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DrakosBiz said:
If I looked like that I'd honestly kill myself.

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this one looks like he's having so much fun.
 
Redditor sees video of troon trying to execute his family in public 'that person is clearly not trans, it's a hoax'

Like what?
 
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Redditor sees video of troon trying to execute his family in public 'that person is clearly not trans, it's a hoax'

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this is a big problem they're going to have in the coming years, and already have now, with their ideology that anyone can and should be trans if they simply self-identify. you can see the self-identification in that guy's massive fake tits that he got bolted on, along with a dozen other crazy photos. when you make your group literally omni-inclusive, this is what happens.

the trannies have never been consistent on anything except that anyone who does anything wrong has nothing to do with them, they are innocent troons who dindu nuffin. just need money for dem estrogen injections.
 
DrakosBiz said:
If I looked like that I'd honestly kill myself.

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That was my first thought when I saw these pictures.
Ona Quest said:
I would feel bad if these weirdos weren't gassing each other up all the time

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I just cant bring myself to trust them. Like Ill never belive they could see me as a women, ever. Like i puke at the idea that cis people could atcually be "loving." All the things they say just feel like like there shouting "Get over it your tranny male!" I dont like the idea of ever trusting cis women, what would they know about me. Any atempt by them to relate feels dry, and shallow. It feels like there basically saying, "Are you serious, we have it worse then you nothing youve gone through matters, fuck you you fag man!." I hate it i trust nobody. I feel like the only thing that they can do will see us as a fetizhe. I feel like a fake women, a hairy imposter. My body is to ugly, im to big, im to tall, im to hairy, my smell is off, my shoulders are to wide, i dont have a chest, i dont have anything. I dont know why but even when they try to relate to me it makes me angry. they wouldnt understand. I mena all that "women positivity" stuff is only really for cis women. We have to be fem enough, we have to be all that enough for cis women to even see us as women. I hate it i
am a tomboy not femme, but since im a tomboy ill be even less of a women to other Nomen, I hate it so much. WHen anyother trans person vents there like "Yeah your life sucks." As soom as that person a trans women i feel like there trying to talk over us Prove some sort of point that "You tranny male dont have it bad enough fuck you." I dont trust cis people one bit im scared of them, im so scared of cis people. They hate us and pretend to like us. People liking me makes me feel ill. I hate it so much. THere scary, they cant like us they have to be faking
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Coming to a school or skate rink or church near you.
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Dolly Brooks said:
At first I was skeptical but now I see why he was giving all the cis womenz the WAP:
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I spent a long time looking at those 3 pics and still couldn't understand what I was supposed to be looking at.
Dude with no teeth used to have blue hair and a beard and now he doesn't? Is that it?

InconvenientNecessity said:
Matt Gray's back. Looking more like fucking Susan Boyle
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he could also do a good Robert Smith impression
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Dolly Brooks said:
Coming to a school or skate rink or church near you.
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"I feel like everybody just sees trans women as sex dolls"

Nobody (and I mean nobody) sees trans women as "sex dolls". Not even Troons see other Troons as "sex dolls".

Ordinary people see Troons as a burden, they are viscerally offensive, they smell and talk and act like autistic, poorly socialised men. At the very best, they are treated with a great deal of pity, and the paternalistic guilt of "if I don't playact with their impersonation, they might kill themselves out of spite". I used to think they were aware of this distain, deep down, but now I just accept that 9/10 of them are Chris Chan level autistes, who don't understand human interaction and/or are deeply mentally ill; believe in magical thinking (like Chris Chan).
 
CobraPlissken said:
He thinks other people in his life are stupid but calls them "stupied" (and writes "misrable", "assulted", "happeinese", "happinese", "suprised", "disposible", "activites", "anywhys", etc even though he's in high school).
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My personal favorite is the 1×1ft apartments we're all gonna have (:_( :lit: hope you guys aren't claustrophobic
 
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He thinks other people in his life are stupid but calls them "stupied" (and writes "misrable", "assulted", "happeinese", "happinese", "suprised", "disposible", "activites", "anywhys", etc even though he's in high school).
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He’s just ignoring tf out of those red lines.
Sloppa said:
"I feel like everybody just sees trans women as sex dolls"

Nobody (and I mean nobody) sees trans women as "sex dolls". Not even Troons see other Troons as "sex dolls".

Ordinary people see Troons as a burden, they are viscerally offensive, they smell and talk and act like autistic, poorly socialised men. At the very best, they are treated with a great deal of pity, and the paternalistic guilt of "if I don't playact with their impersonation, they might kill themselves out of spite". I used to think they were aware of this distain, deep down, but now I just accept that 9/10 of them are Chris Chan level autistes, who don't understand human interaction and/or are deeply mentally ill; believe in magical thinking (like Chris Chan).
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There are “chasers” who are into them (and there’s no shortage of gay men who are dtf so it’s not out of desperation) but TROONS DON’T WANT THE ONLY PEOPLE WHO ACTUALLY WANT THEM FOR SOME REASON.
 
Dolly Brooks said:
There are “chasers” who are into them (and there’s no shortage of gay men who are dtf so it’s not out of desperation) but TROONS DON’T WANT THE ONLY PEOPLE WHO ACTUALLY WANT THEM FOR SOME REASON.
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It's because the vast majority of them are autoheterophilies and having any signs to their biology disrupts their fantasy of truly being the opposite sex. A tranny dating a chaser would be a constant reminder that he is and will always be a man, and he wants to live as a "woman" than to be with somebody that has the patience and kinks to put up with his shit.
 
Timothy Troon said:
Is there such a thing as a “normal” TIM ? I mean you occasionally see TIF’s out there appearing regular and doing regular things, but are all TIM’s narcissistic, porn obsessed, ugly, paedophilic, anime crazed, misogynists ?
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In my experience as someone who used to be in quite a few trans-contaminated fandoms and had both TIM and TIF friends...the answer is NO, there are no normal TIMs. Meanwhile, as you say, there are indeed some TIFs who are relatively normal and do not go out of their way to bother anybody. And I would argue that even the crazier TIFs do not get nearly as horrifying as TIMs can. I have often wondered about the psychology behind this dichotomy and I have some ideas (based in real-life interactions and extensive conversations with these people):

TIMs have a very glorified view of what a woman actually is. A woman is, cute, gentle, gracious, but also a DIVA and a total GIRLBOSS out to dismantle the patriarchy. She can be anything she wants to be, and everyone wants to be her. To put it shortly, Woman is their God. And maleness and men, to them, are Satan and the root of all evil (because patriarchy). I think you can see how holding these beliefs can lead to insanity. As a TIM, you despise what you are and wish to become that which you never will be. You want to become your own opposite. This self-hatred and impossible-to-achieve desire lead to immense suffering.

The internal pressure is unbearable. The only way out is delusion. To look in the mirror for hours a day and convince yourself you ARE Woman. And then you go on Reddit and post an obviously non-passing selfie but everyone will be cheering you on, telling you wow you are so pretty, so beautiful. This is attention that most men do not receive. A man can't post a selfie and have dozens of people hugboxing him for no reason. But if he puts on a 1950s sundress or whatever, instantly he is "brave" and living his truth, destroying capitalism. So now the tranny thinks, "damn, I really am beautiful and powerful...all I have to do to get people to love me is put on some woman clothes". So he gets more confident and wears more revealing, fetish-type clothes. And still more cheering. The ego gets built up to an insane amount, and this is worsened by the fact that the TIM is MALE, the sex which naturally wants to DOMINATE and BE THE BEST. So he will keep on trying to demonstrate his "true female self" in more and more absurd ways, and because he is a MAN he will not be told off for it. The truth is, people are often intimidated by TIMs. Especially women. Imagine being a timid 5' 4 woman having to be next to a 6' 1 gigahon with giant hands pretending he is cute and small like you. I think that trannies can sense that women are intimidated by them, but they interpret their fear as "wow, they think I'm so hot and they're feeling self-conscious around me! i am such a queen!" But no, they are seen as a threat.

So now imagine being your average TIF. You are soft and empathetic and love reading your little "romance" novels and fantasizing about being in a gay anime relationship. You were abused as a child and felt awkward during puberty and still don't really like how your body looks. So you decide to forget your female life and live out your gay fantasy and start pretending to be a man. You are seen as a little weird but nobody is afraid of you. If you walk into a men's bathroom, people might look at you strangely if you don't pass but no man is scared of you. In fact, YOU are scared of them, knowing inside that you are not a real man and that every real man is bigger and stronger than you. And really, you don't even want to be a man, you just want to not be objectified, to be left alone. To not feel the pressure of having to be beautiful and desired.

There is a lot more to be said on this topic but in summary, TIFs feel threatened and often don't want to stick out too much. TIMs ARE the threat but refuse to acknowledge that and force themselves to believe they are little and cute and harmless, while at the same time being insanely narcissistic in the way that only a man can be. There is far more internal fighting and self-gaslighting going on inside a TIM. (First post, hope I did everything right.)
 
Dolly Brooks said:
Genuinely scared for the people in his life:
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holy fucking shit. being willing to say that you hate FEELING happiness (assuming that's the same thing as happeinese) and think other people are delusional for feeling it is just admitting that you are a miserable, loathsome and loathful, misanthropic cunt.

like, seriously. the term misanthropic gets thrown around A LOT these days, but this is what real misanthropy looks like; hatred for the human race, and hatred for other people who are happy, even if they did not achieve that happiness at anyone else's expense.
it makes me almost as angry to know that the only real use of interrobangs, my favorite punctuation mark, is by trannies.
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this also feels like an attempt to blow smoke up their asses, play the bathroom crying game, and try to imply that normal people are weird for wanting to keep a bearded, testosterone-jacked person from entering a womens' restroom. they can't decide if they want it to be that trans women are women, and trans men are men, which means they should ALWAYS use the 'gendered' bathroom, or if they should be using the correct bathroom for their sex.

the answer is to stop fucking with your hormones for no reason and you won't have to worry about which bathroom to use, you fucking morons.

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oh no, not violence against a 'transmasc'! presumably they're talking about women who are confronted by these pooners in the bathroom, don't know how to spot one, and freak the fuck out thinking it's just some random perverted man (it's actually a random woman, possibly also a pervert!) walked in on them. pepper spray and/or windmill flailing will ensue.

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pooners never cease to amaze me with this kind of shit. you're supposed to be a man. why are you constantly asking every other 'man' to you know to validate your feelings? just as women say about trannies being super performative and only doing what they think women are like to skinwalk them, it's the goddamn same for pooners. they never understand anything about how you would express unsureness of yourself in a masculine way, or even if they would be expressing it at all. it's so comical to me for someone to say in one breath "i'm an honest to god man as manly as anyone born male," and "i don't know how men react to this emotion, can someone help me?" :story:
 
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This idiot tranny decided to tell his niece he really wanted to be a princess like her, but unfortunately, he doesn't make it funny by saying Princess Cookie from Adventure Time is his inspiration or something else that's both retarded and funny at the same time. Instead, he just manages to confuse the heck out of his niece and make his sister mad.

His sister should cut him out of her life. Trannies are so obsessed with going no-contact, I think some people should go no-contact with them first.

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This gay tranny lover is upset about all the transphobia surrounding the recent shootings. Specifically, his boyfriend's parents are using it as fuel to tell their son that he and people like him are mentally deranged. The best thing is the first comment, which says that there have only been four trans shootings compared to all the cis men who pull this. Point taken, sir, you commit mass shootings just like men. Next, try comparing the statistics of troon shooters to actual female shooters. The little pooner who shot up a Christian school is the most recent one I can think of, and that was another tranny shooting.

Also funny is that he mentions that this is just like racism because people have used the excuse that black people commit tons of crimes to be racist.

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A HSTS (i.e., a homosexual male) struggles to articulate the differences between abusive gay relationships and abusive straight relationships but clarifies that they are, indeed, different, citing BDSM "erotic comedy" film Pillion as an example of what he misses in life yet cannot find due to transitioning out of gay kink spaces. I've not seen the film, only read its plot summary, but that was enough to make me think that OP cannot be rendered a eunuch fast enough if that's the kind of movie to overwhelm him with yearning.
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The film Pillion revelead me something about myself?​

Ok i'll start with asking you sorry for my bad english, i'm not native.
In march i will hit 1 year of estrogen and i feel very happy about it, but... I'm also feeling something in my bones that i cannot explain. But i can try.
I like guys. Before my transition i enjoyed the kinky culture of my country (i liked to be a puppy) but when i wanted to start hrt i feel like that was just a thing to explore being the "weak and needy" one of the couple (sorry, i don't want to offence but i don't find any other words to explain me).
That's why i always wanted a man bigger then me and more masculine then me also before the hrt. Now i'm feeling well, very less horny, and i appreciate a bigger range of guys because i'm not masculine anymore. BUT the film Pillion sort of resonance with me. Like awekening something from the past? or just melancholia? And if you are asking, no, the straight kinky culture is very different from the gay one, so... is not the same. But i will try it, at least.
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An older MTF tries to give advice to others who prepare to walk a mile in his shoes but the advice is poorly received by other Redditors because he shares tips such as "don't be an aggressive ape" and "sit with your legs closed so you don't flash the world your twig and berries," which commenters describe as "conservative and assimilationist." Though OP deleted the original post to escape criticism from his fellow crossdressers, we here at The Library of Picklandria always make sure to archive, archive, archive, so now you can see what was so offensive that it merited a 100-comment dogpile from crusty-handed chronic masturbators.
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13 Years later, this is my brutally honest advice.​

Here's my advice for people considering transition, transitioning, going through surgery, and finally passing. You might not like it, this is my take.
Deciding:
  • 1. You might lose your wife, children, parents, siblings, and job. You might not. Talking about transitioning and actually beginning the process and physically changing can get different response. Prepare for initially accepting to fail. Perhaps it won't.
  • 2. You will get old as a woman. Life is unfair. As you age, society will judge that your value will diminish faster than a man's.
  • 3. How people accept you as a woman can very much depend on 1. How well you pass and 2. If you have bottom surgery. Some people are accepting no matter what, some will never accept you. All those people in the middle, will judge you on your appearance, your documentation, your genitals.
  • 4. No matter what you look like, what surgeries you have, there will be people who want exactly what you have to offer. You dating pool might shrink drastically, but there is always someone. There's women who like trans women, who prefer them. There's men who will only date you post op. You don't have to be alone no matter what decisions you make, but you will likely have to put in more effort to find a partner.
  • 5. Just because you are trans, doesn't mean that you have to transition.
  • 6. With enough work: Medical, social, mental- You can pass. (Yes, you!)
Transitioning:
  • 1. If you can, have a doctor follow and prescribe you your medication. It's not just the "right way" un-monitored HRT can have drastic negative health effects. Someone needs to check your bloodwork. You should stop smoking. You are at a greater risk of deep vein thrombosis. You might have more frequent migraines.
  • 2. If you don't know how: learn to do make-up. Learn a daily make-up routine, something you can wear to work, not a nightclub. I use concealer, liquid foundation, a powder, light blush (lower on my cheeks than most cis women would), a very neutral lipstick, eyeshadow (not too dark), eyebrow pencil, mascara. Many women judgeeachother on how they look. They will also judge you.
  • 3. Sit like a lady.
  • 4. Be hospitable at home. Offer guests something to drink.
  • 5. Do not respond to anger with violent reactions. Ladies act like ladies.
  • 6. Dress to fit your body style: V-necks, A-Line Dresses, Fitted T-shirts, shorts with a bigger belt. Dress to accutate what hips you have, minimize your shoulders. Tight mini-skirts accentuate your lack of hips.
  • 7. Dress appropriately for the occasion. What are other women wearing at work? At court? At the club? (see the above point)
  • 8. Wear your hair in a way that fits your face, and hair-line. Parted down the middle, bangs, trendy hats are good looks if you have had receeding hair.
  • 9. HRT will make you look young for your age! (Hooray)
  • 10. Pre-OP: You are not going to be automatically accepted as a woman in many places. Locker rooms? Bikini Waxes? Places you or other women will be nude: Ask first or don't go. Don't assume everyone is okay with a pre-op transwoman being nude around them.
  • 11. Don't make life harder for other trans people. Don't out other trans people. Don't join a powerlifting competition 2 weeks into HRT. Think of the optics. Trans women arewomen, but HRT takes time to work. If you are a post-op trans woman with 5 years of HRT, join that powerlifting competition.
Bottom Surgery:
  • 1. Go to a good surgeon. Follow their after-care routine.
  • 2. Dialate, dialate, dialate. For a long time. Buy lube in bulk.
  • 3. Dialate periodically years after surgery. Even if you have a boyfriend.
Passing:
  • 1. If you pass, liberal accepting people can begin to treat you differently if you tell them you are trans. You might get off comments: Oh that's probably because you were a man.Your more traditionally masculine hobby that was once a quirky part of you as a woman, will be a sign of your "otherness". For me, I have learned that there is no need totell anyone unless I'm going to date them.
  • 2. If at all possible, get all your documentation changed. You may think you don't need a passport or birth certificate, but laws can change, life can change. Get it switched ASAP and keep a copy.
  • 3. You can pass 99.99% of the time, and fail once. That's ok. Three of my cis friends have been accused of being trans. I heard someone make fun of me for looking kind of trans. They thought I was a masculine woman. People can suck. Don't let it get to you. My cis friends responded with a laugh and assurance they were not. If you want to stealth, and somehow get caught, feel free to lie; with confidence. It might be much safer, depending on your circumstances.
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A truscum tranny (i.e., the NLOG of transgenderists) tries to invent new terminology to describe being transgender in an effort to have his troonacy seen as more legitimate than anyone else's, which just further affirms that truscum/transmedicalists are uniquely embarrassing for those of the pronoun party. For those less savvy around medical terminology, these are all pretty retarded, but the insistence upon "congenital" being part of the label is what stands out as most retarded to me (as "congenital" means "since birth," and I don't know how you could possibly be transgender from literal fucking infancy).
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Need help with my alternate name of sex dysphoria/being trans (try not to flame me)​

Alternate names for sex dysphoria/being trans
  1. Congenital Sexual Development Incongruence
  2. Congenital Neurodevelopmental Sexual Incongruence
  3. Congenital Neurologic Sexual Development Incongruence
  4. Congenital Neurogenic Sexual Development Incongruence
  5. Congenital Neuro-Somatic Sexual Development Incongruence
  6. Congenital Neurocognitive-Somatic Sexual Development Incongruence
It took me so much research and time to come up with these 6 names. I know I'd like critiquing, suggestions, and opinions on this. I'd also like to know which of the 6 sound the most believable. This seems dumb to me, so as I said, try not to flame me. Any advice is most appreciated.
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Terminally online furry alcoholic loser SierraTheWolfe is back with another post about standing up to the 'phobes as the proud she-wolf he was always meant to be, railing bravely against coworkers while - I shit you not - muttering hostile Japanese statements under his breath after yet another weary meeting with HR. If he spent half as much time raising his sickly children as he did jerking off about what a badass bitch he is on the internet, maybe his wife wouldn't be imagining a convenient accident that puts him six feet underground while she walks away with a life insurance payout that leaves all six figures bequeathed to her and her alone.
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How I Quit and Accidentally Unlocked My Final Boss Form​

I am a 36 year old transwoman that is pansexual androcentric and ambiamorous. I genuinely like being authentic with the eyeshadow, eye liner and my favorite pair of pants that are very affirming. You know? I got that grunge girl vibes going on. But anyway here we go...
I spent 1.4 years at a company in an IT related role. During that time I socially transitioned further while working there. The job itself was a sedentary ten hour grind that could literally put you to sleep. My gender queer coworker whom is like my best friend would pass out while staring at the screen waiting for jump scare or anything to stay awake. But that was not even the exhausting part.
Workplace culture was really toxic. I experienced repeated misgendering, hostile commentary, and inappropriate discussions about my body. It was like they wanted to know what was under my bra and in my pants! Why are these wierdos so obessed?Then the political rhetoric constantly bled into the workplace, turning what should have been a professional environment into something adversarial.
It honestly felt like I was the first trans woman they had ever met in the wild. Instead of acting professional, several grown men became insecure toddlers. Correcting them was like talking to a brick wall. At least the brick wall has better comprehension.
I reported these issues. HR’s handling lacked clarity, consistency, and transparency. Despite raising concerns multiple times, nothing meaningfully improved. I was dismissed repeatedly, sometimes literally in tears, because it was becoming unsafe to continue working there.
Eventually I started playing Red Rover with their logic.
Red Rover, Red Rover, send basic critical thinking right over.
They would say I could not use my pronouns or my name. I would respond along the lines of, “Clayton v. Bostock, bitch.” Mic drop.
On top of that, I was pressured to use the wrong restroom against my gender identity. Somehow I was also roped in with the men whenever the restroom looked like a disaster. For the record, I sit to relieve myself. Thank you very much. I am not the reason the restroom looks like a biohazard zone from something the movie Alien popped out of.
Reported harassment.
Watch management reach into the Ass Hat of Consequences and pull out performance issues. Corporate magic is wild. Totally not retaliation! That could'nt be possibly it? Bet you it is!
I left the meeting speaking Japanese under my breath like an anime antagonist. Bakayaro desu. Corporate villain arc activated. The irony is I am the only translator for that division. Good luck with that.
I wrapped up my last task, walked over to my genderqueer coworker who I absolutely adore, left my number and said, “Call me. Coffee soon. We can talk about real men in uniforms.” He lost it laughing.
Then I looked at the lead and said directly, “I quit.” He became a deer in headlights. He thought I was joking. I was not.
I explained why. A cis woman nearby asked what happened. I told her. She instantly became pissed. Turns out I’m not the only one tired of the nonsense.
Oh and by the way, the company is about to get sued by a bunch of cis women for the similiar garbage. Imagine that! Wow mind blown! Kapow!
So fluff yeah. Let’s go! I quit, freedom byatches! I walked out with Pride energy like a final boss yelling, ‘I love being a trans woman!’”
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Creepy pregnancy fetishist squishot seems to believe that the treatment insane transvestites get is somehow analogous to how the average ordinary woman is treated, which proves that he probably doesn't really talk to actual women very often. The line about the violent fantasies amused me because if you've been around transbians in particular, you'll be aware that if anyone has a downright lurid lust for violence, it's usually them - and they are very eager to share them with you no matter who you are.
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"Trans women dont understand women's issues" you are saying this while:​

trying to silence us
victim blaming us when we are most of the time victims of SA and rape
denying us and making fun of us participating in sports
dreaming of violent fantasies towards us if you saw us in person
making fun of our femininity or even when we want to stay masc
ignoring our lack of accessible healthcare and how we get treated
having ZERO idea of how our bodies work on hrt and after surgeries
getting absolutely furious when we make any kind of progress
thinking we owe you our bodies and mind
ignoring our achievements
calling us "men" or emasculating us as an insult when we dont fit your patriarchal misogynist worldview
and even if you decide to accept us, its done in a very limited, white cishet washed, european beauty standards appealing way that is impossible or a lot of us to reach and makes everyone miserable in the long run.
transphobes already treat us as real women, so "thanks" I guess <3
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The quiet part out loud: a TiM acknowledges that he feels privileged to be a man and doesn't want to give up the goods to pursue skirtgospinny in earnest, which prompts commenters to weigh in on how they never actually had male privilege, but if they did they never really cashed in on it, and even if they ever did it's fine because now they get to appreciate "gender affirming sexism." Warning: reading this post will make you want TTD!
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How bad is losing male privilege?​

For me this is something I worry about a lot because even if I'll pass as cis there will still be misogyny and stuff. I'm from a majority background so I never had to worry or think about being treated worse. I don't want to give up my privilege
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Not as bad as keeping it

Yeah literally feels so good to be able to get mad about being talked over by men in meetings. Like very perversely, situations like that make me feel valid in my womanhood…and then I feel very very very valid when I get to address the bad behavior.​
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yup, gender affirming sexism is real lol. It sucks, but if I didn’t transition I’d def not be here anymore so I’ll deal with shitty men.​
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Gaining the sisterhood of women everywhere is a pretty great tradeoff imo​

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The sisterhood is one of the primary reasons to do it. Just being able to be a girl with other girls is actually the most freeing feeling. Worth every fight​

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misogyny sucks. losing male privilege sucks. but being happy and comfortable in my own skin is absolutely worth every moment of discomfort, disgust, and even danger, to me at least.
It mostly means taking extra precautions in public, especially at night, and learning a lot about how to stay safe and ok in social situations - noting signs of people to watch out for, sticking with people you trust for safety, being more wary, learning how to stick up for yourself and reject people more, etc.
Depending on where you live it could be better or worse. Going out at night will be a little scarier, harassment is inevitable, you will be cat called, you will be looked at in weird and uncomfortable ways, and you will need to learn how to stay safe in case anyone tries to do more than that.
People will treat you a little weirdly in social interactions, you will probably have a guy assume you know nothing and mansplain something obvious, you might lose that default respect people give to a lot of men, if you have it, you will experience misogyny in all its ways (and more, because transmisogyny specifically is just misogyny + extra bad stuff)
That being said, you also get to live your life as you. There are so many incredibly beautiful things about being a woman, about living your life loving yourself and your body, about female friendships and relationship. The world looks different from this side, and yeah you have to take extra precautions and get a little bit used to things being a little harder in some ways, but in my experience it is absolutely not close to bad enough to make me want to stay sad and constantly dissociating.

[–]Ok_Walrus_230
First: It sucks a lot! People don’t give you enough credit for what you do. People think you are dumb. People won’t be so much willing to hear your opinion except when you force them to listen to you. You walk in fear of assault, you start worrying how you park the car so you can leave fast in case you need.
That being said: OMG I LOVE BEING A WOMAN!!! FCK LIVING AS A MAN!! HAVING TO PRETEND TO ENJOY THOSE DISGUSTING MEN TALK TO FIT IN!!! IM FCKING FREE AND HAPPY TODAY!!!!
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I'm a man and never cared for "locker room" talk or what have you. I am recently questioning tho lol​
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Yes, it isn’t universal to experience, but I couldn’t get rid of it by myself, men liked talking to me so they always made me join them, and since I didn’t want to be segregated (aka, didn’t want to be bullied like in my teens), I learned to join the conversations​
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Interesting. I would choose to keep quiet, or say as few words as possible. I just had a completely different lived experience than others, though.​

[–]Nerubian
I literally refuse to give up male privilege. It was what made me get over my internalized misogyny at myself. I will continue to act like I have it - because, fuck people thinking woman are lesser. If that means being a bitch and a 'problem'. I love that
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This is the way. If I ever work up the courage to transition it would be waaaaay more than the courage it takes to stand up for and protect myself​
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Its caused issues. Friends and family who think I should be a good girl.​

[–]Ramzaki
I don't see much difference, honestly. I guess because I was not really seen as much of a man. As a "totally cis man" I was often told I was adorable (at least before I began balding hard, but don't worry I recovered a lot now) and women were already nice to me, as if they recognised me as inoffensive. They are nicer now, though.
But, it seems I didn't appear as "manly" enough (I dunno why, I presented as a totally cis dude) and many guys, being often so loud, would talk over me or interrupt. That didn't change much nowadays, either.
The male privilege I lost is basically that I used to be able to play Pokemon GO at night without fear of sexual assaulters.

[–]Dry_Notice_6042
i was always the weitd autistic kid so idk if i've never experienced male privilege bc ive been ostracised all my life xD

im not sure that's how male privilege works, since there are autistic women (and enbies who havent got male privilage)​
they experience misogyny and ostricisation from ableism,​
like i personally have a friend who was kicked out of her house specifically because of her autism (i think she's doing ok now)​
There's actually some male privilage in getting the diagnosis itself, since there was a lack of diagnosis of girls with autism specifically due to gender​
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well thats the funny thing, i was constantly pushed off by doctors because i 'didnt show anuyautistic traits' which turned out to be high masking and i only just got a diagnosis a year ago at 22​
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yeah, i was horrified when i learned what masking is, sounds a really exhausting thing to experience.​
i had a similar thing where i got diagnosed with depression and anxiety first before getting diagnosed with adhd, that's a common pattern in women who get late adhd diagnosis​
(even though i was percieved as a man)​
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yeah, i actually have noticed a pattern that all the trans women i know do often show adhd & autistic symptoms in the same/similar way as cis women (which has actually been a source of affirmation for me to tell myself im not making it up etc)​
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This is so real and funny to me because, I felt the exact same way when I learned of the more "gendered criteria" they would look for. Luckily it's slowly being desolved to my understanding, but I have no doubt that it played a role in me getting my diagnosis as late as I did.​
I wonder if it's the same for transmasc or trans men (but in reverse)🤔.​

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I second this. I got my diagnosis at 24 for the very same reason. I was very jealous of the help my autistic cousin got (cis girl), as a result of getting her diagnosis at around 4-5 years old. It really helped her, while going undiagnosed has left my mentality "crippled", to say the least.​
Getting a diagnosis isn't about male privilege in my experience, but about fitting the criteria. Which, for autistic people regardless of gender, is hard to diagnose if the person is masking and believing everyone else is as well. It's very similar to the whole "Wait, not everyone wants to be the other gender?" kind of thing in experience 🤷‍♀️​
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Girls and women (including trans girls and women) exhibit different symptoms for both autism and ADHD.​
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Yeah this. Growing up as a quiet skinny boy in a family of loud large men, I never felt like I was benefitting from male privilege, I guess there’s still a hierarchy among men. If my dad, uncle, and my brother were having a conversation that I was apart of I never felt like I could contribute unless I made a huge effort to interrupt. They would just talk over me. My sister had the same experience so I guess it was affirming in a way lol​

[–]EgSaladSandBitch
It's rocky, but most of us don't come out or pass right away, so in my experience it's more of a progression of losing male privilege rather than an "on-off" switch. Dudes being more aggressive to you on the road, not shaking your hand quite the same way, making eye contact more. Little things.
And honestly, the moment you mentally set yourself apart from men, you will probably start to notice it happening, little by little, a lot of it is subconscious on our part and/or communicated by body language.

[–]autumnrain80
Be prepared to struggle to find a job if you lose one. God, that part is so hard. :(

[–]CorvusNyxian
The funny thing is, most men talked over me and mansplained long before I ever realized I was trans. It’s just much more blatant now that they recognize me as a woman.
I’m a technician, so I deal with a lot of employee issues and contractors in my work, and most, if not all, treat me like I’m a secretary until I speak up and remind them I’m a tech and know my stuff. It’s a bit pathetic to have a user walk into the office with the most basic of issues I could fix in 5 seconds (e.g. them switching their keyboard to the wrong language, or Windows did a thing and they don’t know how to adjust their display settings, etc.), only for them to look at me, somehow think I know less than they do, then ask when the male techs are going to be in. I’ve had a couple older men give credit for something I fixed to one of the male techs in group emails too. Irritating, to say the least.
Physical safety is something I’m more vigilant about now. I was small to begin with, and the strength loss was significant. I can’t be as careless as before.
But, I’d never go back. I’m comfortable and alive in my skin in a way I never was for 23 years. Male privilege, for what little I had, was nothing compared to feeling like myself. I love being a woman. I have much more confidence, and I don’t take guff from anyone either. I’m sure it ruffles a few feathers of some emotionally fragile men I come across, but that’s their problem. I’d rather be alive and feeling good than dead on my feet and miserable.

[–]Yuzumi
While I know I certainly benefited a bit from it I never had the confidence to actually take advantage of it and half the time I did get a passive benefit I never capitalized on it.
I have more confidence now and am more willing to stand up for myself.

[–]NBNoemi
If you are clocked as queer beforehand it's questionable how much you even have of it to begin with

[–]SkritzTwoFace
The secret is that if you have to pretend to be a man to have it, you never had it anyway. Privilege is a passive benefit.

[–]im-ba
It has real, long lasting consequences. For example, I had a problem with my work laptop. The thermal paste had degraded to such a degree that I couldn't hold a Zoom call. So, I brought it down to the IT help desk and asked for a refurbishment since that's typically the solution. It's like a 5 minute process, where you demonstrate the problem and then they hand you a laptop to transfer your stuff to, and then they take the old one at a later date.
I'm a software engineer with more than a decade of experience and my school background is electrical engineering. So I know a decent bit about these devices. When I was a dude and this happened, it was an easy appointment. In and out, and on with my life.
The last time I needed a refurbishment, the IT guy asked me:
  • Am I married
  • Am I still married (because I said I married long ago, trying to shut him down quickly)
  • What sort of music do I like
  • Would I like to schedule another appointment with him in private (this was in a public setting where an Asian woman was also trying to get help for a similar issue)
While I was setting up the test, he went over to the Asian woman and asked her what her hurry was, and whether she had to get back to Hong Kong. She stared him down and simply stated "Chicago".
I had to look around and check whether there was a film crew because the things coming out of his mouth were straight out of one of those HR training videos that show what kind of behavior is inappropriate. Alas, there was no crew present.
Ultimately, he wouldn't take "no" for an answer to his invitation for a private appointment, so I took my malfunctioning laptop home and do the least invasive thing possible to get it running well again. Fearing that I would be accused of performing unauthorized service, I figured that I could take it as far as pressing on the heatsink and reforming a connection between it and the CPU without showing any major signs of tampering. This got me through the 9 months, although my laptop did still have occasional issues after that.
That 9 month period wouldn't have been something I had to deal with as a man.
These things add up a lot over the course of your career. You get put into impossible situations, and it's infuriating. People don't take you seriously. But I'd do it all again if I had to choose between the loss of my male privilege and living one more day as a man.

[–]BritneyGurl
To be honest, it is both affirming and stressful. If you are on HRT, you are now physically much weaker and because of that your safety is now a regular concern. Being a woman intersects with being trans, especially if you don't pass as well. You have to plan your activities to make sure you avoid any situations where you end up alone. You get treated differently at work. You need to work harder than your peers so you can prove you are capable. Even if you are in a senior position, people start questioning you more, thinking that you are not as smart anymore, talking over you, etc. But at the end of the day it is worth it to be authentic. I immediately became a feminist because I realized early on that male privilege comes at the expense of women. The patriarchy is much bigger than I thought and misogyny runs deep. I am happy to be fighting against it and I hope that one day male privilege becomes a thing of the past.

[–]-beep_
trans women don’t have male privilege the way cis men do, even before realizing their trans, coming out, etc.

yeah i can kinda see this angle. even when i was stuck living a man's life i didn't use the advantages i had because it was icky and meant stepping on someone else. also as a really sensitive, non-masc person naturally, men just kinda trampled me, so i already functioned a lot like a woman.​
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My concern is I'm not sure just how much I benefit from until I lose it. I can say that I don't experience manhood and patriarchy the sane way as a cishet man does, but I know there are parts I benefit from that I don't even notice and that's the parts I'm afraid of losing.​

[–]gee891
i still have no idea when male privilege even is…i don’t miss anything from pre transition

[–]closetBoi04
Not bad, my bitchy ass can still say my thing at work; only thing is my guy friends now talk over me more; haven't called them out on it yet but it's really funny either way.
Oh and being told "quiet woman" in CS lmao, other than that I haven't noticed any downsides

[–]Necessary_Base_5046
Pretty girl privilege is so much better

[–]Thick_Equivalent9344
never had it so cant tell u. my entire life has been infantilization and being dismissed/disregarded. matter of fact i only began to be taken seriously after i began living truthfully.

[–]awkwardfloralpattern
You aren't completely stripped of the male privilege, unless you're fairly passing. But really all it is is just men talk over you and ignore you more often. Whatever they say to their bros you're not going to hear and you're not going to want to. Some guys stop being friends or drop to LC after awhile, mostly because it seems a lot of guys have an aversion to women unless they want to sleep with them. Not all men are like that, but there's a lot of them who are dogs out here.
Lastly, a TiF who claims she has "years of training" in "argument-heavy subjects" still can't manage to successfully present her position when it comes to her preference for poonerism. Commenters echo similar sentiments to OP, with one saying "I really don't have a bulletproof, logical answer to provide, and I know that. I *know* I'm a man, but I don't really 100% know why," and another writing "I feel like no matter how hard we try, we always end up sounding less polished and "convincing" than we would like. We're trying to translate something into "cis language" that really can't be translated." So if you're wondering why dipshits like Matt Walsh can debate circles around them, it's because they literally refuse to build arguments to refute the opposition. Truly the kinds of intellectual powerhouses we should be permitting to influence law, medicine, science and society!
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"Ask me anything-- except why I'm trans."​

Hi everyone. I'm 23 (FTM) and about 6 months into my medical transition. I am now beginning my social transition in the midst of grad/professional school.
I aspire to be so secure in myself that I can openly discuss my transition, even and especially with those who are resistant or uninformed. I have years of training in argument-heavy subjects that should have prepared me well for this, right? The opposite seems to be true.
Explaining my transition exhausts me and leaves me feeling inarticulate. I know that I must transition and every step I take feels right, but when I hear myself describing these things it sounds unconvincing.
How important to you guys that you are able to "back up" your identity in a way that non-trans people can understand? Is this even a worthy goal to have? Part of me feels tempted to shut down others' questions, but this emotional desire conflicts with my other values.
I appreciate any thoughts.
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Magic Pickle said:
An older MTF tries to give advice to others who prepare to walk a mile in his shoes:

7. Dress appropriately for the occasion. What are other women wearing at work?
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You mean I can't wear a French maid uniform with cat ears at work? I'll KMS and my parents will sue you!
 
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