Yes. The reason she lied is because she is addicted to pornography, like Tom and all of the other zoomers involved. They have all been raised on the Internet since they were single-digit years old, AKA been raised on violent pornography. Her porn-addict brain tells her that kink is okay, BDSM is okay, anything that you consent to is okay. The reality is that committing violence during sex is NEVER okay, but she fundamentally does not understand that, so she needs to retcon her consent to make it rape (subconsciously or because she isn't horny anymore, she realizes she didn't like what happened to her). It wasn't rape, but it also wasn't okay. Tom isn't denying that he hurt her, his argument is that "she wanted it", which if true means he's admitting to being violent during sex. Being a lifelong porn-addict, he also doesn't understand what he did was wrong- regardless of whether she consented. It doesn't matter if she's begging for it, doesn't matter if you're hesitant or doing it for her pleasure and not yours- hurting your sexual partner is never moral. I wish they'd all go cold-turkey on the porn forever because it is possible to rewire your brain to be aroused by normal things.
The average young male is gooning to rape-on-tape daily from the onset of puberty. Young women are increasingly mentally ill and as a result are seeking out males to victimize them, trooning out to escape being victimized, and losing their sense of self in a world dominated by porn. Everything is becoming sexualized. Everything is going to get worse.