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[Gay Sex Enjoyer]

Unless you scream “OH MY GOD, THAT’S A FUCKING TRANNY!!!” at full volume every time you see one

As one should.

 

[FBI-chan]

Even as sex workers?
How about especially as sex workers.

Promoting sex work as empowering when johns have this to say about prostitutes:


Rape and trafficking also regularly occurs in legal brothels in Europe. It's common for the girls to not be able to speak the native language (because they are from a poorer country) and require an interpreter, only for the interpreter to offer up the girl for everything she explicitly said she would not do. When Russia invaded Ukraine, johns were excited about women and girls there becoming impoverished and desperate enough to turn to prostitution.

 

[Irregardless]

False. Every compliment I've ever given a stranger has been 100% sincere. You might just have trust issues.

I get what you're trying to say, but are you really going to tell me that every time a woman has a friend who cuts their hair short, and when the woman sees it she says "Oh my God that looks so cute on you!" she isn't lying? Really?
Let's be real, that happens all the time.

Edit: Let it be known, all a nigga did was make a joke about short hair not being cute, and this is the hate I've received.

 

[Two Frogs]

I get what you're trying to say, but are you really going to tell me that every time a woman has a friend who cuts their hair short, and when the woman sees it she says "Oh my God that looks so cute on you!" she isn't lying? Really?
Let's be real, that happens all the time.

Yes. Women literally find each other attractive by nature, often not in a sexual way either but we appreciate each other's aesthetics and beauty, and the effort that goes into maintaining it. Sometimes a compliment is really just a compliment.

Some weomons do be bitches, though. I won't say it's an extinct behavior.

 

[There She Glows]

I get what you're trying to say, but are you really going to tell me that every time a woman has a friend who cuts their hair short, and when the woman sees it she says "Oh my God that looks so cute on you!" she isn't lying? Really?
Let's be real, that happens all the time.

Your reasoning was that it's a malicious lie because women are supposedly always in competition with each other. When it's a lie it is usually so their self-esteem doesn't take a hit, which is exactly the opposite motivation. In the example you provided, let's say I do think it looks bad (not a given btw, women tend to think short hair is cuter than men do. I am assuming you are a man). There is nothing to be done about it. The deed is done. So telling your friend "it looks cute!" is more likely to be motivated by not wanting them to walk around all day feeling self-conscious because you told them it looks bad. The malicious lie would be to not share your honest opinion when they ask you down the road if they should get the same haircut. And most women don't do that kind of thing, real life isn't Mean Girls starring Lindsay Lohan.

 

[Spooky all year]

I get what you're trying to say, but are you really going to tell me that every time a woman has a friend who cuts their hair short, and when the woman sees it she says "Oh my God that looks so cute on you!" she isn't lying? Really?
Let's be real, that happens all the time.

Imagine a woman actually looking good in a short haircut. The horror.

Honestly though, it makes way more sense to actually give compliments if you mean them and just shut the fuck up if you only have negative stuff to say. If she asks you if you like it and you don't you can be honest at least and go: "It's not my taste, but hey if you're happy with it."

 

[Stan]

Not yet, and it's long overdue.

I censored the Progress Pride episcopal shield out of some church publications today by putting the normal episcopal shield over it and in the case of the print material I artfully arranged some stickers on it that look reasonably like they were part of the design.

I just finished watching an episode of '24 hours in police custody' on Channel 4 (UK)
called 'Murder is no game'
The gunman killed his mum, brother and sister with a shotgun and had planned to
do a school shooting straight after but his mother ruined his plans by waking up too early.
Apparently he modelled his plan on a previous American school shooter
and apparently, killing your family before killing lots of school kids is becoming a trend.

I hate to say it but I think persons of gun do it because it’s practical. The people you live with know you and are the likeliest ones to get the drop in a timely manner and call police to intercept. (Cause they notice you left the house armed to the teeth or whatever.) so would be mass killers take out whoever shares the house with them so they can’t interfere with the later steps of their plans.

her women do this when you look like shit. Typically unless it's a woman you seriously trust like a family member, if another woman compliments you on something, it's because it looks like shit. Women are always in competition with each other and aren't going to support you looking your best if they think you might look better than them

Life’s too short to shit on other women this way. But it would be based to troll troons with fake compliments.

Promoting sex work as empowering when johns have this to say about prostitutes:
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Rape and trafficking also regularly occurs in legal brothels in Europe. It's common for the girls to not be able to speak the native language (because they are from a poorer country) and require an interpreter, only for the interpreter to offer up the girl for everything she explicitly said she would not do. When Russia invaded Ukraine, johns were excited about women and girls there becoming impoverished and desperate enough to turn to prostitution.

I genuinely hate the “sex positive feminism” and “sex worker inclusion” that says it’s ok for men to talk about women like this if they pay for the privilege

 

[Sean Andalou]

Affirming the rejection of the gender binary. A series of four selfies.


Reddit -- Archive
This one is #2, my choice for the most affirming.
Click the link and decide for yourself which one affirms best.


Comments so far.

Pics #2 and #3 for the win, but a handsome boi is always a handsome boi U.U

whatever glitter your using is so beautiful!!

 

[Pepo]

Life’s too short to shit on other women this way. But it would be based to troll troons with fake compliments.

Do NOT do this, you risk them taking the compliment at face value. They're delusional and autistic enough to think they pass as women if they wear a skirt and makeup, so they very likely lack the ability to recognize that you're being fake.

 

[Stabby_Pencil]

But it would be based to troll troons with fake compliments.

I second what @Pepo said. These people take all positive sounding compliments at face value. Please see any of their posts in fashion or makeup subs.

 

[𝓗𝓾𝓰𝓱 𝓦𝓸𝓽𝓶𝓪𝓮𝓽]

The way you use fake compliments to fuck somebody over, when they can’t tell the difference, is that you compliment them the worse they look. Person cut their hair weird and it makes their face look longer? Compliment them. It looks great. Wearing pants that cut in at just the wrong spot, giving them a busted biscuit silhouette? Yeah it looks fab, dude. He’s never tried DIY horse piss from Glitterpuss McTroon, but his usual supply from Lilith van der Poon has run low? Bro you need to try the sketchiest shit on the market, get it in your veins. Reuse needles, too

 

[Pig Cups]

Do NOT do this, you risk them taking the compliment at face value. They're delusional and autistic enough to think they pass as women if they wear a skirt and makeup, so they very likely lack the ability to recognize that you're being fake.

I second what @Pepo said. These people take all positive sounding compliments at face value. Please see any of their posts in fashion or makeup subs.

Exactly. Looks of shock, horror, and mirth are preferable. Drill it into them that they’re NOT the opposite sex, as they like to claim.

At this point, I don’t even care about doing this as a service to try and snap them out of their bullshit- it’s to make them skulk back into their caves and go back to the drawing board. There, they desperately formulate a new plan and try even harder to create a passing visage/figure, and all they succeed in doing is making themselves look even more eldritch-esque. It’s hilarious to watch.

Ergo, I make my displeasure visible to the troon on the street who’s not wearing makeup, partly with the hope of seeing him looking like the lady from Parasite (1982) the next time we cross paths.

 

[Billy Hargrove]

Woman wonders why straight men are attracted to her.




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WHY. DO. STRAIGHT. MEN. KEEP. LIKING. ME. ON. HINGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I’m actually gonna lose my fucking shit. The first prompt on my profile literally says, amongst other things, that “we’ll get along if you’re queer (read: straight men, stop liking me).”

I don’t even understand how these guys are finding my profile—my gender is listed as trans man under the “man” category, so anyone seeing my profile has to be looking for men. Why the hell would a straight man be looking for men? Even if they’re chasers, having to sift through 99% cis men profiles to find a few trans men sounds crazy. I only have men visible and I have come across maybe 2-3 trans men in my swiping. Am I somehow being shown under the non-binary category anyways?! I don’t get it.

It’s so frustrating to see a like come in, and be like “oh he’s hot!” Scroll down: boom, “straight.” It feels like I’m being punched in the gut whenever I see that.

Does this happen to you guys too?! I’m so discouraged. The gay/queer men who like me are almost never my type and the ones I find hot are always the straight ones. The dudes I send likes to never like me back. Sigh. It’s such a big contrast to the ease I had on apps when I was a woman, but I obviously knew things would be harder upon transitioning. It’s still frustrating as fuck.

Edit: profile investigation reveals (surprise) very girly pooner into luxury skincare, small dogs, lululemon yoga pants. Posts in both in women and gay male oriented subs.

 

[Colress]

Woman wonders why men are attracted to her.


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WHY. DO. STRAIGHT. MEN. KEEP. LIKING. ME. ON. HINGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I’m actually gonna lose my fucking shit. The first prompt on my profile literally says, amongst other things, that “we’ll get along if you’re queer (read: straight men, stop liking me).”

I don’t even understand how these guys are finding my profile—my gender is listed as trans man under the “man” category, so anyone seeing my profile has to be looking for men. Why the hell would a straight man be looking for men? Even if they’re chasers, having to sift through 99% cis men profiles to find a few trans men sounds crazy. I only have men visible and I have come across maybe 2-3 trans men in my swiping. Am I somehow being shown under the non-binary category anyways?! I don’t get it.

It’s so frustrating to see a like come in, and be like “oh he’s hot!” Scroll down: boom, “straight.” It feels like I’m being punched in the gut whenever I see that.

Does this happen to you guys too?! I’m so discouraged. The gay/queer men who like me are almost never my type and the ones I find hot are always the straight ones. The dudes I send likes to never like me back. Sigh. It’s such a big contrast to the ease I had on apps when I was a woman, but I obviously knew things would be harder upon transitioning. It’s still frustrating as fuck.

why don't pooners ever understand that they look like girls

 

[Dante Alighieri]

Why? Because you're easy.

 

[AskMeAnything]

they notice you left the house armed to the teeth or whatever.

That seems to be what happened in that UK case, (edit to add. he wasn't trans. he just admired school shooters and enjoyed gore) but trannies often hate their families because they misgender them and deadname them, so they become the main source of all 'the angst'

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'lesbians just need to find the right dick' was standard humour long before the 90s

 

[Pig Cups]

The way you use fake compliments to fuck somebody over, when they can’t tell the difference, is that you compliment them the worse they look. Person cut their hair weird and it makes their face look longer? Compliment them. It looks great. Wearing pants that cut in at just the wrong spot, giving them a busted biscuit silhouette? Yeah it looks fab, dude. He’s never tried DIY horse piss from Glitterpuss McTroon, but his usual supply from Lilith van der Poon has run low? Bro you need to try the sketchiest shit on the market, get it in your veins. Reuse needles, too

What you’re describing here is, essentially, slowly feeding someone into a garbage disposal alive, tenderly kissing them throughout the whole process, while sporting a rock-hard erection glistening with sadomasochism and pure hatred.

You magnificent bastard, I’m in. I have zero opposition to this. Having a whipping boy troon to gradually destroy (like a kid who’s gotten bored of merely stretching his Stretch Armstrong, finally putting it in a vise in daddy’s workshop and grabbing tools) would be a remarkable way to destress and healthily channel any bottled up aggression!

 

[Colress]

You magnificent bastard, I’m in. I have zero opposition to this. Having a whipping boy troon to gradually destroy (like a kid who’s gotten bored of merely stretching his Stretch Armstrong, finally putting it in a vise in daddy’s workshop and grabbing tools) would be a remarkable way to destress and healthily channel any bottled up aggression!

dog i'm not even entirely sure what fucking sticker to slap on this post

 

[PP Police]

WHY. DO. STRAIGHT. MEN. KEEP. LIKING. ME. ON. HINGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I’m actually gonna lose my fucking shit. The first prompt on my profile literally says, amongst other things, that “we’ll get along if you’re queer (read: straight men, stop liking me).”

I don’t even understand how these guys are finding my profile—my gender is listed as trans man under the “man” category, so anyone seeing my profile has to be looking for men. Why the hell would a straight man be looking for men? Even if they’re chasers, having to sift through 99% cis men profiles to find a few trans men sounds crazy. I only have men visible and I have come across maybe 2-3 trans men in my swiping. Am I somehow being shown under the non-binary category anyways?! I don’t get it.

It’s so frustrating to see a like come in, and be like “oh he’s hot!” Scroll down: boom, “straight.” It feels like I’m being punched in the gut whenever I see that.

There's no way to read this without picturing a girly-girl as the author. Going through her profile you can see she used to post pictures of her trying on yoga pants and dresses, while also lecturing people on why Kanye hating jews is problematic and posting screenshots to r/HelloKittyIsland. She seems like the most basic young adult ever, so it makes me wonder what caused her to poon out.

the ones I find hot are always the straight ones. The dudes I send likes to never like me back. Sigh. It’s such a big contrast to the ease I had on apps when I was a woman

Welcome to manhood, dood.

 

[Magic Pickle]

The "B" in BIL stands for Based: upon the birth of her nephew, a TiF's brother-in-law draws firm lines in the sand of their relationship, making it clear that her poonery directed at his young son will not be tolerated for one second. OP, because she has a medical condition called "being a brainless 20-year-old," does not comprehend why her personal gender fee-fees do not outweigh the importance of carefully tending to a developing mind and thus whines about how nobody understands her or cares about her. Hm, do you think part of why he doesn't want you around is because you speculate about the possibility of his son "growing up queer" when the baby was just born, OP?
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Sister and brother in law don’t want me to “confuse their son”​

My sister and I have not talked for months. My mother told me that my brother in law was going to “sit me down” and have a “talk” with me about me and my newborn nephew. Apparently they’re afraid I’m going to “confuse” him and they don’t want him exposed to me & trans people at young age. And they want him to call me his AUNT. For a little more context, I am 20 years old and I have been out since I was 12. Been on testosterone for 5 years.
After learning this, of course I got upset. Why should I be miserable at the expense of others? I’m not going to be disrespected. I talked to my sister and my brother in law and told them this is insane.
My brother in law sent me two long paragraphs on IMessage explaining, “my son will decide to call you what he wants. I will not force him to do one thing or another. They are his words, and they belong to him! As his father I will not force him to think or speak the way I want. That is Tyranny!”
Tyranny? It’s Tyranny to tell your son, my nephew— to call me his uncle? I don’t have an issue with explaining to him that I am trans when he is older, but that doesn’t mean he can call me his aunt..?
More from my brother in laws huge paragraph:
“Here lies the problem. You will force him to call you his uncle, because you want him to. Call me a man! Call me a man! You demand this of people like it is in your power to demand. Scream it into the void. No one cares what you want the world to be. Your screaming does not make people believe you. It only makes people understand: here is a person that cannot accept the world. I will not make my son call you anything. And I will not make him call you something. He is free to call you whatever he wants. And I will tell my son the truth. When he asks why you are different from all his other uncles, I will tell him. And he will ask. Because you are different. Any child can tell. The illusion you are building will eventually topple over and collapse.”
And that is only a fraction of what he said to me. I am so sick of having to constantly defend myself and explain the same things over and over again. Why can’t I just live? Why can’t my family just accept and respect me. My mother still calls me my deadname and refers to me as a girl behind my back. Again, I’ve been out for 9 years. I’ve been on testosterone for 5. And somehow, according to my sister and brother in law, I’m the selfish one. I’m the bad guy in this situation. Because I’m upset that they want to tell their son that I’m “actually a woman” and he can call me whatever he wants. How am I the crazy one here?
I can’t get his words out of my head. How someone could possibly say those things to another human being is beyond me.

Never enough: towers of gold are still too little for this ogre in a dress as he admits that even though all of the villagers clear out of his way when he stomps through town, he can't help but hate them as much as he would if they had pitchforks and torches: "I'm like a dog in one of those wheelchair things," he writes scornfully of their pleasant pity, blisteringly aware that no matter how kind people are to his face, he will never be more than "a spectacle that people use to feel better by gushing over."
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My steak is too thick and my lobster too buttery, and it annoys the hell out of me​

I'm the 1% of trans people in terms of social acceptance. My wife accepts me, my kids accept me, my job accepts me, and my coworkers are incredibly supportive. I'm invited to birthday parties and to get my nails done. I haven't been taunted or harassed, and I've never felt unsafe in a public space. Once people know I'm trans (and yes, they have to be told, because I'm so masculine appearing that I think most people just assume I'm a man who is very secure in his masculinity and enjoys wearing dresses and makeup), they go out of their way to be supportive and accepting.
And it fucking bothers me, because I know why. I look like the exact stereotype of a "man in a dress". I'm fat, and I'm balding, and I'm tall-ish, and I have broad shoulders, and no matter how much I shave I've always got that dark stubble right underneath my skin that makeup only somewhat covers. I don't pass, and I won't ever pass. I'm not a threat to anybody's idea of gender. Nobody is going to be attracted to me as a woman and feel like their sexuality is threatened. I'm like a dog in one of those wheelchair things, I'm cute and adorable and by golly, isn't she trying so hard, but at the end of the day I'm still a spectacle that people use to feel better by gushing over.
And then I feel shitty, because so many of you are facing such awful circumstances, and I'm over here complaining because I've got too much acceptance.

A "man with a period" (i.e., a woman in denial) despises being addressed as such by her woke roommate even though we've all been forced to say the line now and again lest some tender-minded little nematode dances upon the precarious blade of a self-directed knife. This one is such a great example of how these people will never be happy no matter what you do or say, so you really might as well say whatever you want; the joyless and the bitter will find any excuse to stew in the comforting smear of their own soiled diapers regardless of your intent.
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Roommate made comment that’s deeply upsetting me.​

For context: Me & my roommate are pretty good friends. Also, I’m 7+ years on T. My periods have stopped, however if my levels are off they come back. My dosage got changed a few months ago and I believe it caused my levels to drop or something because they’ve come back.
Now here’s the situation: My roommate was telling me she mentioned them coming back to her therapist (We share basic things said in our sessions) and I guess her therapist ask how that was for me, and she responded “It’s a man with a period. How do you think?” She just laughed about it while I laughed it off but it really upset me.
You know how many women say things such as “Men could never deal with a period” or along those lines? Bascially insinuating that men are weak or dramatic. I feel like she indirectly told me I’m weak of dramatic. Between the dysphoria and the excruciating pain that comes with mine, I get suicidal. I’ve had a friend come pick me up before I didn’t feel safe by myself and I have to book extra therapy appointments to help manage the distress I’m in. The mental and physical pain is so bad I can’t move for hours at a time. So maybe I am dramatic? But at the same time I guarantee if someone was in as much physical pain as I am in when it happens, they wouldn’t move either. It radiates down my leg, up my back, and up my abdomen.
Her comment makes me feel like I’m not good enough as a man. Like I need to suck it up and I’ll never understand the female struggles and that I’m just some dramatic man. & I feel like a fraud of a man, because of the periods & I don’t have this almighty persona of masculinity. I dress the part, but once you get to know me I really am just a fragile, emotional, and sensitive guy.

All aboard to Creep City: a troon catches wind that he's to become an uncle, but rather than celebrating the addition of a little apple soon to be blooming on his family tree, OP simmers resentfully about not measuring up to his brothers' partners as a woman. This one is honestly a bit disturbing because normal people do not have to specify from the get-go that they have no incestuous desires lurking in the recesses of their minds; then again, normal people also wouldn't be staring longingly at their brothers and the way they carry on with their partners, yearning to be touched in the same gentle, intimate way.
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My sister-in-law is pregnant with her third child and I feel sick.​

I'm happy for her and my brother. Really I am. But it's just so painful. I feel like cracking my sternum and ripping out organs.
For context I have five brothers. No sisters. I'm third youngest. And we are all over six feet tall.
And just to get this out there I DO NOT WANT TO FUCK ANY OF MY BROTHERS
I just wish I wasn't one of them. To our parents we will always be "the boys".
I wish I could be like the girls they bring home. The third oldest's girlfriend stays for a weekend sometimes. She's the cutest little waisian girl. Five foot if that and when I come home I see her tiny fucking shoes by the door. I place mine next to it and a small piece of me dies. This cartoonish difference will forever mark me.
I see the way my older brothers hold their partners. Their broad bodies instinctively protecting. The hands on lower backs, the tip toe kisses, the normalcy...
And what do I have. No one. No one to make me feel small and safe. And even if I did. I'm not like these real girls.
Im not small and cute, I can't give a man children, I'm a beast. A fucking refrigerator of unkept promises and male bones.
Why fucking bother?
My two nieces are adorable and starting to reach the age where their personalies are forming. The older one is a little terror with her dad wrapped around her finger. I love seeing them.
But it's bittersweet. They will never call me Auntie. I will never be able to bring a life as precious as them into this world. I will never be able to give my child all the love they deserve...
I think I'll just put a simple "Congratulations " in the family group chat.

A "stealth" FTM (i.e., a deceptive woman) is left quivering like a hairless cat without a sweater when a coworker who she considers "book-smart, wit-smart and high in openness" states that they think transgenderism is retarded, yet nobody around her - not even OP herself - dares to raise more than a squeak in defense of troonacy. Long after her would-be altercation, our heroine is still left reeling, feeling "unloved" and "unlovable": "They don't see the beauty of someone being lifeless, to someone finally having light in their eyes now that their body is aligning," she writes sadly, as if the same cannot be said of the honeymoon stages of those lovebombed early on by cultists.
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It happened.​

I read about a lot of us having to deal with situations like this, and it finally happened to me. Up until this point, I hadn't really faced anyone IRL that had any strong outward opinions on trans people, but here we are. (I'm in a conservative area, too.)
I was at work, there's a new coworker on our shift, and we were all talking. The general discussion was about acceptance and different walks of life. One person was talking about their son who is a drag queen, another was talking about how their son might be gay and it's fine with them.
Then, it took a turn.
The one who said they're fine with their potentially gay son, then piped up and said, "you know, most things I can understand, but for the life of me, I cannot understand this trans thing."
And went on a whole spiel about it. Voice sounding almost a little rageful in tone. It makes no sense. This person I was getting to know, who is quite book-smart, wit-smart, and high in openness, just cannot grasp such a simple concept... And it all sounded so ignorant and uniformed. Some of the gist was, "you cannot tell me you're a man into a woman or a woman into a man, because you can't biologically change like that. Like, trans men, you cannot tell me you'll ever have the same capabilities as a biological male. Let's look at your DNA and then see if you're a man or woman. You wouldn't be as strong as them. And this pronoun shit, I don't get it." Just language like that. And I just sat there, wracking my brain on what to say, and I couldn't say anything. It just went on.
Two other coworkers (who know I'm trans) (otherwise I try to be stealth, they've known me for over a decade) were also very quiet. They glanced at me, I glanced at them. I could tell they didn't know what to say. My one coworker piped up and said, "It's not my place to say how someone lives their lives. You know, that's their life. I was always taught to accept everyone, even if I don't understand it." (This is the one with the cool drag queen son.) And my other coworker told me later she almost got rude, but ended up not saying too much. They both later talked to me and was like, "Well, that was, something." And I was like, yeah. Thanks for not outing me, blah blah.
It was pretty jarring. I was shaking for a little while after that. My heart physically hurt. Just to have to sit there. Right in front of me.
I have been trying not to internalise it, but I can't help but feel doubtful and inadequate. Unloved. Unlovable. Like, I just wish I could scream about cross-hormones, and that male and female bodies aren't all that different, that we are born like this, and that anyways, we're not crazy people trying to infiltrate spaces, and that we are painfully aware of the differences. It's why we can want to off ourselves sometimes. (Or because of nonacceptance.) I mean, damn. All the time, money, and energy it takes... They don't see the beauty of someone being lifeless, to someone finally having light in their eyes now that their body is aligning. I don't know. I'm still shaken.

Though a woman attempted valiantly to exorcise her husband of the transgender demon that once possessed him, dark tendrils remained dormant deep inside and now threaten to ensnare him once and for all even though she's literally told the dumb motherfucker that she will take the kids and rob him blind if he goes forth with transition. And what is this idiot doing? You guessed it: he's transitioning anyway! I don't know about the rest of you, but I think I'd rather be fatherless than have a TiM dad any day of the week.
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Threats from wife​

I came out to my wife a while ago, and she put me back in the closet by threatening divorce, custody and safety. I have not mentioned anything since, however I can’t hide any more, what should I do? Do I just disappear? What did y’all do?

Though she isn't even a quarter of a century old, a TiF is already losing hair at a rapid rate which is a knee to the groin of her ego as she feels entitled to grow old with "a full head of salt and pepper." There are many real boys that lose hair that early on, dood! Shouldn't you find it sooper validating to be a cueball well before your time?
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Shouldn't be balding, found out today I am and it's actually pretty bad?​

I take after my dad so hard it's not even funny. I've been salty I'm the shortest for a while now, was supposed to have a 6 inch or so growth spurt in 11th grade that simply never came. I'm pretty well a clone of him, got his hairline for sure, or at least I thought so. Cut too short today (usually a 2.5 inch guard, grabbed a 1.5) and cut off about 5, discovered I have a MASSIVE bald spot I didn't even know about (starts a bit behind my bangs and extends about a quarter of my head length). I'm 22, and I was supposed to die of old age with a full head of salt and pepper wtaf? Got a message from my doc yesterday too about my t being 300 on a Tuesday, used to be 800 on a wednesday on the same dose. Not sure whats going on, I do NOT have the head shape to be bald guys. Drop your experiences in the chat, not necessarily looking for medical advice (unless you happen to know some stuff ) idrk what I'm looking for tbh. I love my hair and this was incredibly unexpected, my beard is still patchy af and I need my body to fuckin pick one and I'm just kinda tweaking rn ️

Daddy Warbucks is withholding his purse strings unless his stupid tranny son dances precisely as a puppet should, which leaves OP conflicted because - as much as he wants to stay true to who he really is - he could also use some of that sweet, sweet moolah to secure himself a house in these precarious times. For once, commenters get to the point in a way I find refreshing compared to their usual method of meandering, with one asking quite bluntly: "So he's trying to buy you out of using your chosen name for years. What's your integrity worth to you?"
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Transphobic parent is saying I have to use deadname for paperwork or be cut out of the will​

Hi all, hoping for some advice from the people here. My sperm donor is fairly well off financially and just sent me this big text saying he wants to give me $ but I have to use deadname for everything or he won't give it to me + be cut out of the will. I transitioned over 5 years ago and have legally changed all. I feel like I could do it but it feels like I'd be seeing myself out which feels disgusting.
Can I get some thoughts from others? The idea of taking the money and putting up for it for a short while has crossed my mind, but that just makes me feel gross, both like I'm robbing him and betraying myself, but I'm trying to buy a home later this year and could really use the $.
So I'm caught between a rock and a hard place for the time being. Can I ask the thoughts of the folks here?

A lesbian tragedy unfolds as a pooner pursues testosterone at the encouragement of her girlfriend who finds that this monkey's paw is getting hairier and hairier the further it turns inward, which threatens the entire relationship as she is unsure she'll find OP attractive the more she masculinizes. Trapped together for several more months on their lease, OP is now wondering what the future may hold for them as every time she raises the question of looking more dudely, her girlfriend seems evasive about admitting that her buster is losing her luster.
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Gf of 3.5 yrs says she’s not attracted to me after t​

Before I started t, before I had even cut my hair, my (24) gf (27) said she would support me if I ever transitioned. It was random, she just said it one day. That was years ago, when we first got together in 2022, and since then had made supportive comments here and there when I was still figuring things out and too scared to admit I wanted to start t. I’ve always been more masc and she knew I was nonbinary when we met (they them pronouns at the time though my hair was long and I was in a hyper femme repression phase). She knew I wasn’t a girl. She knew I was always questioning. She’s also said multiple times she is bi. And now she says it’s all new to her and she doesn’t know if she’s really attracted to men or me as I change. Now I’m just left reeling and wondering if we should just break up.
Important info. We have been rocky for a long time.
Shes been pulling away for a while because she had expressed wanting to leave our state and start fresh somewhere new. We both have a lot of bad memories here, I want to leave to- but it’s not financially in the cards rn even pooling our money. We talked about it and decided to stay where we were at least another year to save. But we haven’t saved at all in 6 months bc of multiple huge financial hits. We talked about it and expressed how we felt disconnected and I told her I felt her push me away, and it hurt. She just said she didn’t know if she loved me romantically anymore. She also said she didn’t want to break up.. it’s been weird.
We moved past it I thought, when we tried a bunch of strategies my therapist gave me like going on more dates and actively improving our quality time. Our sex life got better. But now it’s stopping again. She won’t let me touch her most of the time. Now that I’m on t (4 months) we mostly do it with just me receiving and I feel like she’s just trying to keep me satisfied like it’s a chore. I asked her and she said know, but I haven’t touched her in months. I ask her periodically and she just changes the subject or brings up work making her tired, she’s bloated, she’s not ever in the mood.
Some days we have the best time together and we are romantic, I feel so close to her. But now it feels like she’s hiding herself from me. Then she told me tonight she isn’t sure if she likes men. I was like, “what about me? Are you not attracted to me? I will eventually look like a man.” And she couldn’t give me a straight answer. She kept saying “I love you, you’re so sexy!” And I just said “for now?” And she got quiet. I obviously was upset and started to shut down. The love of my life said she doesn’t know if she loves me like that anymore, what else could I do?
I told her to get out basically. I’m alone in my room spiraling right now. All the time we talk about this, about my transition, and I ask her “how do you feel about that?” And each time it’s been nothing but positive. I just feel blindsided. She told me that it’s all new for her and she’s not sure and asked me not to guilt her as I cried.
I don’t know what to do. I love her. We have 4 months left on our lease. Do I trust the process and keep working on it or just let her go and hope she comes back? Or just let her go period. She has insisted she didn’t want to break up every time we have this talk.
I’ve never been happier in my life than on t and now it’s just overshadowed by the fear I’m actively killing my relationship.
TLDR
Gf doesn’t know if she will be attracted to me later on in my transition, but says she doesn’t want to break up.

A HSTS with dreams of finding his prince discovers that fairytales don't come true for little amphibians like him as the guy he's been seeing for a while confesses to finding OP's transgender qualities the height of sexiness, which hurts OP's feelings because he convinced himself that he was more than just a fucking joke of a bloke. One day, hopes OP, he will be able to get his dick turned into medical waste and then it'll be his turn to deceptively rape men until he stumbles upon one that won't strangle him for being a dishonest rapist, but until then he's headed back to the ocean to find other fish in the sea.
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A rant on my experience dating my boyfriend​

I need to get my feelings out on a conversation I had with my boyfriend last night. I’ll separate out the background from the actual story I want to talk about.
For reference, I’ve been on HRT for 2 years, been out for 4 in total, to pretty much list off my experience and the amount of time doing this.
Last year, I separated from my wife and she moved on almost immediately with another guy when she moved out. This post isn’t about her. I’m happy for her and I openly encouraged her to be with him because he seems like a legitimately nice guy that treats her well.
However, that left me in a moment where I also felt I needed to go date someone else. For me, it was a sense of also just wanting to move on from this whole marriage like she did, but, also, because I committed myself to finally allowing myself to live, so I wanted to be with another man to finally experiment and see what I actually like about them since I never had a chance in my youth to date like this.
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So I find this guy I like on Bumble. He’s been, more or less, a sweetheart this entire time. Ive grown to like him (not love, just like) more as we’ve been dating. At most, it’s been frustrating sexually because Im just now finally regaining my lost libido back, but it’s a slow process that I have to relearn little by little, and he *really* likes and wants to have sex. Also, frustratingly, the only way he can enter is through anal, and I just can’t with it. It hurts sooooo fucking much, so I’ve resigned myself to just giving him head (which I enjoy the experience of, but in a “Wow, this is kind of gender euphoric to please my man like this” type of way, and not in a sexual way) to give him relief when he wants it.
So last night I think to myself “You know what? I think I should be a better partner and see what types of kinks he could have so I can find ways to better please him during sex.” and I ask him to tell me just that. He tells me “Well, I don’t really have any. How about you?” and I’m like, well, I don’t really know anymore what I’m into since I transitioned. I give him the safe option with people I trust to have this conversation with, but don’t want to really disclose the things I’m currently into, and I tell him, before I used to be into stuff like forcefemme, but that’s not really something I can get turned on by anymore since I took the decision myself to transition, and now that’s just my daily experience.”
He almost immediately answers back when I finish “I find it really fucking hot that you’re trans”, and in my head, I immediately just groaned to myself realizing that I was just this guy’s fetish after all. He’d been so good about treating me like a normal woman that I didn’t think he thought about me like that, but that’s explains why he also constantly pushes to have anal with me when i try to have sex with him even though I give him the millionth no. I mean, he pretty much started making out with me immediately afterwards and then asked if he could have anal again.
You know, the thing is, I expected I’d hook up with someone like this when I started dating around. If he slid into my DM’s and was upfront, or had told me earlier in our relationship, I would’ve passed and been okay with it, but after, like, half a year at this point, I just hate myself so much for letting myself become comfortable and think “Wow, I was one of the lucky ones. I’m so fortunate to be with a man who sees me as a woman and treats me like a woman. It makes me so proud of myself for working on myself enough where I can finally be pretty enough for a guy like any cis woman could”
I don’t know why I bothered getting my hopes up over some guy I met on a dating site. I feel so dumb in retrospect. No amount of learning how to style my hair, spending money on nice clothes that fit my personality well, working out constantly and trying to maintain the thin physique I’ve sculpted for myself, taking HRT medications, learning how to act like a woman, learning how to talk and sound like a woman, lasering my fucking beard off, etc. would ever have been enough to finally just not only pass, but be *pretty*.
All I’ve gotten out of this is that I can really never truly become more than someone’s fetish until the day comes where I sculpt out a fucking vagina for myself so I can stop disclosing to people that I’m trans (which I do less because I want to, but because I don’t want to be fucking killed when they’re surprised that pretty old me has a dick down there). I’ve learned that I can work 10 times as hard as your next cis woman to try and achieve and even surpass how they appear, and it still won’t ever be enough.
I just feel so fucking *stupid*, Jesus Christ. I’m not even sad, or heartbroken, or whatever with him. I’m just disappointed in myself for ever letting me put my fucking hopes up. Later this year, I’m finally going to have FFS, BA, and bottom surgery, and if he’s this turned on with the idea that I’m trans, I wonder what he’ll feel when I finally get rid of the few traces of myself that distinguish me from a beautiful cis woman.

Spoiler: Is this the "pretty old me" in question, OP?

A gayden (i.e., a heterosexual female), despite her attempts to squash out dissenting voices in her head, still hears the echo of truth ringing between her ears: she does not have the body of a man, she is not in a gay relationship, and the idiot shtupping her is not a true and honest homosexual. Naturally, of course, she wants to know how to deafen the echo once and for all, but little does she realize that there are some noises that will sound forevermore...
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How to stop feeling so fake​

How do I stop feeling like I'm an intruder in gay male spaces and that my relationship is actually gay? Because it's killing me mentally. I don't have the body of a man. That makes me feel like it's just impossible for me and my partner to be truly gay. Intimacy isnt actually gay. It sucks. I hate this. I want it to be real

Finally, a tranny college student realizes that the only way he can get support is if he paves the way for others with glitter and gold, as even his "adoptive mom" (who he claims is transgender as well) refuses to stick around for more than a couple weeks once he gets his dong turned into dust. I feel like OP isn't telling us something if this many of his otherwise supportive relatives resist providing any tangible assistance to him, but there's also the fact of the matter that most people can't just drop everything to play caregiver to one who willfully plays with fire and winds up in the burn unit as a result. Sucks for you, OP!
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Just venting about my upcoming gender-affirming surgery and lack of family support​

Hey y’all, I’m a 21-year-old trans woman and I’m starting the process of getting my gender-affirming surgeries. I’m honestly just venting here — I’m not really looking for advice or personal stories. I just need to get this off my chest because it’s been a lot lately.
My family isn’t really planning on being there for me during surgery in a way that feels supportive. My mom told me I could pay for her plane ticket if I want her there, even though she has the money to cover it herself. My brother had enough money to buy his girlfriend a plane ticket so she could move in with him, but he won’t buy a ticket to come be with me for my surgery. He said he’d come if I paid for his plane ticket, which just made me feel awful. It feels like I’m expected to shoulder the emotional and financial burden of having support during a major surgery, and that hurts more than I expected.
My bio mom is also flying out of state to see my younger sibling, but she won’t come down to see me for my surgery — even though I’m only one state away and this surgery is months from now. It’s hard not to notice the pattern: people in my life are willing to travel and spend money for others, but when it comes to me, I’m told to pay for their ticket or that they “can’t make it.” It makes me feel like I’m not a priority.
My adoptive mom (who is also a trans woman but hasn’t had surgery yet) said she could stay with me for about two weeks after surgery. I appreciate that she’s willing to be there at all, but realistically the healing process for bottom surgery is longer than two weeks. On top of that, I’m also expected to pay for her plane ticket even though she’ll only be there for that short amount of time. I tried to talk to her about staying longer, but she isn’t able to. So after those two weeks, I’ll basically be on my own while recovering from a very invasive surgery, and that’s honestly really scary.
She’s also made comments about my body that really hurt. I gained about 10 pounds since starting HRT and mentioned wanting to get back into athletic shape because being active is important to me and helps my mental health. She brushed it off and told me 10 pounds is nothing, that “all women have curves,” and that I should just get over it. When I said I missed being in athletic shape, she asked if I was “training for a track meet” and implied that wanting to be fit was unrealistic. I know she might have meant to normalize bodies, but it made me feel stupid and ashamed for wanting to feel strong and healthy again. It also made me feel weirdly invalid as a trans woman — like I wasn’t “doing femininity right” just because I want to be athletic.
On top of all of this, I realized I’ll probably have to move to the Minneapolis area because all of my surgery, pre-op, post-op, and electrolysis appointments are there, and I currently live in the St. Cloud area. Traveling back and forth constantly isn’t realistic for me financially or physically. When I brought this up, it turned into huge fights with my mom and my adoptive mom, and suddenly everyone has strong opinions about what I “should” do with my body and my life. My mom even started pushing disability on me, which turned into another argument.
My father isn’t supportive either. He cut me out of his life completely about a year ago, so he won’t be there for my surgery at all. My stepmother, who helped raise me, also won’t be there. So between my parents and family, I’m pretty much on my own for something that’s really big and really scary.
On top of everything else, I’m starting college back up again, and it just feels like all of this is happening at once — surgery planning, moving, money stress, school, and family conflict. I know this probably sounds like I’m just complaining, but I’ve had so many heavy “adult” arguments about my body, my transition, surgery, money, and independence that I feel emotionally exhausted.
Again, I’m just venting. I’m not really looking for advice or stories — I just needed somewhere to put all of this because it’s been sitting heavy on me. Thanks for reading.