Something I think is relevant that I haven't seen
, but jesus christ it's impossible to keep up with this thread, is that the whole "he cheated on me at vidcon" shit is also maybe a red herring.
Their second(?) date appears to have been May 15, 2025. Note that Vidcon 2025 was held a month later, June 19 – 21, 2025.
And it's not clear how "serious" they were. With TT flying to Texas to see her (I guess he was living in Maine?). A long distance arrangement.
And this is the type of text convo they're having around the time of Vidcon, with the Turkey being pretty damn blase about her -- meanwhile it's the first thing she sends in the AM:
And in the past, when asked (by Katie), Turkey has plainly demurred on the "this is for fun" versus "this is a serious relationship":
I think the young-millennial/zoomer approach of slamming the dating apps and not being "exclusive" until some later date each party may-or-may-not-be expected to agree-on is fucking stupid and degenerate, but also it is legion now. I'm glad I missed that phase. But it also wouldn't be wildly surprising to me if there was a mismatch of expectations/understanding of their relationship status during Vidcon. This isn't to say Tom isn't a degenerate (he is, and deserves purgatory for sticking his dick in BPD), but it is meant to push slightly back against the "all of this is justified because he cheated on me" angle -- which includes the efforts of Sacramento doxxing people related to Vidcon.
My suspicion is Sacramento chose not to ask about exclusivity because she expected he would say no since they were long distance -- and he probably would have based on how he responded to Katie. So Vidcon happening a *month* after they first met is not that far from when they first met (but not when she first messaged him on instagram over a year prior lol).