to fight for, and possibly die for in 2015, served honorably in Afghanistan and Syria, risking my life and the people around me, the government who claims to be the bastion of liberty and Democracy and a Free People, told me in no uncertain terms that I do not know who I am. They told me that my pursuit of happiness was wrong, that I couldn't possibly be a woman because I was so unfortunately cursed with a penis. How fitting that a bunch of white, cis men know what's best for women, trans or no. I hope you can see my eyes rolling in my head through the text here.
I am sad. I'm sad that the government I naïvely trusted lied to me, and all of us, not just trans people or queer folk, but everyone. It feels like they stapled something onto my record that doesn’t match me. And because it’s sitting next to me brand-new, hard-earned name, it feels like an even louder scream that I was WRONG and how dare I step out of the line.
Executive Order 14168, titled "Defending Women from 'Gender Ideology Extremism' and Restoring "Biological "Truth" to the Federal Government" (heavy emphasis on the quotes surrounding 'truth') effectively withdraws federal recognition for transgender people. It requires federal departments to recognize gender as an immutable male–female binary (determined by assigned sex "at conception") that cannot be changed, replace all instances of "gender" with "sex" in materials, cease all funding for gender-affirming care and the promotion of "gender ideology", cease allowing gender self-identification on federal documents such as passports, and prohibit transgender people from using single-sex federally funded facilities congruent with their gender. It also calls upon the Attorney General to re-evaluate the application of Bostock v. Clayton County (2020) as to not provide Title VII protection based on gender identity in federal activities.
The Orange Oxygen Thief gleefully signed this on his first day back in office.
I'm angry. This disgusting excuse for a shit stain of a human being who claims to be a leader can chew glass. You should have been a wank into a crusty old sock, you waste of mass. In fact, every one of the people who choose to work for this administration regime can all chew glass. I've faced death twice just in the military alone, I'm not afraid of you. Go fuck yourselves with rusty forks. And for every person who chose and from this day forward continues to choose to not vote because your perfect candidate isn't running (or more likely, doesn't exist), I hope you have learned from your mistakes and recognize the harm you've done to the people around you and to yourselves. I know that we as trans people are not that large of a voting bloc. But we deserve dignity and humanity, and so from this day until my last day, I will do everything I can to fight for my rights and the rights of all of us as Sadie Jane.

While having a riotous time drinking and singing with her fellow birds, a peafowl pretending to be a peacock gets accosted by several drunken men nearby when they notice her going into the ladies' room due to a lack of proper toilet stalls in the lad's. She acts as if she barely escaped the encounter with her life, but from the sounds of it they complained to the bartender - who seems to be a troon 'n' poon sympathizer - and then took their business elsewhere. Having a gender identity pretty much comes pre-installed to run additional programs such as melodrama.exe, so it's not exactly a shock, but OP still remains unsettled over the event and fears future retribution in the future because of it.
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Almost got into a fight at a bar over using the bathroom​

There’s a fun karaoke bar nearby that my friends and I frequent. Solid drinks, not too crowded but not too empty, etc.
The only thing about this bar is that the men’s bathroom only has urinals. I can’t use a urinal.
Fortunately, the friends I go with are all women. I hadn’t told them that I was trans, but they didn’t ask questions when I simply explained that the men’s room didn’t have stalls. They might’ve figured it out from that, but I’m not sure. I knew that they’d be accepting though, so I took the risk. For context, I am passing and stealth. I look like your average twink. I’ve been on T for 6 years, and I’ve had top surgery. Something else to know, though, is that I live in a state where transgender people can’t get their IDs changed. My ID says F.
Anyways, we were at the bar the other night, we had all had some drinks, and I needed to take a piss. I asked my female friend to accompany me to the bathroom. We went towards the restroom, which is in a small hallway right next to the bar, and passed a group of mostly men and one or two women. My friend looked into the bathroom to make sure nobody was in there, and it was empty, so we entered.
Quickly, we started hearing the men yelling, “A dude just went into the girl’s bathroom! What the fuck?” and just repeating stuff of that nature. The women joined in shortly after. Mind you, none of them were in line for the bathroom, they were just hanging near the bar with their drinks. My friend and I instantly felt uncomfortable. I came out to my friend in that moment and disclosed that I still had a female ID and that I would show it to whoever just to get left alone. Kind of stupidly (I was drunk), I peeked my head out the door just to disclose to the women who were standing there that I’m trans and that the men’s room has no urinals, I’m not trying to make anyone uncomfortable and that I’m just trying to do my business and leave. I then quickly used the restroom and left with my friend, going quickly back to our booth.
Upon leaving the bathroom, I made eye contact with the male bartender (who I believe understood I was trans because of my ID), who was being talked at by the drunk men about a man going into the women’s restroom. We were able to sneak past the men unnoticed, though. Once we were at our booth, we heard the men yell something along the lines of “fuck this place, let’s go somewhere else!” Then we saw their group leave. This leads me to believe that the bartender stood up for me, which probably saved me in that situation. Those guys were drunk and ready to fight, and I drunkenly would probably have fought back and gotten my ass beat by the 3 of them.
Anyways, it’s all just a strange and frustrating situation. My friends and I are going back to the bar soon. Still, though, I don’t want to make people uncomfortable. I’m not delusional — I know what I look like. I haven’t been misgendered in years. That’s why I always bring my friend with me and have her check for people inside beforehand. The thing is, I still live in the Deep South. This was the first time something like this has happened, but honestly I doubt it’ll be the last. There’s no public restrooms nearby, so it’s not like I can just go next door and pee.
All of this said, I’m going to do my best to stay safe. It’s good to know that the bartenders are on my side (the other main bartender is the male bartender’s wife), but I’m worried about the kind of people that wouldn’t go to the bartender first. I just wish the men’s room had a stall

Trouser snake trauma: in the hopes of feeling in touch with the nebulous, delicate energy of his inner woman, a man puts on a piece of lingerie likely stitched by the weary hands of a child laborer, but the moment is ruined when he remembers his stupid penis dangles limply between his legs like a poltergeist with unfinished business. And unfortunately for OP, he can't get this gherkin ghost exorcised until a few years from now due to Suporn's expectations pre-surgery, so he's stuck with the damned appendage for the foreseeable future, which nearly brings him to tears.
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I hate the one-eyed snake! (For the first time, I feel like crying)​

Hello Girls.
Tonight is the first night I actually feel like crying. I've read a lot of posts on here about people crying about their dysphoria, now I get it.
I received my chemise in the mail today. I was so psyched. I washed it, and now I have it on. Silk, smooth, spaghetti straps with a matching robe. It gently drapes over my barely projecting breasts and nipples poking through, but when I look down...
I am reminded of that thing between my legs, (not that it is showing, just that I remember and feel it's there) and it makes me feel like a dude in a dress. It completely ruins the moment for me. That's what is welling up my eyes, and makes me want to ball like a little girl.
Suporn's clinic requires you to live socially as a woman for a year before the procedure. I am not there yet. I'm still waiting for my face to catch up before I will feel comfortable enough. I am trusting and hoping that would be by June (7 Months HRT). A year from there brings us to June 2027. I'll have to take a month leave, so that can only be during December when we close down for the holidays. So now it is almost 2 years.
And all of that is only "if", by some miracle, I can raise the money for the GRS.
In the meantime, I am stuck with this thing that makes me feel like half a woman.
I wish I could at least inject it with something to numb any and all sensation that it is there.
Any advice on coping with this thing for now would be greatly appreciated.

A TiF films an advertisement for the local business she works for, but rather than draw customers in, it actually repels them away as commenters start to leave 1-star reviews over having to bear witness to poonacy directly. As she's the person in charge of running media and marketing for the business, she now worries that continuing to put her face to their brand will damage it and that it's best for her to conduct her work from the shadows. "I can't let us go under for asshats review bombing us because of me," she writes, which is fantastically ironic when you think about how transgender activists have utilized ratings and reviews to force businesses to obey them. Poor baby, did you get any splinters when those tables turned on you?
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I feel like I can't make videos for my business without being review bombed​

I help run a small local grocery and apothecary and focus a lot on herbs and plants. We are barley getting by but I want to be here for our locals and regulars looking for herbal help. I made a simple video asking our community what type of plants and seeds they wanted available in our store this spring. I pass well enough that thankfully the older men that come in can't tell. We'll this video I had my hair up and earrings that dangle a little. So almost every comment was about people like me are why they hate colorado and the valley we live in, that i'm a joke and a woman, calling me ma'am over and over. I ended up getting a 1 star review which we never had before we've been a solid 4.8. I feel like i'm not allowed to post anything without it hurting the business.. I did get a small handful of good comments the post hit 5000 views but I took it down and cried for a good two hours into my shift. I work our media and this makes me not want to ever show my face. I know I could delete the bad comments but I can't have this negatively affect my job and I can't let us go under for asshats review bombing us because of me..
Thank you for coming to my ted talk. Today has sucked and I wish the world was better, but for now I stay in the shadows and write scripts for others..

A lusty little lassie who writes as if books are little more than doorstoppers to her tells Reddit of her woes in which a man she's been rolling in the hay with has been talking to other people about the gross, nasty sex they had together. She's not necessarily opposed to people knowing they fuck, of course, but she does dislike that he's making everyone around her refer to her in feminine terms due to their newfound knowledge of her birth sex, which she considers offensive. The whole post is a giant, stupid headache that would've never had to happen if her horny little hook-up had consulted the flowchart featured in the Pooner Zoo - but alas, I will summarize it simply for those who need to hear it: Don't Fuck Pooners!
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FWB sees me only as Transgender​

My workplace hires mostly international workers so we get lots of fun new faces and one of these fun new faces is a GORGEOUS English fella and sorta to my luck he's queer and in an open relationship so basically we been kinda messin around while he's here its chill anyway buddy made pals with some of our other coworkers i don't chat with too often and i guess he was running his hot mouth about sleeping with me and they came up with a funny joke abt how my anatomy bleached his scruffy chin hairs. I mean it is pretty funny to be fair but yelling out in front of everyone about how i have a great Ph is kinda odd considering I look like a cis guy so any of the many passersby probably got a lil confused or uncomfortable.
The REAL problem began when he came into my work pals little gathering and dropped this hilarious joke saying and I quote that he has been "eating pussy" the second bro dropped this bar I clocked that they've all been talking about my body as a female thing and I was so taken aback plus he did this in front of my gang of bros? hella disrespectful I was humiliated so I just walked away without a word. Naturally I messaged him later tellin him not to get his panties in a twist but im not messin w that and i did in fact let a bro know before hand to refer to my body with male terms ONLY. well surprise! his bf is trans and he identifies as genderfluid so this kinda fell on deaf ears?
I explained that people talking about my body with female terms outs me and also brings the problem of my anatomy to the forefront of peoples minds which naturally leads to the questioning of my masculinity and I've noticed that anyone and everyone Ive ever met that auto sets my anatomy to female sees me as just that no matter how much they deny it its kinda like a slip up or unconscious bias. Its also just overall emasculating to be spoken of like that.
I ran through all this with this guy only for him to start getting all butt hurt about it, frantically apologising and then 'assuring' me that they all see me as a man and nothing else. I told him yk no offence but I've been around the block enough to know better and it ain't that serious i just want them to drop it in public at the very least but this absolute bellend continues to push that no no no I'm like any other man etc etc and hes SOOOOO SORRY he hurt my feelings like I'm some fragile little glass boy. See this doesn't sound that bad right except that this isn't the first time he's done something like this and then lied about how he believes I'm any other guy! hes made offhand comments about how my experience is different because I'm not and I quote AGAIN "a cisgender man!" and now as I'm trying to share the experience with him hes flat out denying it insisting I'm wrong and my masculinity has not been questioned or mocked when that is exactly what they have been doing. also this guy outed me to multiple people in the workplace like it was nothing seriously I'm not crazy right like you guys see what i mean here yeah? He wants to be right so bad and he wants to spare my feelings so bad that he's flat out lying to me but I think he believes he's right! he doesn't even try to listen or understand my experience because he thinks he already knows it all because hes 'just like me' or his boyfriend (femboy clearly not dysphoric at all) is also just like me when we could not be more different. I believe he respects my manhood but he clearly sees me as a Trans man and nothing more I'm not an equal im not another guy i am an other he actively others me and its so irritating trying to explain this because few people actually get what im sayin here!

A TiM is mad that even though his older sister belongs to other letters of the rainbow alphabet, she won't play ball and use his new name and pronouns even when he challenges her on it directly. The sister's reasoning, hilariously enough, is astonishingly petty: she resents how annoying he's been as a little brother and couldn't care less about what he thinks because of it. And just like any other annoying younger sibling would do, he repeatedly tattles to their parents to make her submit, yet they have no interest in getting involved - which makes me think that OP's sister is right on the money about him being obnoxious as fuck to grow up with.
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(older) Sister deadnames & misgenders me on purpose​

So I'm trans MtF and I came out as such to my family and close friends in early 2025. My sister is either lesbian or bi — not sure which — and has friends who are LGBTQ as well. At first, when I came out she seemed really accepting, but she's never referred to me as "Arya" or used she/her pronouns, and refused to do so when I confronted her. I tried to get my parents to talk to her about it, but they don't seem to think of it as a big deal and don't even react when she calls me my dead name.
From my understanding, the reason she intentionally misgenders and deadnames me is because I was an annoying younger sibling. She genuinely hates me.
The point is her doing this makes me feel absolutely horrible. It makes me feel like I'm boymoding at home and I can't stand it.
What should I do? All help is appreciated

Degrassi-tier drama: an 18-year-old "stealth" pooner is having problems with her 16-year-old sister because she keeps ousting her to their mutual friends when they all party Euphoria-style, which is destroying her mental health as she has allegedly been assaulted in the past for being transgender. Highlights for this one are the open admission to underage drinking on a regular basis on a public forum anyone can read, hysterical meltdowns over childhood photos and supportive TikTok memes causing emotional devastation. OP is lost as to what makes her sister so careless about her secrecy, but the simplest answer is usually the correct one: she's a 16-year-old girl who soaks her brain in booze on a regular basis; expecting such a boozy, silly little creature to maintain secrecy about anything is like asking a fish to climb a tree.
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My sister keeps outing me to our friends​

I’m 18 and my sister is 16. She keeps outing me to people, and I don’t know what to do anymore.
For context: I socially transitioned around 13 during COVID, right when we moved. I lost all my old friends (no phone or anything of the sort). Not long after that, both of my grandparents got cancer and were immunocompromised, so I stayed out of school for about three years to protect them.
I started testosterone at 15 and tried an alternative school because of my anxiety disorder, but I didn’t make any friends there. At 16, I got top surgery. Around that time I also lost a bunch of weight i had gained with disordered eating and started feeling more confident and active again. At this point, I’m completely cis-passing. I haven’t been misgendered in years.
Eventually, I reconnected with my sisters (they’re twins, both 16) and started hanging out with their friend group. I love my sisters more than anyone. We live in a small town, and their friends aren’t really around queer people, definitely no other trans people, so I’m kind of the odd one out. But that shouldn’t matter, because I don’t tell people I’m trans.
I’ve only ever chosen to tell one person. She’s someone I trust not to sugarcoat things. She asks questions, gives honest opinions, and never treated me differently. She’s like another little sister to me. I felt completely comfortable telling her.
The problems started a few months ago. I found out my sister had shown one of our close friends (I’ll call her S) childhood photos of us. We already had a shared boundary about not showing childhood pictures for a lot of reasons, but especially because of my pre-transition photos. When I asked my sister about it, she wouldn’t give me a straight answer. She made it sound like, “I don’t know if she knows” sort of situation. I couldn’t verify anything without potentially outing myself, so I tried to move on and assume it was an accident.
Then on February 16, we were all out partying. When we got home, I checked TikTok and saw a message from S. It was a video that said, “That one friend who’s secretly trans.” It was meant to be supportive and funny, but that’s how I found out she definitely knew.
I went outside and cried. I didn’t even get the chance to tell her myself. That choice was taken from me. My sister came out and watched me ball my eyes out because she was worried about me but i didn’t feel like having a conversation like that drunk.
The next day I told my sister why I was upset. She seemed to feel bad, and I tried to let it go because at that point, what could I even do? I cant take the knowledge that she already has.
But it didn’t stop.
The following weekend (feb 19th), we were drinking again, seven of us, including my sisters and their brand-new boyfriends (we’ve known them less than a month). While I was talking to the girl I had chosen to tell, she casually mentioned she knew I was trans before I ever told her. When I asked how, she said my sister had told her.
That hurt, but I was drunk and already overwhelmed with some family issues, so I didn’t process it fully at the time.
Then on February 25, my sister was going through childhood photos again while sitting next to her brand new boyfriend. She even scrolled all the way through my mom’s Instagram, which goes back to 2012. She knows I don’t tell people. She knows how much this affects me.
So I texted my other sister, “I think she’s spilled my business again.” Her boyfriend saw the text and said to her, “What, that he’s trans?” That’s when I found out she had told him too.
I immediately left the house and walked to my other sister’s boyfriend’s place because I was so angry.
Now I’m stuck wondering how many people she’s told. And who they’ve told. What happens when these relationships end and these guys hate us? They’re basically holding my whole identity in their hands.
I’ve been physically assaulted over being trans before. It was posted all over Facebook. I locked myself in my room for a year after that. My sister was there for all of it. She saw me break down. She knows I barely left my room for years because of how scared and depressed I was.
I have worked so hard to rebuild my life. I worked hard to feel normal. To feel safe. To just exist as a guy without being reduced to a label. I finally got to a point where no one questioned me anymore.
And now it feels like that control is gone because she keeps telling people without my consent.
I don’t hate her. I love her. But I don’t understand why she keeps doing this when she knows how badly it affects my mental health. I’ve ended up in the hospital over this before. She knows that.
What am I supposed to do? How do I handle this? How do I get her to understand that this isn’t harmless gossip, it’s my safety and my life?
TL;DR: I’m 18 and stealth. My 16-year-old sister keeps telling her friends and new boyfriends that I’m trans without my consent, even though she knows I’ve been assaulted and hospitalized over this in the past. I’ve worked hard to rebuild my life and feel safe, and now I don’t know who knows or how far it’s spread. I love her, but I don’t understand why she keeps doing this. What do I do?

Behind the closed doors of a nursing home kitchen, tensions rise between two coworkers as one has a shoulder injury that she seems to be milking so that she can collect the same paycheck for as little work as possible while the other pulls out all stops to keep the place running. Surprisingly, it is not OP who is the layabout, but when she tries to report the lazy coworker for not pulling her weight, her coworker retaliates viciously by... referring to OP by her former name instead of her preferred name. OP's simp boss takes her side on the matter, but she still wants to know: is there any way she can lash out further at the coworker for the crime of knowing the name she was given at birth?
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Got deadnamed by a coworker who dislikes me.​

(Apologies if this is a little lengthy)
Ok, so I work in a nursing home, more specifically, the kitchen. I also work 12 hour shifts. Let me first explain why S, my coworker dislikes me. Long story short, S was working one day when one of our elevators “closed on her shoulder, causing a bad enough injury to be put on workers comp and light duty”. (It bruised her shoulder..) But I do wanna point out those elevators have safety sensors so they don’t do that.. If anyone has questions about the full story, please feel free to inquire, I don’t want this to be a full novel. Anyways, this whole time she’s been abusing the whole system and getting workers comp for her supposed injury. How many weeks of workers comp so far? I think now it’s like 21 or 22. I’ve lost count. Well, at first it was fine, I mean she did help out a LITTLE bit, rolling silverware and doing the clean sit of the dish room, but then she started doing less and I started disliking her more and more because she left me to do literally EVERYTHING. I stopped talking to her, and I guess that’s what upset her, or maybe it was because I told my bosses about what she’s been doing. I mean, now she says she can’t even roll silverware or even answer the freaking phone because her injury is supposedly getting worse. Basically, she’s deadweight and gets paid to sit around. That’s not even en exaggeration either. Anyways, again, feel free to ask more questions, but this is getting long. I guess now’s the time to mention I’m a trans guy, and I came out 5 months ago and had my name legally changed to Korey but not at work yet because of my social security card, so yeah in the report is is my deadname unfortunately. So tonight after we finished the dinner line, she came into the kitchen, but I just ignored her and never said a word to her. She was getting ready to leave, and on her way out the door, she said this to me: “I’ll see you tomorrow, deadname.” I paused for a good 10 seconds to process what had happened, but then I asked her why she would call me that. She told me I had reported her, and that the name on the report was deadname, so that’s what she’s going to refer to me as. Even so, she shouldn’t have said anything to me at all. I told her I was pretty sure I could report her for that too, but my boss stepped in when she heard it. My boss said she already reported it to her higher ups, but I also want to report it. Isn’t that technically retaliation and/or discrimination? Couldn’t I file a grievance against her?

A pediatric transitioner who began HRT at 12-13 years old has now reached her 20s, and yet despite all of the stories we're told about how important it is that kids transition early so they can lead normal lives, OP finds that she is not leading a normal life at all: instead it is gallingly empty, void of contact, because the very notion that anybody might know the truth of her biology is too terrifying for her to seek comfort in the arms of another. Weird, I keep seeing all these posts about how despondent trans kids are once they become trans adults because of how isolating and cold the experience is, which doesn't make any sense because I told the other option was suicide... I'm getting so confused, Kiwis! Who am I to believe in times like these?!
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Nobody knows I’m trans​

The account I’m posting from is empty because it’s to post things specifically like this and haven’t gotten to it until now; I want to hide my tracks and keep presenting as a cisgender male.
I’m 20 and have been on T since I was 12-13 (don’t remember which). I have facial hair, hair everywhere else, and bottom growth…
I never told any of my acquaintances I made in high school that I’m trans and they still don’t know. Sometimes it’s hard keeping this part of myself secret and having no one to talk to about things relating to it— and most of all it feels impossible dating anybody. Since I pass as a male and keep my trans identity secret anyone who ends up liking me are just… unaware of who they’re really into (nobody ever really is attracted to me anyways only a few have been). Also no I’ve never gotten into a relationship without them knowing this, and my only relationship I ever had was online/long distance. Also for what it’s worth I’m a virgin and still never had my first kiss; so no I’ve never had anything physical like that without telling the other person.
Anyways
I feel as if I have no place dating anybody. Why is this world so excluding of trans men?
I don’t have any crushes on anybody or anything. It was already really hard getting into my first relationship, because before that one, pre-transition, I’ve been bullied literally every time I had a crush on someone in elementary school and middle. I’m not exaggerating either, seriously I was bullied every single time someone found out I had a crush on somebody. In high school my ability to get infatuated or enamored with anybody wilted off of me. Another thing about that is I know a lot of people aren’t interested in trans men so I don’t see the point in loving someone who would not love me back.
I’m so sad and lonely. Keeping this part of me secret. I don’t trust telling anybody in my life this though and proceeding with presenting as a cis man is a little more important to me— unless I end up dating somebody (which is not going to happen anytime soon).

A post-top-op pooner mourns the loss of a pal after revealing to her buddy that she is transgender during an argument about his distaste for said types of people. In rage, he proceeds to punch a wall and break his hand like some sort of great ape, but it turns out that part of this anger comes from a sense of betrayal: according to OP, he claimed that he'd never have associated with her had he known her true colors. Now this is a very "everyone here is stupid" situation as OP's friend must have a brain made of pudding to be so oblivious to her starkly feminine qualities, but maybe he's legally blind, legally retarded or was born on a mountain and raised in a cave.
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I lost a friend​

I've recently gotten top surgery as well as have been on T for almost 6 years now. I pass particularly well as a cis man and though I don't identify fully with the label it has given me the ability to be stealth at school as I am in trade for welding.
This last semester I made friends with a first year and through these recent weeks I've become somewhat close with him. As long as things didn't get into politics it was fine but anytime anything remotely political was mentioned it became a whole debate that he wouldn't just let be. Yesterday we somehow got into an argument about queer people and drag queens and such and his side somehow turned into "trans people are predators". This comment made me so mad that I ended up outing myself to him and he basically stormed off, punched a wall breaking his hand and then later came back and told me never to speak to him again and that he "never would've spoke to me in the first place if he knew I wasn't born like that"
I've been out since I was 11 and I'm used to bullies or people not agreeing but I've never had to worry about bigots getting close to me and this is hitting pretty hard. My emotions for the situation are so conflicting, on one hand I'm pissed that he blew up like that and on another I wish I never told him because now he'll never see me as me again.

Spoiler: That's not a man, that's a munchkin!

Lastly, a TiF implores for biological men to get better at dressing themselves as she alleges that it's her fashion sense that gets her clocked as female. In reality, she's probably getting clocked as female because she dresses like a slovenly skater boy from the mid-aughts, and pretty much only TiFs dress like that these days. Really, the most masculine part of her is that her mirrors are always unspeakably fucking filthy!
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Can all cis men start dressing better so it's not considered "clocky" for us to be stylish​

Please! Sick of fighting the urge to water myself down more to pass

Spoiler: And this is... stylish, to you?

 

[Toxic BRAAAAP Mask]

gherkin ghost

Great band name right here.

In reality, she's probably getting clocked as female because she dresses like a slovenly skater boy from the mid-aughts, and pretty much only TiFs dress like that these days

She should join a breakdance crew, I bet that'd make a world of difference.

 

[Positron]

A TiF films an advertisement for the local business she works for, but rather than draw customers in, it actually repels them away as commenters start to leave 1-star reviews

Do you know what any potential customer thinks when you use a transsexual as your mouthpiece? They think your business is a sham.

 

[Izdaja Slika]

I used to have a booming male voice and now I sound more androgynous, though it can come out a bit strained sometimes. I'm very new to voice training, and I definitely don't want to do a male voice.

You have a male voice; you're not doing one. It's your "femme" voice that you are doing. It's a performance, that's why you're training.

The only thing about this bar is that the men’s bathroom only has urinals. I can’t use a urinal.

I have never ever heard of a men's bathroom with no stalls.

In the meantime, I am stuck with this thing that makes me feel like half a woman.

Never have I ever looked at my penis and thought it made me half a woman.

 

[Gay Sex Enjoyer]

I have never ever heard of a men's bathroom with no stalls.

Especially at a bar

 

[Windows XP Home Edition]

Troons have managed to almost singlehandedly be so fucking annoying that all the work people put in for gays to be seen as normal people is basically gone. People went from being pretty accepting but wary to "get the fuck away from my kids queer" in less than one generation specifically because of tranny activism and the overall engoonification of gayness.

It's not hard to be some flavor of gay and still be normal, but these fucking freaks just can't do it. No, they need to strap dildos to their heads and have 14,000 pride parades in bondage gear every year while singing about coming for people's children and crossdressing in public.

The Gay Rights Movement: "Let us live our life in peace and live among ordinary people. We'd d like to be given the same rights as straight people and treated equally"

The Trans "Rights" Movement: "If you don't let us violate women's boundaries and barge our way into every female space out there, we will send you death and rape threats, threaten to kill ourselves, scream genocide, and resort to physical violence whenever we don't get our way."

I can't really see gay rights being rolled back anytime soon. There'd be a massive backlash as the subject is very personal for a lot of people. The trans community and its movement fail to understand that a big reason why the gay rights movement won over the majority of the population in many developed countries was because many supporters had a deep personal connection to loved ones who are gay/lesbian. Many ordinary individuals know and have a gay man or lesbian in their life who is their own child, aunt/uncle, sibling, best friend, co-worker, etc. While the homosexual population is much smaller than the heterosexual majority, this level of positive and or close contact within their lives will win someone over in favour of gay rights.

The same can't be said for the trans community. The average modern-day person doesn't know a trans person personally and isn't familiar with trans-related subjects in general. If there is that personal element as previously mentioned though, it's usually quite negative. The transitioning process often tears families apart and destroys close relationships as well. The gay rights also has that advantage of being openly visible as it spent decades building public trust whereas the trans movement was underground for years without the same sort of public engagement.

 

[The Taco Santo!]

The drone behind the desk had no empathy at all, I was just another number, Z647 to them. "We can't update the gender." No emotion. No 'I'm sorry, I wish I could.'

Why would a bureaucrat care about you specifically, troon? That's not in their job description, sorry they didn't make nurturing, supportive noises for you, a person they never met before and never will again.

Z647, unsat specimen, terminate, terminate.

I hope you can see my eyes rolling in my head through the text here.

Oh, I definitely can.

I hadn’t told them that I was trans, but they didn’t ask questions when I simply explained that the men’s room didn’t have stalls. They might’ve figured it out from that, but I’m not sure.

I'm betting they'd figured it out long before.

 

[Stupid Sexy Flanders]

There'd be a massive backlash as the subject is very personal for a lot of people. The trans community and its movement fail to understand that a big reason why the gay rights movement won over the majority of the population in many developed countries was because many supporters had a deep personal connection to loved ones who are gay/lesbian.

There's also a big difference in saying "we want the same rights as everyone else" and saying "we want special rights". The truth is that even the biggest homophobe can't deny that gay people are people who are attracted to the same sex. The trans movement (which I separate from actual trans people) are saying that people of a certain sex is really the other sex. And also, they aren't sick, but also should have the right to have free plastic surgery to look like the other sex. But even if they don't they're still totally legit and if you don't see them as the other sex, then you're a transphobe. I think even trans people find the TRA movement confusing because they can't keep it straight.

The same can't be said for the trans community. The average modern-day person doesn't know a trans person personally and isn't familiar with trans-related subjects in general

The irony is that the more people get exposed to trans people, the less people end up liking them. You'd think with all the media visibility people would sympathize with them more, not less, but by all accounts the numbers just keep decreasing. Of course they end up hiding this in "LGBT acceptance is going down", but it's the trans acceptance that is.

 

[cypocryphy]

>I'm very binary
>I'm also high fem presenting. I like makeup, am fine cross dressing
Damn even the term "binary" lost all meaning with these people. How is she any different than an enby who medically transitions?

They're all just nonsense labels that mean nothing. The more labels a person of gender has, the quirkier and more oppressed they are.

 

[Waffle Iron]

1. She says she had "top surgery literally this Friday." That means all these experiences she's talking about, wearing makeup and fancy lady clothing and blowing people's minds, were from when she was piloting a stock female body.

Knowing pooners, she probably had big ones as well. Imagine some woman with makeup, wearing a dress, big breasts bouncing around, screaming at you in a frog voice she's a man wearing drag.

(It's hilarious how she's a woman that wants to wear women's clothing and makeup, and came up with "I like drag" as a way to pretend to be a boy anyway)

 

[Steak Sandwich]

I have never ever heard of a men's bathroom with no stalls.

Especially at a bar

I'd imagine its because they have/had a gay sex problem, she did say it was a karaoke bar. There are definitely bars where the men's room has a toilet and urinal but there is no lock on the door and I'm pretty sure its the gay sex and or drug use.

 

[CheesyBoy]

Can all cis men start dressing better so it's not considered "clocky" for us to be stylish​

Please! Sick of fighting the urge to water myself down more to pass

Real men don't even own an iron, dood. I bet none of your clothes are from the Obama administration!

The account I’m posting from is empty because it’s to post things specifically like this and haven’t gotten to it until now; I want to hide my tracks and keep presenting as a cisgender male.
I’m 20 and have been on T since I was 12-13 (don’t remember which). I have facial hair, hair everywhere else, and bottom growth…
I never told any of my acquaintances I made in high school that I’m trans and they still don’t know. Sometimes it’s hard keeping this part of myself secret and having no one to talk to about things relating to it— and most of all it feels impossible dating anybody. Since I pass as a male and keep my trans identity secret anyone who ends up liking me are just… unaware of who they’re really into (nobody ever really is attracted to me anyways only a few have been). Also no I’ve never gotten into a relationship without them knowing this, and my only relationship I ever had was online/long distance. Also for what it’s worth I’m a virgin and still never had my first kiss; so no I’ve never had anything physical like that without telling the other person.
Anyways
I feel as if I have no place dating anybody. Why is this world so excluding of trans men?
I don’t have any crushes on anybody or anything. It was already really hard getting into my first relationship, because before that one, pre-transition, I’ve been bullied literally every time I had a crush on someone in elementary school and middle. I’m not exaggerating either, seriously I was bullied every single time someone found out I had a crush on somebody. In high school my ability to get infatuated or enamored with anybody wilted off of me. Another thing about that is I know a lot of people aren’t interested in trans men so I don’t see the point in loving someone who would not love me back.
I’m so sad and lonely. Keeping this part of me secret. I don’t trust telling anybody in my life this though and proceeding with presenting as a cis man is a little more important to me— unless I end up dating somebody (which is not going to happen anytime soon).

This is actually sad. Some poor kid had problems socializing and instead of getting her the help she actually needed, her parents just let her make up a new problem. Oh, and everyone definitely knows she's a pooner.

 

[Sean Andalou]

Contention with "queer non-trans women".


Reddit -- Archive
Archive of the offending tweet from poster "FREE PALESTINE"

Spoiler: Whole rant.

I came across this tweet today and it reminds me of many other depictions of trans fem people made by non-trans women. In isolation, I struggle to care about an OC that I personally don't feel any common ground with. But it feels like a pattern inside the queer community. This bookcover and this mural are other examples.

It's like they have a need to depict the "wokest" most "progressive-est" representation of a trans woman imaginable - and for some reason that is a non-medicalized ""AMAB"" with facial hair along with superficial feminine presentation (sometimes literally putting a bow on what reads as a cis-man and calling it the pinnacle of MtF representation).

The contrast between presentation and body is something that really gets to me. In the mural and book cover, the addition of ill-fitting clothing and a little bow~ feels insulting. I genuinely cannot tell the difference sometimes between maliciously transphobic caricatures and these kind of depictions.

It even feels fetishistic sometimes, like they want to create a "safe" man by masculinizing a trans woman.

I see so many depictions of "GNC" trans women - but so few trans women who actually feel represented by them (even among butch or otherwise GNC trans women).

TL : DR : Why on earth is there such an over-representation of non-transitioning trans women in queer depictions of MtFs?

Key quote.

It's like they have a need to depict the "wokest" most "progressive-est" representation of a trans woman imaginable - and for some reason that is a non-medicalized ""AMAB"" with facial hair along with superficial feminine presentation (sometimes literally putting a bow on what reads as a cis-man and calling it the pinnacle of MtF representation).

At very end of rant.

TL : DR : Why on earth is there such an over-representation of non-transitioning trans women in queer depictions of MtFs?

Top comment (of 31 so far).

Because, unfortunately, large parts of the queer community dont see us as women or even as people. All they see is a big mallet to wield against the establishment. Our feelings be damned, feelings are for people. No matter how much they claim to respect us, they only respect what they can use us for.

Lots more amateur psychoanalysis all the way down the comments.

 

[The Taco Santo!]

Why don't faggots make more of an effort to placate the whining of people who will never, ever be satisfied or give you any credit for trying?

It is a mystery.

I never told any of my acquaintances I made in high school that I’m trans and they still don’t know.

Sure they don't, if you go to a school for the blind.

 

[Shakespeare]

Of course they end up hiding this in "LGBT acceptance is going down", but it's the trans acceptance that is.

I'm not even sure that it's fair to say that trans acceptance is going down. I personally would say that it's about the same as it ever was, but the transmovement have changed the goal post so far that people who used to be seen as supportive are now seen as enemies. It used to be that going "Sure, I'll pretend that mentally ill man is a woman" was seen as supporting trannies. Now that same sentence is a literal hate crime.

I don't think that most people's actual beliefs have changed that much. If you went back 15 years and asked "Do you think transwomen belong in women's sport" most people would say no and call you retarded, but a lot of them would say that they are accepting of transwomen. But today the people of gender has decided that you have to support transwomen in women's sport in order to be accepting of trannies, so now a lot of people who would be a trans ally 15 years ago is now a transphobe. And it's the same with trooning out kids, or transwomen in womens prisons or pretty much every controversial topic surrounding trannies. Does that mean that trans acceptence has gone down in the last 15 years? No, or at least I wouldn't say that.

 

[Sean Andalou]

Seems to me the pushback was mainly driven by the whole enterprise of organized child castration. And the organized slander against those who object to it. At least that's what converted me to the TTD persuasion.

 

[Jacques1194]

The trans movement (which I separate from actual trans people) are saying that people of a certain sex is really the other sex. And also, they aren't sick, but also should have the right to have free plastic surgery to look like the other sex. But even if they don't they're still totally legit and if you don't see them as the other sex, then you're a transphobe. I think even trans people find the TRA movement confusing because they can't keep it straight.

I think the issue is that if they actually admitted to wanting to be the opposite sex then I feel like more people would at least be sympathetic towards them. The problem is like you said, the TRA movement made things more confusing with what defines being a woman, man, non binary, etc. When the rules keep changing and the terms boil down to just an identity, then the terms don't mean anything. Example, there's a lot of TIFs that are perfectly ok with getting pregnant and giving birth because they argue that "Biology has nothing to do with gender". Ok, then why do you want to get top surgery to have your breasts removed? Breast development is something biological that women go through. How can you say that you're perfectly ok with getting pregnant and giving birth because they dont define gender but your breasts do? What exactly is gender dysphoria then? Hell, some have even argued that you can even do nothing in terms of transitioning and just change your pronouns and that's enough to change gender. (looks at non binary) If a movement can't even define what gender is, how can the movement really get anywhere in terms of rights?